There is nothing you can do. Some families are just that way and you must accept it.

Join the family. Marry him.

Tell your boyfriend you'd like to spend time with he AND his family...that you'd like to get to know them better.

its quite common....sweety... every responsible guy feels that familty comes first then everone else... i feel insead of complaining you shud be with him...just get along with him and and make him feel that you too respect his care for his family..... i feel then he l consider you important part of his life.. see dont compare yourself... with anyone.. family holds a differnt place..i feel just try to make a place in his life that he consider you special... and your problem of not giving you much time.. just think that more you;l be away frm each other the more youl miss each other.... and believe me whenever he meets you after a long amount of time then just talk abt yiurself make him feel secure... shower your love then complaining

You can look at this one of two different ways. He loves his family and thats a good thing. after all, his family has known him many more years than you. Some people are really attached to their family. and, an outsider may just have to wait their turn. Second thought. he could be avoiding you for a reason. maybe he wants to dump you gently. Could this be the problem??

Embed yourself with his family!

Depends on what you mean more time. I used to date a girl who was so possessive that if I wasn't with her atleast 2 hours a day she would think I didn't love her. She got upset with me when I had to go to a relative's funeral for a few days that she tore up my pictures, broke the cds I had lent her. She left a bunch of messages on my cell, first sobbing requests for me to call and go see her, to later threatening and accusing me of cheating on her. I had to break up with her in front of her brother, who introduced me to her and did warn me about her, so he could stop her from attacking me.

Sometimes it's not all about you. I don't know your situation, how old you are, how long you've been dating, etc. All these come into play in a suggestion on what you should do.

Only three choices. Join Him Get used to it. Drop him. You have to choose which you like best.

Hey if he wants to spend time with his family let him. I was with my ex-boyfriend for 9 1/2 yrs and out of the 9 1/2 yrs my family stopped talking to me for 4 yrs. Family is very important, you may not be together forver but family is forever, I found that out the hard way!

Well...it's his family. You really can't win that battle. Join him!

There is nothing wrong with him choosing to spend more time with his family than you unless you two are married. However, you said he is only your boyfriend. Therefore, you should get over it. Why don't you ask him if you can meet his parents so you can get to know them and they can get to know you?

Find another one, who hates his family.

You must tell him that it bothers you. Be reasonable, of course, and accept that he must spend some time with his family. But let him know that you feel left out and you wish he'd go out on more dates with you. It may take a little while for him to understand how you feel and agree to spend more time together. One way you can encourage him to do that is by enjoying yourself when he's off with his family. Take up a new activity or hang out with friends. Once he finds out you're having so much fun without him, he might think, "Hey, I wish she'd enjoy being with me as much as she likes to swim/cycle/paint/whatever" and decide to hang out with you more. What you should not do is tag along with him all the time when he goes to visit his family. Go occasionally (once or twice a month at the most). If you go along with him too often, then it'll look as if you live only for him and don't have any plans of your own. Then he will start to take you for granted, and he'll chose to drag you to Mom and Dad's rather than taking you out on a nice private date together. If he continues to spend more time with you than with his family, then this may be a red flag. Of course you aren't a wife yet, so you can't expect him to treat you as one, but as the relationship grows, he should gradually begin to spend more time with you and less time with Mummy and Daddy. People should want to spend time with their families, but if he'd rather spend time with the old folks than with you, his hot girlfriend, that's a problem. He may be a momma's boy.

not much you can do family is very important but maybe ask to come along... to me if i am in a relationship i dont want one with just him but to build one with his family as well but if he NEVER takes you out just suggest it i started to do that and he listend and now we hang out a lot more

Have you considered felatio

At least he's into his family. Let him.

Look at it this way, at least he is with his family and not at a strip club

Recognize that he has his priorities straight.

well i come from a family like that and tell you one thing get to know the family a little bit at least for you 2 are not committed yet i.e. engagement or married that way at least you know what his family is like and you can have a reason for not visiting in-laws if you ever get to a committed relationship, after you know the family let him know that you would appreciate more time from him and as a couple not with his family but just you and him. most times even after commited relationship he will still want to keep in touch let him but dont let it get out of control because at that point you are his family.

Start spending more time with your family, and see how he likes it.

Maybe you should take a page from his book and start spending quality time with your own family, especially since this seems to be a major concern of yours. Then you will see that fmily is everthing and no one can ever replace them.