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by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on March 20th, 2009
Wow...a lesbian who stereotypes other lesbians? I don't know where you hang out or how many other lesbians you know, but I can tell you that's completely untrue. I'm neither "artsy fartsy" nor am I a vegetarian. Perhaps you need to open your mind and expand your horizons a little bit...meet more people. Hating and stereotyping and entire group of people is bigotry. The fact that it's your own community is more disturbing. I can tell you that it is NOT normal to feel that way. I hope you find a way to get out and meet more people.
by Yarnlady is happy every day on March 19th, 2009
Several things:
It's not normal to hate an entire group of people - that's called bigotry
It's not normal to call an entire group of people you have never even met by derogatory names.
It is normal to be uncomfortable with people you have very little in common with.
It is entirely possible you will accidentally meet someone that you do have things in common with.
If hate is running your life, you might benefit from an attitude adjustment, or a visit with a counselor.
by Carmella on April 15th, 2009
Unless you change your attitude, I agree you'll probably be single for a while. I certainly wouldn't date anyone, male or female, if they said they hated all other lesbians or heterosexuals... they've already stereotyped me before we've started a relationship. No thanks!
by XOXMSperfect on April 15th, 2009
im sure there are other women like you out there who think the same thing. Im a gay man, but i cant stand the flamy prissy pop collard twinks out there, so you're not the only one dealing with stereotypes :)
by Annuska on April 15th, 2009
We are not all like that i promise Keep lookin :0)
by iwnit on March 20th, 2009
Maybe you are just going to the wrong places for you to meet people. I am sure there are many different kinds of lesbians.
by unknown on April 15th, 2009
I think you are in for a lonely life if that is how you really feel.
by angel1 on March 20th, 2009
I think you just happen to be around the wrong places. I haven't had another lesbian tell me she hates me, I'm far from vegan. I'm sure you can find someone but it may be a little difficult to find someone that feels the same way you do and is to your liking. I will admit I am picky about the girls I date I think we all should be selective to a point instead of sleeping aroung like alot of lesbians I know do but I am sure you will find someone...
by Brian on March 20th, 2009
It's so sad that there aren't more carnivorous lesbians who ain't got no use for art or women's rights. ;)
Hopefully someday you'll meet your Alice Bundy: http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/5984486 ;)
Re your AB name: are you suggesting that we should consider doing away with the Capitol in Washington, DC?
by ChandaDiane - est. 1975 on June 1st, 2009
Nope. I am hetero and I find that most men disgust me. That is why I do not date THEM ALL. Just the ones I want to.
You don't have to like or be attracted to the entirety of your target gender. That would be ludicrous.
by Baccduckus is a Carbonproduct on April 15th, 2009
Maybe you should just look for a guy that looks like a girl...
by Leah on April 15th, 2009
You might be Asexual when you are not attracted to anyone. My freind thought she was a lesbian, than didn't like women ethier. Only 1% of the animal kingdom is Asexual it is completly normal.
by .Pretty . Zombie. on April 15th, 2009
Basically all of my friends are gay and lesbians and stuff... and the artsy fartsy vegan feminists type of lesbian.. I've never met one, thank god.. lol. You need to go to a different area ...
by SMS on April 15th, 2009
Well stereotypes aside, I can say that I'm straight and a lot of guys really annoy me and I don't want to hang out with them. Being a lesbian doesn't change the fact you just aren't attracted to some people out there. You also may be too quick to judge, but then again, how should I know?
by Redhawk on June 5th, 2009
I think you are doing yourself a huge disservice! Kinda cutting off your nose (or tongue! <wink>) to spite your face!
I majored in Fine Arts specializing in Crafts about a million years ago. I spin, dye and weave, I make baskets, hand-made paper and do stained glass. I suppose that makes me artsy-fartsy! I WAS a vegetarian from age 16 to 20, but I do love and eat MEAT...I was NEVER a Vegan, I did dairy and eggs with joy during that four-year stint.
Lesbians...just like all other people are individuals with totally individual interests, thoughts and behaviors.
