I hd fight with a m8 we becme to close emotionally and we ended up hooking up. I have a bf and he just broke up with his gf. My bf and I were havin problems, whch is why i thnk i became so close to this other guy.My m8 wont talk to me nw coz of wat i did?

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• no..this is the same boyfriend..I cheated and I feel terrible, guilty etc, because I love my boyfriend, we were just going through a rough time. I know I must sound like a complete bitch, (and for the record I am going to counselling). I cheated with my friend and now he is mad at me. he said that he is mad becuase I cheated on my boyfriend..but he knew i had a boyfriend and he knew that we were having problems (physical fights). He said I should have done more to stop it because he had just broken up with his gf. Bt he came on to me...I was the one that stopped it.

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• emmmmm
  
  ok little girl,
  first thing you should know is, No body in this life ever not made a mistake in his life. yes you did and everybody did.
  
  I told you before, respect yourself, doing a mistake doesn't mean you are a bi...h.
  you still a human and you still have the future to fix your mistakes.
  believe me, the first step that you have made is good one. which is fault recognition. it is good to know you did something wrong
  but you shouldn't give up.
  
  if you are not happy in your relation you are not obligated to keep it. you have apologized from your BF, and you should meant it. so if he didn't respect that or a fight still takes a part, break up.
  yes
  break up and have a rest from what they are saying BF.
  live your life with a goals. you should have Life goals, if you didn,t have. it is time to have one.
  
  I would continue. but I want to wait till I be confirmed that you got all my points right.
  
  Good luck

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  by Faris.nb on March 19th, 2009

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• Thanks for the rephrase but why is he pissed at you?... because you had sex with him?

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• I dont actually know why...he said he is mad at me because I cheated on my boyfriend, but he knew i had a boyfriend. He said that I should have done more to stop it from happening. We didnt sleep together, he started kissing me on my cheek and I kissed him back. He ended up on me, with his hand up my skirt and I stopped him. He is now blaming me and I dont know why

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• Ok... You may not like what I'm going to say but I think you need to realize that this guy who is supposed to be your friend is blaming you for his own actions. That's not to say you don't carry some of the blame because you do, but he is responsible for his own actions also.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• I agree that he is blaming me for his own actions. But I dont know why..is this normal? Why does he hate me now? He was also involved...his whole thing happened about 6 weeks ago, and he has been avoiding me ever since he said those things. Will he ever get over it?

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• Is he friends with your boyfriend?

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• No he is not. He was friends with me...and we used to work together

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• but he quit since this happened,

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• Wow. That seems really odd. Maybe the truth is that he's just really pissed at you because you stopped him. He seems like someone you're probably better off letting go of.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• What's the situation between you and your boyfriend?

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• Things are ok at the moment. But I feel that we both have anger problems as we end up having physical fights, and he pins me down etc. This does not happen all the time rather it happens now and again. But when it does happen I get very scared that one of us could really hurt the other. Even without the fights I sometimes doubt our relationship, but im not sure if it is because of my own insecurities. We can also be verbally abusive to each other he often calls me a bitch. But i love him.

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• Also I told my friend these things, and i thought he was understanding, however later he said 'i think you wanted me to feel sorry for you' and 'if things are so bad with him why dont you leave'. I feel totally exposed, and betrayed

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• "But I love him".... God! Hahaha! You realize you can love him and just be friends too, right? Seems to me you shouldn't be together. That's probably not what you want to hear but it's what I see. Sounds pretty dysfunctional. I doubt either of you are really happy living like that.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• Your friend probably DID feel that way and no longer trusts you.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• Im confused? He no longer trusts me? and also yes I understand that it is dysfunctional hence why i go to counselling. but we do love each other, and when things are good they are really good. I feel you are being rather judgmental of me, is there any reason for this?

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• If it seems that way you have my apologies. Hearing things from other people isn't always pleasant. I wouldn't be happy at all like that.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• No, but I am trying to fix it. but what did you meen by he no longer trusts me?

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• Your friend does not. He thinks you were playing with his feelings.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

• Well I wasnt. I truly cared about him. And I still do. I feel as though he was messing with mine.

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  by Anonymous on March 19th, 2009

• He probably wanted you for himself but at this point has given up.

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  by Ditto on March 19th, 2009

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