WHY DID HE MARRY ME? If he knew he liked to control women, if he knew he was a violent man, if he knew all of that do you think he thought I was a different woman? We are separated, does he miss me? Does he blame me for his battery?
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ANSWERS: 14
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I'm sure you knew he was like that, they usually show signs quite soon into the relationship....Why did you marry him? I'm sure he misses you, because you were a rug he could walk all over. Stay away from him, they never change.
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UH? Why did he marry you? Because you agreed to marry him. A beter question would be, why did you marry him? Do I think he thought you were a different woman? Obviously, he thought you were someone he could get away with controling and being violent with. Why do you care if he misses you? Of course he blames you; that's what batterers do. File for divorce, cut your losses and move on. You sound like you are pining away over him.
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Why did you marry him? What is so important about him that you should care what he thinks, I mean if he beat your brains in and is that violent who would care about him at all? It is good that you separated from him, does he miss you sure he does he now can't bash you around!! Blame you Hon your not the one that put his hands to you your body in a violent manner, or put words in this mouth to verbally abuse you..........to hell with anyone that does that..........you are better off far far far far far away from him!
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You will never understand the mind of an abuser. Half the time they don't understand it either. One thing I'm willing to bet is that if you asked him all these questions the two of you would only argue the night away...I said that to say that for some questions there are no answers. The only things there are is the sense to do what's right, the sense to do what's best for you and the determination to be free of a life of abuse.
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You think an abuser can control anything he does? Getting married can be a method of control in itself.
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Maybe he wanted to do with you what he usually does (controlling women and be violent with them) and thought it would not be a problem to do that with you. Or he wanted to change and hoped that you could help him by doing this. As far as the other questions are concerned, I suppose only he can give the answer. I suggest that you use this time of separation to understand how it could go further for you, or for the both of you. You could also clarify some points with him. Communication is essential.
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People that abuse others are just cruel. they dont care how it makes anyone feel.. just to take anger out on someone and make themselve feel better and make that person feel worse. The worse thing to do is blame yourself. He doesnt miss you, for you. He probably miss someone to take his anger out on. DOnt ever blam yourself. And his battery was his decision by far. Im sure you didnt choose to make him come and beat you. Its all his fault and not yours!
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Your away from him the only thing he misses is beating and controlling you. Unless your into pain stay away. I can't understand why females keep going back for more. Do you
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What battery? He thinks he was justified in what he has done. There is NOTHING wrong with him! It's everyone else. If you didn't piss him off he wouldn't have hit you. If you knew when to shut up he wouldn't have had to shut you up! Does he miss you? No! He is hungry, he's looking for his next victim, someone he can conrol. Is he sorry? YES! He's sorry he married you, he thought you'd understand that a man is king and a woman is NOTHING! Stay GONE! Be glad you are out. Be glad you walked out instead of being carried out in a body bag.
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Because you said yes. No, he thought you were the woman you were and someone he could manipulate. Why would it matter if he missed you? Yes, I am sure he does.
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He thought he could control you and honestly, it sounds like he still does even though you are separated. Because if he didn't have control over you, you would not care if he misses you and you would not care if he blamed you or not. You've already taken a HUGE step by getting away from him, now its time to take the next one -- take your control back.
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omg please leave this relationship..i just got out of a abusive relationship recently.... abuser's abuse thats what they do and all abuser blame the victim that's their modus operandi. so they dont have to take the blame for doing something wrong to another human being.. becuz to them EVERYONE is wrong and only they are right.. and trust me he will find another victim and he will continue the abuse .. it's a cycle it never ends.. they always find new victims they are predators .. i know its hard for u to go through this and i know its hard for u to deal with the fact that someone u love is a abuser.. ive been there done that.. trust me ur better of without him and be glad no ones hurting u anymore .. take care the abuse cycle http://www.heart-2-heart.ca/women/page5.html
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The big question here is why do you care if he misses you? You should be glad your not with your abuser anymore. Every person is responsible for the things they do to others. And your husband is responisble for his battery of you. Please seek out counseling.
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you should be asking yourself.....if I KNEW he was abusive....WHY IN THE HELL DID I MARRY HIM. and what do you care if he blames you for his battery???? he's an adult he knows better. and missing you??? I bet he does....you were his punching bag both mentally and physically...you took that away. Move on. IT"S YOUR TIME NOW.
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