SHORT ANSWER: Are you sure that you want a shot? I wouldn't! One way or another you may indeed be setting yourself up for heartbreak. LONG ANSWER: BE PREPARED TO CONVERT OR BE PRESSURED TO CONVERT . . . If he's devout he's going to want you to convert to Mormonism and be devout (for at least a year) so you can get a Temple Recommend and be "Sealed" for "Time and Eternity" in the LDS Temple: "Let us consider hypothetically that you plan to marry. To many the wedding day of a couple is one of the most beautiful experiences of life. Since it is the goal of every faithful Mormon to be married in a Mormon temple, it is naturally imperative that both be LDS. Unlike civil marriages or marriages performed in a church, temple marriages are believed to last beyond the grave. Mormons refer to this as being "married for time and eternity." Without this special ceremony, Mormons believe the marriage will only last "for time," meaning they will not be together as a family unit in heaven. Since only Mormons who are considered to be in good standing can enter a Mormon temple, family members who are not LDS are not allowed to witness the ceremony." http://www.mrm.org/topics/marriage-family/being-unequally-yoked-a-latter-day-saint . . . AND IF HE DOESN'T PRESSURE YOU HIS FAMILY PROBABLY WILL: "...Mormon means confronting a close-knit social fabric. If your Mormon acquaintance is a part of a strong Mormon family, you can be sure you will be pressured from them to join the LDS Church. Bear in mind that Mormons believe their church is the only true Christian church on earth. Strong Mormons have no intention of leaving Mormonism, nor do they desire to see one of their family members leave the system. Since Mormonism teaches that families can be together in eternity, your relationship is a threat to that hope since only members in good standing can acquire such an eternal state. They will do everything possible to either get you to join them, or get their family member away from you." http://www.mrm.org/topics/marriage-family/being-unequally-yoked-a-latter-day-saint ARE YOU PREPARED FOR THE RIGORS OF BEING AN LDS WOMAN? And the studies indicate that rigors of a life as an LDS woman are a burden to some. And a misery to others. Please consider this "enlightening" quote from former LDS President Gordon B. Hinckley addressing Single LDS men marrying women who are better educated than they are: "I call your attention to another matter that gives me great concern. …young women are exceeding young men in pursuing educational programs. And so I say to you young men, rise up and discipline yourself to take advantage of educational opportunities. Do you wish to marry a girl whose education has been far superior to your own? We speak of being “unequally yoked.” That applies, I think, to the matter of education. (”Rise Up, O Men of God,” Ensign, November 2006, 60) http://blog.mrm.org/2007/01/prophet-counsels-against-being-unequally-yoked/ {OH the horrors! Smart, well educated, independent thinking women - we can't have THAT! I say with a snarky tone and my tongue firmly in the side of my cheek} Perhaps it's arcane attitudes like that that led to the studies that show that LDS women take more anti-depressants than their "Gentile" counterparts. Mormon Researcher Becky Walker put it this way: "What do Mormon women and Prozac have in common? Quite a bit, because research has shown that "Utah residents currently use more antidepressant drugs, notably Prozac, than the residents of any other US state.""Utah residents currently use more antidepressant drugs, notably Prozac, than the residents of any other US state."[1] Since over 70% of Utahans are members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, there is an obvious link between Mormonism and depression. According to this same research, the problem is more noticeable among women than men. This data can be shocking if all someone knows about the LDS church is what is seen on the TV commercials. These families seem so happy and the husband and wife seem to have such a great marriage. Why this apparent contradiction?" http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=74636&catid=526 She then cites a watershed White Paper that was written on this topic a few years ago entitled, 'Mormon Women, Prozac and Therapy' by Dr. Kent Ponder. You can read it here: http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=74625&catid=526 Dr. Ponder, who did the research and wrote the above article, starts it