I do think that because WE are currently lacking (as a group...gays and lesbians) OUR FULL CIVIL RIGHTS, we often tend to perhaps be a bit on the side of pushing FOR what is fair and right in a general sense. Not only for OUR civil rights, but also for other rights; environmental, elder, child, animal rights...often as a "group" we are up for adding our voices in support, we maybe politically active in some manner.
Maybe this too annoys you, maybe not.
I think as mentioned by others...you need to get out more, and meet other womyn!
We are just as diverse as any other people you'll find in the world!
I wouldn't say your feelings are bad, they are what you feel....but I do think you are setting yourself up to be very lonely and sad...and that's just a shame.
I don't care to "hang out" with chaos and drama, and so I go out of my way to avoid people who DO like or create chaos and drama in their lives...but I am aware that there are plenty of great people out there who don't live to experience those things...and I seek them out as friends!
by Countess Crapula on April 15th, 2009
be patient, I can't stand those asses either. You will find someone, just don't go to the average places where these other jerks go to.
by QueenR eats the Terminator for breakfast on March 20th, 2009
No it is not bad, I feel exactly the same way. I especially dislike those who go to these parades and all that rubbish.
by friday1322 on June 13th, 2009
I am not fartsy in any way and I am also not vegan. I also do not think I am annoying.
I am a lesbian and I am not feminist either.
I wouldn't say it is bad to feel that way, but you may miss out on some great women if you assume we are all like that.
by Aspirations on June 1st, 2009
It seems that you are discriminating against your own kind. I would have to say that not all lesbians are the same afterall, you are a lesbian and you aren't what you described. Maybe check out new social clubs for lesbians in your area?
by Miss sexy on June 1st, 2009
U need to meet more lesbians ,there not all the same or u could go for a bisexual.
by Mosexy on April 15th, 2009
I know quite a few lesbians, none of which are like that.
Well, artsy-fartsy I can deal with, but vegan - puke, feminists - double puke.
What you need is a woman who's not afraid to describe herself as a DIKE! If she's got a Harley, it'll be even better.
Take out a personal ad and don't be shy. Use this heading "Wanted: Meat eating bull dike", and close with "You MUST own a strap-on." You won't see any artsy fartsy ladies answering that one. Lol!
by NeverWas on June 25th, 2009
Normal doesn't exist. Just go with it, but make sure you aren't just hiding behind some insecurity by creating another stereotype for yourself. It sounds like you're being a little narrow minded. Not all lesbians are artsy, nor are they all fartsy. Look in uncommon places, and turn your gaydar up, you never know who you'll find. That stated, no one said you have to find a partner to live a happy life.
If you're good with it, go with it.
by Indigo- in the library with the revolver on June 24th, 2009
Oh, I agree with you completely. Those lesbians that like, have a different diet from yours, and like art, and want women to have equal rights as men. How dare they show their faces! And as we know, it's the influence of other vaginas that turns them vegan, artsy, and feminist, definetely not outside factors. Oh, this definitely justifies you hating hundreds of people based on their sexual orientation.
Seriously, get your head out of your ass, maybe move around the country to get more experience or something, and you might find yourself a girlfriend.
by PartRadio loves YOU on June 13th, 2009
You either need to meet more lesbians, or you're in high school. Or both.
by Factotum on June 13th, 2009
Maybe contact some of these wretched, self-hating orientation-traitors: http://online.logcabin.org/
by tuvw on June 1st, 2009
HAHAHAH! I won't bust your balls for stereotyping because I know you mean all the lesbians you have met so far seem to fit into those categories, I will however remind you they aren't all alike or you'd be an artsy, fartsy, vegan feminist, so hang in there and one day you'll meet a girl you think is perfect for you.
by Prunesquallor on June 1st, 2009
If you feel you are superior to everybody else, then in all probability you will stay single.
by TinkRbell on May 29th, 2009
This isnt necessarily bad, per say. However, I dont know where you hang out because not ALL lesbians are that way. For example my girl and I. We are far from the artsy fartsy vegan feminist. And in fact, not one of the girls i have ever dated is that way. If you feel like you are unable to meet someone who isnt that way, you might want to try going online. There is a websit called lesbian.date.com and it provides a chat room with tons of awesome lesbians. Thats where I met my fiancee in fact!
by sidewalkchalk on April 18th, 2009
There are as many "types" of lesbians out there as there are types of people...just like all people. You just need to meet people who are more like you. Try meeting friends via a lesbian internet site where you can describe yourself and your interests and what you are looking for. You can also screen others for their interests.
