He see's you as a punching bag not a saviour he just keeping you around so he has something to hit.. if he has a anxiety disorder he should be on meds. and i am pretty sure that when you take your meds. as prescribed it does not make you violent... so 1 has nothing to do with the other ...LEAVE HIM

YOUR BOYFRIEND HAS A INFERIORITY COMPLEX AND TRY TO KEEP YOU UNDER HIS CONTROL BY ANY MEANS POSSIBLE. IF HE IS AN ADULT, HE SHOULD BE ABLE TO STAND ON HIS OWN TWO LEGS - WITH OR WITHOUT YOU. YOU HAVE TO MAKE A DECISION IF YOU WANT TO LEAD THE LIFE YOU HAVE AT PRESENT - OR MAKE A BREAK AND CUT ALL TIES. THERE'S A SAYING: A BAD MASTER ALWAYS NEEDS A SLAVE. A GOOD MASTER IS GOOD WITH OR WITHOUT SLAVES. IT IS NOT YOU (SPECIFICALLY) THAT HE NEEDS - ANY SLAVE WILL DO. YOU DECIDE.

Its simple babe...you leave. Thats it. Clearly you want his blessing to leave in order to make you feel better about doing it. It aint going to happen. Ultimately, you should be more important to you than he is, if not then something is seriously wrong. You cant get out of this and feel good about doing it, so recognise that cos it isnt about to change. If he abuses you, and you stay, what does that say about your deep routed emotional state? You know the answer to this, you just want validation, if you cant get it from him then you will try to get it from this site. Truth is, you dont need anyones approval - only yours, so give it to yourself and walk away. Its your life, not his. Stop thinking and start doing. You are not resposnible or him or the way he his. It is now the time for you to stop being a parent and start being an adult. Good luck - your life is waiting for you

Hrmmm, a few key words. Boyfriend, seeing as you are only "Dating" now you should have no reluctance to leave. That's what dating is for, to see if this person is suitable for marriage material. And from what you described, he ISN'T... Second Keywords, Physically and Emotionally abused... I believe you have a case of fear that he might hurt you again or himself if you end it. That's totally unhealthy for everyone involved. Third, because you feel like he needs you... Apparently, you both have developed this sense of dependency either through deep emotional talks or sexual activity. Regardless the medium the outcome is this false sense of dependence. If you're as adult as you sound and mature as you seem you're much more independent than when you let on to be... Relationships should be two independent people coming together because they can create a thriving family. When you have dependent people falling in love with dependent people you get broken families and eventually broken relatonships. The best thing to do is just sit down, weigh out the differences, the pro's and con's. If the con's outweigh the pro's then leave with every thought that you've done the BEST thing for yourself, AND HIM! Good luck ;) I hope this helps!

I was in an abusive relationship for 7 years and he had children that I loved dearly but weren't mine. It started out rough, but I seemed to always be drawn to guys I thought I could save. He called me names and as time went on he would started pushing me around. He would hit me with his fist and tried choking me once, call me the "C" word. I guess I was scared of what he would do if I told him it was over. I had a few times and he thought there was someone else and that would make him go even crazier even though I would tell him there was no one. I would always think to myself, how could he love me if he could hurt me? That was his way of controlling me. I was scared and felt trapped like an animal with no way out and then I met a man at work who became my best friend for two years before anything else ever happened between us. He was my savior, because he showed me that not all men are the same and he was such a gentle man. I fell inlove with him and it became a mission to rid myself of this open sore I had living in my home that I was paying for. I didn't mention this boyfriend did not work, did not clean, did not take care of his kids and was a big pot head. Girls let me tell you a name so that in the event you run across him you will avoid him like you would a case of bad herpes!! His name is David Bray and lives in Callahan, FL!! Looser!!! Well the short of it; the cops removed him from my home and I got a restraining order!! I am now happily married to my best friend who would never think to call me a name or ever strike me. So, yes I can understand these women that are in relationships like this. Your self esteem goes and you become what they want to be for fear of him hurting you. Now I can say "what the hell was I thinking"?? Get help, professional help, get involved in a group that about abusive relationships. There are places you can go to be protected and be safe. My prayers are with you but if you are in this kind of relationship, it feels totaly hopeless, but there is hope...get out.

You put one foot in front of the other and don't look back. He doesn't need YOU. He needs psychiatric help. YOU need to get away from the abuse. You don't deserve it and there is no reason to put up with it.

you guys had said too much. it's simple and easy: just one word: LEAVE!!!!!!!!!!1