you buy shopping or pay sum rent

3 ways in my opinion. CAN I just WARN you that living with you boyfriends mom IS NOT a good idea!? From personal experience, BE VERY CAREFUL what you say and do. Mothers are your worst critic... she will find any little thing to complain about, I had THE WORST experience living with my ex and his mom. We were together at the time but MY GOODNESS!! It has horrible, she would talk bad about me behind my back calling me names. I cought her one time... She wanted me to practically make her son my number one priority and I had to do EVERYTHING for him!!! I can go on and on but just be careful even if you have a good relationship with her! I am one to cater to my lover but she wanted me to go over the top... I worked while he stayed home and made a mess of the house. I tried getting him to get a job BUT the mother insisted that he doesn't have to do anything he doesn't want to SO I supported him COMPLETELY and waited on him hand and foot. I'M so glad I moved out and on with my life. Just walk on eggs... TRUST ME! Moms will be moms and get into your arguements if you aren't careful... It gets UGLY sometimes. Thats just my experience, I'm not saying thats how yours will be but just be cautious... PLEASE!

Equally?

Slowly. Before you want to split

Mothers-in-law are such a nightmare when you aren't living with them. (even the ones with the best intentions) If you HAVE to because of money, be sure to set down really firm ground rules before you move in. I think that should be your question... "I have no choice but to move in with my boyfriend and his mother. What are some ground rules I should insist on before moving in?"

Equally! To avoid any problems of entitlement with anything, it's very important that the cost are split equally between you, the mother and your boyfriend. As for food, that's a more individual choice in which peoople can cooperate differently, but for rent and utilities should be equal to avoid as many headaches as possible.

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I agree three ways

3 ways. I hope you are confident that this will work.

LOL. This isn't going to happened. When a girls moves in, we all know she wants to move in for free. Duh! . I will tell you whats going to happened. She'll pay her part for the 1st 6months. Then she'll start asking questions like, why? I'm a girl. I shouldn't have to pay for this. . She'll try to talk her BF into paying her part. If not, she'll suddenly lose her job.

Equally...but watch the mother, remember that is her baby boy.

i m advising against it from personal experience, it ll only put you in a very vunerable position. my own story, i fell in love and moved in, its horrible, not soon after, his mom calls me all kinds of names, always has something means to say whenever she sees me, makes me do her dirty dishes every evening and afternoon, makes me sweep and mop the floor every morning, only to ridicule me o'h who cleaned the floor? the dog, ha, no!', i m not allowed to use the kitchen so she made me pay for her rip-off meal, i m not allowed to use the washing machine so she ruined my half of my clothes only to tell me i should laugh about it, made me do the ironing, and to shop fo hte groceries on 'her' list, when i eat, she goes, no, i m saving this, then gave it to the dog, when i buy my own food after paying her to arrange mine(which she only used my money to buy her own things and made me carry her grocery), oh? it disappeared, then shed confessed, i gave it to the dog, i told the dog, of course you d understand! then if i go just to get me a glass of water whilst shes in the kitchen, she d yell 'you! you and the dog, both of you! f*ç# off to the dog house, i dont want anyone around when i m cooking.'. other times, if i voice my opinon after she asked me, things that i found odd, she d point her finger touching my nose, blowed her cigarette smoke in my face, yelling swearing..., ya, i do find it odd how she chases my b/f around the house tyring to put my hand between his legs, drying her undies overlaying those of my b/f, on the thermal right in front of the toilet seat!? and invading our room wihtout being invited, and jumping on our bed in saying 'can i play?', emmm.. other times, she d goes to my b/f whilst still very loosely wrapped in a bathtowel, saying 'look at me, touch here see how smooth...' and when my b/f refused answering'no, i m not gonna touch your buttock', she went on and insisted 'no, its just my legs', and if she sees us kissing, she d go, 'dont kiss her, look at me!' and start shaking her butt left and right. and daily she demands that my b/f take her to bed by occupaying the sofa and fringing fallen asleep, demanding my b/f to wake her, and when he does, she goes moaning and twisting in bed, or kissing my b/f on the back of his neck, while massaging his shoulder saying 'my love, give my money, my love, my love', making my b/f to walk around the house and sit down with her thighs attached in his undie! when i told her that i just find these somehow odd, without calling her any name at all, she flew off the handle! so, i do the unpaid slave, pay for the food that i dont get to eat, pay the bills(at times 100%) plus the very high heating bill that i dont use(i dont get too cold in winter apart from getting heat rashes in summer) which she let it on basically 24/7, see day to day the things she does to my b/f, hear day to day the mean things she always has to tell me, calling me, an old whore(despite that shes alot older!) a retard, etc..., when someone else says nice things to me, she creeps up and interupting 'and me? and me?' and when after the nice people left, she comes to me with hate filling her eyes, 'are you blahblahblah(nice things)? no, youre not! youre just blahblahblah(mean names)!' and to her son, she says 'go and get laid' then to me 'i m too young to be a grandma(50), if youre up the sprout, go in the hospital and get an abortion!' and when she sees my b/f head over heels with me, she says 'i hope your son treat you bad', 'you know youre too old to have babies', 'be careful, your babies born abnormal, can happen, you know!', 'youre a big piece of shit', 'youre burnt in the head', 'i run you down and throw you in water! and no one will find you!', 'get the f*** out of my door! its my home'(despite its me who pay the rent and the bills), then with a turn of her head... she went and told other 'i m the one who want peace and that retard treats me badly'. almost daily, she d also take her friend(with benefit?) to the house, and the two of them will talk so loud making sure i hear, all the mean things she fancied up about me, if i hide in the room, these two relocated themsleve to the front of my room's door, swearing, and name calling and than some more swearing. and when her 'friend' left, she came and taught me 'you know how beautiful it is to sleep with friends? i m kind and very religious, eveyone knows it, but the bible? no, just throw it away!' every morning, i greet her with goodmorning, she greets me back with 'its your fault this, its your fault that...', my maxima fault indeed, i m only preparing everything to get out now, please pray for me everyone! - a repentful girl starting to see her way of error. so, to another anonymous, if you want to go ahead, i wish you all well, but i think sharing with you my experience would perhaps gives you some references before you make your own decision, goodluck sister! and please pray for me everyone, thanks!

It should be how many people live in the house. So when there comes an issue with the mom saying to get out, she has to edvict you. Always get it in writing so it is not she said she said.

There are THREE adults ; so ALL of the bills should be split Three different ways with each one paying 1/3 ..

Most likely this is a mess looking for a place to happen...it would take three mature, responsible people to make this work.

...dont move in. If you love your boyfriend...dont move in. It will wreck your relationship....cuz the 2 dominate women in his life are gonna be both living with him...EHH...explain this to him.

I think that is a very bad idea. I'm older and personally think it's wrong to move in with someone. I'm not against roommates to split costs but if you mix in love and sex without commitment, it's just stupid. To move in with your boyfriend and his mother will probably be disastrous. I hate to see people suffer for wrong decisions. Especially decisions that were obviously wrong from the start. Listen to the majority of people that answered you question and don't do it. Please