And BTW, not all lesbians are artys fartsy vegan feminists...I'm sure there are some out there who are conservative, main stream America, mall hopping, meat eating gals....But don't be too quick to judge, you might just find the girl of your dreams wears berkenstocks and runs a goat farm.
by StemnyJones on April 15th, 2009
You're just hanging out with the wrong group of lesbians.
I have a large group of lesbian friends, and only one of them is "artsy hippie", and none of us are feminists. We are just regular people.. some of them are party animals, some of us are laid back and chill, and some of us are family women who are ready to settle down and build a life together.
Just keep looking, don't lose patience... the good ones are out there!
by yaya000 on May 21st, 2010
where u from...maybe if u met me u would change ur mind about this whole issue
by SFGIRL509 on October 29th, 2009
Well just cuz the above listed lesbians aren't your type doesn't mean you should hate. Believe it or not there are "normal" lesbians out there. You'll find that girl that makes your head spin.
by TheJoker on September 30th, 2009
Well, that could be seen as cutting off your nose to spite your face.... surely there's another Lesbian somewhere who isn't arty & a vegan feminist?
by danmyme on June 24th, 2009
You need to be around people you are comfortable with, and if you don't find love there, just that's okay!
When you go looking for love in places that are "oriented", you won't really find love, just groups of other people who are the same sexual orientation. Not necessarily the same personality.
It's always when you are searching that you can't find anything, but when you stop looking it soon appears!
Good luck!
by President Norris 2016 on June 24th, 2009
Its a free country, do what you want; you cant stand artsy fartsy chicks? start up your own group; be a trendsetter.
by Foralways11609 on June 16th, 2009
i love this question. you are exactly like my friend. she hates other lesbian girls cuz they are all like that. i say go for a bi chick.
by Celeste: It is what it is. Like it or not on May 29th, 2009
Not everyone who is a lesbian suscibes to this description, you know.You'd be surprised.*
by catsmeow94 on August 6th, 2009
wow, thats weird... im a lesbian, artsy, and a vegetarian....hmmmmm... although i really want to get out of the vegetarian thing and i havent been doing alot of art lately... :) ill change just for you!!!
by jay007 on August 18th, 2009
You've been in touch with the wrong crowd of lesbians. If these were straight ppl u were talking about, the description wouldnt change much. It' their personality regardless of being gay. U need to re-evaluate the ppl u surround urself with & find a cooler, more relaxed crowd.
by TAPriceCTR s son is wearing his COAT on August 6th, 2009
ROFL. that is funny,
by dana1209 on October 3rd, 2010
I agree. People here who are saying you're streotyping etc etc.....yes you ARE streotyping but let's face it sterotypes exist for a reason. While not EVERYONE fits the lesbian sterotype, it existed in the first place because there is a large percentage of lesbians who are - artsy fartsy vegan feminists.
I find it extremely hard to find a woman who is just like any other women but happens to love the fairer sex. It is improbable to find a strong hearted feminine woman who isn't overly concerned about animal welfare but more concerned about world hunger, politics (and no not just right-wing bashing but actually understand both sides of an argument and present an educated argument for or against a proposition), war, abuse etc etc.
It also bothers me that a lot of lesbians are artsy fartsy. Why aren't there more lesbians who are about corporate ladder climbing and becoming renowned academics?
Bash me if you will but it is seriously how I feel.
by UhYuh on September 20th, 2010
I think you are one hundred percent right! Lesbians are dusgusting, annoying and should all be killed. Now that you've got the right idea about these horrible deviants the next step is to stop being one!
by Ashley12208 on August 30th, 2009
I dont think your gay... if you dont like other lesbians then how can you be gay? OR maybe you only like a special kinda girl. i'm the same way!! I hate alot of other lesbians and some of them I dont even think are gay.. but i have had many many girlfriends and few gay friends I have a girlfriend i'VE BEEN with for 9 months.. they say gays should stick together but yet I hate queers!