like this: "From insights gained during and after my doctoral study of the psychology of cognitive-dissonance conflict, I have for many years become increasingly concerned about the profound mental torment of numerous innocent Mormon women, especially because the tormented are so often among Mormonism's "best and brightest" with regard to: (a) intelligence, (b) education, (c) propensity for clear rationality, (d) sense of factual conscientiousness." "... mental torment of numerous innocent Mormon women ..." And, oh by the way, Dr. Ponder is a faithful, practicing LDS man! DOUBT ME? HERE IT IS STRAIGHT FROM A FAITHFUL LDS SOURCE: And please consider THIS quote from BYU professor Stephen Robinson: "A number of years ago our family lived in Williamsport, Pennsylvania. Things were pretty good there. .. Janet had a particularly exciting year that year. Besides being Relief Society president, she graduated from college for the second time (in accounting), she passed the CPA exam and took a job with a local firm, and she gave birth to our fourth child (Michael)-- all in her spare time, of course. Actually, Janet was under a lot of pressure that year, but like many husbands, I didn't notice or appreciate how much pressure she was under until something blew. And blow it did. One day the lights just went out. It was as though Janet had died to spiritual things; she had burned out? One of the worst aspects of this sudden change was that Janet wouldn't talk about it; she wouldn't tell me what was wrong. Finally, after almost two weeks, I made her mad with my nagging one night as we lay in bed, and she said, "All right. Do you want to know what's wrong? I'll tell you what's wrong -- I can't do it anymore. I can't lift it. My load is just too heavy. I can't do all the things I'm supposed to. I can't get up at 5:30, and bake bread, and sew clothes, and help the kids with their homework, and do my own homework, and make their lunches, and do the housework, and do my Relief Society stuff, and have scripture study, and do my genealogy, and write my congressman, and go to PTA meetings, and get our year's supply organized, and go to my stake meetings, and write the missionaries . . . " She just started naming, one after the other, all the things she couldn't do or couldn't do perfectly -- all the individual bricks that had been laid on her back in the name of perfection until they had crushed the light out of her? "I'm just not perfect! I'm never going to be perfect, and I just can't pretend anymore that I am. I've finally admitted to myself that I can't make it to the celestial kingdom, so why should I break my back trying?" (Stephen E. Robinson's book "Believing Christ" p. 14-16) ARE YOU PREPARED TO SUBJECT YOUR CHILD TO THE RIGORS OF MORMONISM? "Should you marry a Mormon, you will need to consider how your children will be raised. Children play a big role in Mormon theology as Mormons believe every human being is a literal offspring of God and one of his heavenly wives. Unless your spouse has renounced Joseph Smith and Mormonism, there will be a naturally strong desire to raise the children in an LDS environment. Brigham Young taught, "I have told you many times that there are multitudes of pure and holy spirits waiting to take tabernacles, now what is our duty? "To prepare tabernacles for them; to take a course that will not tend to drive those spirits into the families of the wicked, where they will be trained in wickedness, debauchery, and every species of crime" (Journal of Discourses 4:56). http://www.mrm.org/topics/marriage-family/being-unequally-yoked-a-latter-day-saint ARE YOU PREPARED FOR ALL THIS? Are SURE that this what you REALLY want? I would prayerfully consider ALL the above before you go much further with this gentleman. And here's a link to a portal page with more to consider on this point, including Becky Walker's superb Audio Presentation, "The LDS Woman". http://www.concernedchristians.com/index.php?option=com_fireboard&Itemid=42&func=view&id=74636&catid=526 And I would also recommend that you buy a copy of Deborah Laake's autobiography, "Secret Ceremonies" and read it before you go much furhter - I think that you'll find it quite enlightening. http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Ceremonies-Deborah-Laake/dp/0440217806/ref=sr_1_6?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1238187214&sr=8-6 {EVEN SHORTER, SNARKIER ANSWER: Steal a page from Monty Python and, "Run away! Run away! Run away!"}

