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by Little_G on January 6th, 2005

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I feel controlled by my girlfriend. She used to have no problem with me living my life, but now she complains and yells, like she's a different person. Should I break up with her or ride this out?

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  • by Akimbo on January 7th, 2005

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    One of the most important things in any relationship is communication.

    I would suggest that you talk to her about how you are feeling. You need to find out whether she is aware of the changes and what brought them about.

    If she is open to discussion then you're on the first step towards fixing the problem.

    If she is not then you most likely will want to move on.

    If is never a good idea to just ride relationship troubles out, you will end up feeling bitter and controlled. It sounds like you have been together for some time so just breaking up isn't a great solution either. Put some effort in and try to at least end on a positive note.

    She may have some reason for these changes that you aren't even aware of.

    A little conversation goes a long way.

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  • by Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot on September 14th, 2009

    Sharona Life is a Tale Told by an Idiot

    If you stop this relationship where you are now, you have solved nothing. No one has a problem with the other person when they just meet. Now the real life begins. The romance has died down and you have to be more honest with each other. Whether you want to put energy into a relationship is your choice.

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  • by anonymous on September 14th, 2009

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    It sounds like she is feeling insecure about something. i suggest you ask her if she is feeling secure in your relationship right now. Maybe she just needs to know she is still the apple of your eye. I say ride it out, she's probably crazy about you.

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  • by AnneRiceReader on March 22nd, 2006

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    I think you need to examine what exactly has changed, what event occurred around the time her behavior changed. Does she have a reason not to trust you? Did some new source of stress arise in your lives? And did your level of commitment in this relationship increase around the same time? Many people have beliefs about what sort of boyfriend you should be, what kind of life you should lead, depending on the depth of the relationship. Example: casual? no control. Dating? more time with the girl. Engaged? No more running around with your friends.
    Another option is that you did something to upset her, hurt her feelings. And it could be unrelated... sometimes when someone has hurt our feelings, suddenly small things that used to be easy to accept start to agitate us more.
    Hopefully, one of these options will be helpful, because I wouldn't want to fall back on the idea that she's just a controlling person. Also, some women just plain need to keep trying to change their guy... some kind of test or measure of your commitment to her.

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  • by Anonymous on September 21st, 2009

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    What do you mean by live your life? Are you a player, drinker, partier? What? She may have just realized that what she thought was only a temporary situation was a life style choice you were making. She may have very different standards than you have. I liked a guy who often went out with serveral different girls at once. When we were just friends, I didn't care what he did, but when we became more serious I said,"that crap is going to stop." Do you get what I'm putting down here?

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  • by Poindexter on September 14th, 2009

    Poindexter

    Maybe she wants you to grow up, to get on with your life?

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  • by Lumina on September 20th, 2009

    Lumina

    wat does she do that for?? how do you live your life?? if u don't like it... leave her... but if u think you'll b totally sad without her... don't leave her... but talk it over.

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  • by zeds_dead_baby on September 20th, 2009

    zeds_dead_baby

    you just met her representative when things were new, now you are meeting the real person. forget her man, plenty of chicks out there who dont act like this, she'll regret when you dump her, and probably learn not to be a controlling bitch

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  • by Ken_R on January 31st, 2011

    Ken_R

    Ask your lady to pack a picknic basket and take her for a Sunday drive to the local pet cemetary. Unfold the blanket among the small tombstones, ask your lady to lay sit down, explain to her that the relationship is dead and then drive away. Please make sure to leave the picknic basket behind as your lady will likely be very mopey and hungry.

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