by emoluv on October 6th, 2010
uh, you really should look harder. lesbians are just like anybody else, they come every shade,shape and form in and can virtually be into anything. maybe your just not hanging out with the right people. :/
by Summer_L on April 10th, 2011
i am from greece..i hate lesbians..most of them they are so bad,,the want to be men,they are not kind they are antisocial..they love fight..they are without education and they jalouse women ho have personality and class.i am so sorry but lesbians in greece are ill persons with psycological problem
by More2Be on August 30th, 2009
Please excuse my joining you in such overgeneralizing, but to me they all seem to be trying to look like men, and unattractive men at that. Sexual preference should not dictate desire to be beautiful.
by Vanessa The Rose on September 22nd, 2009
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by Caledonian on September 26th, 2009
Wake up. Not all lesbians are alike. No wonder you can't find a relationship if you can't discriminate an individual from the crowd.
by cazzababes on September 30th, 2009
babes with an atitude like that you are destined to be a lonely woman. you have obviously not been to the right places. try joining your local gay group where im sure you will meet a wide variety of personalities.we are all unique in our own way. try a little decorum n find some respect n STOP stereotyping
by coffeegirl18 on September 22nd, 2009
I have lesbian friends that aren't that stereotype. They have more of a preppy look to them so maybe it's your pickup spots that need a change up. Maybe try an upscale bar.
I'm really in love with my best guy friend. but he's gay. read on to hear the question.
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You're reading I am a lesbian but I hate other lesbians. It seems they are all artsy farsty, vegan feminists, who really annoy me. I think I am destine to be single because I cannot bare the whole process of hanging out with them to meet anyone. Is this normal/bad?
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I'm guessing she's from New York, which has become infested, I mean colossally infested with hipster douchebags and fucking vegans who won't touch animal anythigng yet skip on their rent, treat people badly, steal laptops, etc. By the way, who better to stereotype a lesbian but another one? sounds fair to me.
by Countess Crapula on April 15th, 2009
There are a few bad apples here and there that may seem to spoil the whole bunch....but I detest stereotypes myself.
by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on April 15th, 2009
Hope you are coping with your loss redcatt63. I read what happened with your lovely cat and I am so sorry. Here is a cyber hug.
by lovebettafish on April 15th, 2009
Did you lose a cat, redcatt? If you did, I am so sorry.
by unknown on April 15th, 2009
Thanks, lovebettafish. Yes, I did, idne. We lost our oldest, Arlo. He got very sick and we had to put him down. Check fb...
by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on April 15th, 2009
Awwww. Ok, I will. :(
by unknown on April 15th, 2009
I have a freind who is vegan, artsy, stright and completely into sports. Thats breaking sterotypes.
She is feminest in a sense, we both are stright femminest who work with lesben feminest on organizing a way to educate girls in other countries where it is not the norm.
We don't like feminest who complain about women's rights in the first world. If they are like that I see your point.
by Leah on May 30th, 2009
Granted, I don't know a whole lot of lesbians, but the ones I do know are nothing at all like what is described in this question. They are all just regular people. My partner would rather die than not eat meant. LOL
by unknown on June 2nd, 2009
I've grown up in the midwest...we are meat-and-potatoes people here. Yes, I do know vegetarians...but they are all straight! LOL!
This may offend vegetarians, but we were shopping last week at a local garden shop and they had some funky magnets...one said "Meat is Murder...Tasty, tasty Murder."
by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on June 2nd, 2009
LMAO! I have to get that one. sidewalkchalk says things like, "Aww a baby cow, cute and tasty." She's a keeper. LOL
by unknown on June 3rd, 2009
Sounds like we have a similar, twisted sense of humor. LOL!
by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on June 3rd, 2009
Yep, you lesbians are all alike. LOL
by unknown on June 12th, 2009
And you're NOT sick and twisted too? LOL!
by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on June 12th, 2009
Yes ma'am I surely am. ;)
by unknown on June 12th, 2009
Good answer, redcatt. This sounds like a case of internalized homophobia.
by lonelydragon on October 29th, 2009
In some cases, I do believe that's true, lonelydragon.
by redcatt63 is around here somewhere...... on October 29th, 2009