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by Anonymous on February 9th, 2007

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Ok, im in pain and hur my bf broke up with me and now he kicked me out of his place. Im expecting and i might be wks to a month pregnant. What should I do with this infant? He warned me that i better not be pregnant? What should i do?Please help im hurt

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  • by staffie on February 9th, 2007

    staffie

    dont let your bf pressure you into doing anything you dont want to do like abortion. have you got anybody you can trust near by? he doesnt have the right to tell you "you better not be pregnant" it takes 2 people to make a baby and he knows this. hes a bully. i know you are in a difficult position but dont let him treat you this way you deserve better :)

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  • by JAMMco... its complicated... on February 9th, 2007

    JAMMco... its complicated...

    Do you have any family nearby or can you get to them. Most people can fall back on family.

    I personally would not consider abortion. Sounds like he is definitely a jerk and not to be bothered with.

    If you don't have family, find a friend to stay with for a little bit while you get situated.

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  • by anonymous on February 9th, 2007

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    I agree you should go to stay with a family member or friend. If you don't have any family or friends you can stay with then you should try to go to a women's shelter. Forget about this guy he is a obviously very inconsiderate person. You should do what you think is best for you and don't let this guy pressure you into doing something you don't want to do.

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  • by Mushen on March 13th, 2007

    Mushen

    1. Do pregnancy test and see doctor to confirm if and how long.

    2. Decide whether (if legally possible) whether to keep the child or not. If you do, the chances are you will not be playing happy families with BF. Ignore warnings from BF, if you are pregnant then you are - that it. It's done.

    3. Hate to be harsh and voice of reason here but, if he kicked you out of his place then his actions indicate that he is not as in love with you as you are with him - pregnant or not. This is not what you do when you love somebody. It hurts but it is what it is and will take time to accept and come to terms with. You cannot change what has happened so far, you can only affect the future. You should concentrate (for now) on whether to keep the baby or not (no right or wrong decision really, but whatever you decide it MUST be for the RIGHT reasons. He will not love you as you wish him to even if you are not pregnant I'm afraid. Sorry. Sort out what you are going to do (as in, if you do not want a child, then don't have one or vice versa) - this must come first and then the hurt and healing dealt with later on. Website below:

    http://drphil.com/articles/article/27

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  • by This Daley has a new bundle of joy on March 13th, 2007

    This Daley has a new bundle of joy

    Job one is to get the heck out of there and get to safety.

    Job two is to find out for sure if you are pregnant or not.

    If he has demonstrated he does not care for you or his (potential) unborn child, then the decision is yours and yours alone. I personally advocate giving unwanted children up for adoption, but if you go quickly enough to a local clinic, you would still have the option (timewise) to terminate the pregnancy.

    As for being hurt, it is better to know now at this point what he is like. Yes, it hurts - but it WILL get better.

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  • by fuji66 on March 13th, 2007

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    I agree with the others. You are better off in a safer living situation. You need to get to a Dr. and get a check up and proper prenatal care. If you can not afford it go to a womens clinic to confirm that you are pregnant. Do not make any decisions until you are informed about every possible opportunity that you have. Seek out a counselor, pastor, trusted adult and ask for help. It is difficult enough to make a huge life changing decsion like abortion with out having an immature boyfriend pressuring and stressing you out. You will also want to see if there are families that are looking to adopt babies. Babies are a gift from God so please look into having the baby and giving someone a blessing if you can not keep the child. I know I see ads in the local classifieds for families looking to adopt but I am not sure if that is such a good place to start. The women's clinic should help point you in the right direction or the good old yellow pages. Good luck and God bless and Keep you.

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  • by JUSTNORMAL on March 13th, 2007

    JUSTNORMAL

    What a jerk!!! If he did not want a child, why didnt he use a condom? He has some nerve kicking you out. Stay away from that piece of garbage. You have 2 choices here #1 give birth and then give the baby up for adoption #2 Have an abortion.I am pro choice and if you are very young how can you raise a baby alone? If you choose to keep the baby, get a DNA test and go to Court and they will order him to pay child support, that is necessary and mandatory. I know you are in pain, but years from now, you will be glad he is not in your life anymore. I DO hope you have family or friends as a support system and to stay with. The choices are yours and yours alone. Good Luck

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  • by WHITE BEAR on April 20th, 2007

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    Steer clear of him, stay somewhere safe. If he threatens you have the police deal with the matter.
    Dont let him pressurize you into having an abortion. Do what is right for you, and you only.

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  • by LisaJo on April 20th, 2007

    LisaJo

    Be happy that you are able to bring life into this world, get rid of the jerk you don't need someone like him threatening you like that. If you are pregnant have the baby, if you don't want it there are many people willing to adopt the child for you. I would give anything to be able to have children.

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