mixed reliogions in marriage is discouraged in the Bible...u are non though and thats okay as long as the non does not try to turn the other against God, then he has reason to put her away..in God's eyes....the child is God's concern..will u give him a chance to have a relationship with God... but i don't know their practices, but dating a divorced person ,is something i would think his religion would not allow.... beside the point, think about the child's shot, not urs!!! she should be ur first priority, u brought her into such...:)justme

Wow, I wish I was 1/10th informed as you are. Once again your heart and knowledge is shinning through. PS hope she listens.

Run baby Run!!! There are plenty of fish in the pond, why bother with a Catfish eating the waste from the Josasmith river, when you can have Salmon out of the Christal clear living waters of Lake Paradise.

Are you non-religious in the sence of no religious beliefs or in the sence of not currently active? If you believe in the Bible, you may want to think it through. The admonition from the Bible is to marry only in the Lord. (1Cor 7:39; 2Cor 6:14) The heart can make you do things that you may later regret, but God knows better than we. (Jer 7:19; Pr 3:5-7) The God of the Bible is not partial, rather black, white, brown, or what ever color, race, or nationality. (Acts 10:34) On the other hand, if you are okay with the Book of Morman overwriting the Bible, only using the King James Version as far as it is translated correctly, then go ahead. Alot of Mormans are decent people. But if you believe the Bible to be the word of God, you might want to think about it or your conscience may bother you bringing up your child not believing the Bible. He would probably want you and the child to be Mormans. http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1Cor7:39;2Cor6:14;Jer7:19;Pro3:5-7;Acts10:34;&version=49;9;51;16;77;

DONT DO IT!!!1 RUN FAR FAR FAR AWAY!!!!!! i am only saying this out of experience. i was fortunate not to have a child to have to consider when i decided to get involved with a very mormon guy. we dated for a year and half, knew each other 4 years prior, and i was in love with this man. so in love that even against everything i believe in and have believed in all my life, i was considering converting. i went to church services, talked to his family, talked to his bishop, everything. i would have done anything for that man. but the further i got in the more and more i began to question myself, my answer always being that i loved him, and the only way i could marry him was to become a mormon and do as he wish and get married in the mormon temple (conveniently located in our hometown). and then one day i was praying to God to help me figure out what i needed to do. and i just realized that all this mormon crap was just that... CRAP! they are crazy. you will be miserable. take it from a girl who knows. he may seem like a great guy on the surface and he may treat you nicely and like your kid but think about your baby. think about all the crap youll have to go thru just to be with this man. whether you are religious or not, do your research. Mister_IT knows more than any person i have met, that isnt a mormon, about the mormon religion so i would listen to what he has to say. the mormons on this sight will help fill you in on some of the things you may not understand but like i said do your research. i did research for a very long time before i decided it wasnt for me. i personally like my own religion and have found some one who is also the same religion as me and ive never been happier. DO YOUR RESEARCH!

MORMON GUYS ARE THE BEST! I was a non-member wife for 8 years! I got a little gruff when we were dating but once we were married we were fine. I did find out in some wards if I went to church with them, I would blend in and not let them know I wasn't a member because some people are "over excited" about non members, to put it lightly. I wouldn't lie though of course. I say this because i don't understand all the negativity you are recieving here. BECAUSE OF THEIR STANDARDS AND STRICT BELIEFS, HE WILL MOST LIKELY BE AN EXCELLENT COMPANION AND FATHER FIGURE. If you really like him, you have every shot in the world!!!! Go for it! And anything religious that seems wierd, approach with prayer and respectful answer seeking. Mormons will only want to help you any way they can. The church even does service projects, and young women can babysit to learn how to be mothers when they are ready. They may be overbearing sometimes, but not all of them will be that way. Find someone you are comfortable with when you have questions. He should never do anything to hurt you. I know if hubby ever hurt me or my family, I wouldn't have to do anything vengeful because the church would go after him probably before I would.