I only orgasm via the g-spot with my partner both during intercourse and foreplay. but i seem to not be able to orgasm via the clit. as much as he tries...no luck. why is that...what can we try? please help!!

You never make love TO that person. You make love WITH that person. For the sake of the younger folks who read these answers, I won't get very graphic. I'm sure you can use your imagination.

I AM A VERY fortunate man. I had the wonderful experience of seeing my parents, both sets of grandparents and all my aunts and uncles behave as though they were constantly on their honeymoons with their spouses.
They would hold hands, cuddle, hug, kiss, whisper things to each other, say, "I love you, _____!" and carry-on like many young people, who are in love, do in public.
They would smile at each other and tell each other
how beautiful, wonderful and thoughtful she was and
how thoughtful, wonderful and handsome he was!
WOW! What a great set of romance role models!

No, I never watched as they were making love in the most intimate way, but I DID see and learn from their examples and inter-actions with their spouses! As far as I know, no one ever cheated on the other.

That being said, one day my mother's father got in the car with me. I was driving him to the track. He "LOVED those ponies"! He was well-aware of the relationship I had with the lady I was dating and who would one day be my bride.

He said words similar to these:
I know your father told you what to do, but did he ever tell you how to do it?
I answered, "No".

He went on to say, "I'm going to tell you some things I don't think you'll learn from any one else. When you have sex, make love or whatever you want to call it, you don't behave like most other men. Most men are just interested in one thing and one thing only - satisfying their own selfish selves.

That's NOT the way to do it. You have to make absolutely certain she is satisfied. No matter how long it takes or what you have to do, you have to do whatever it takes to make sure she does what she likes to do best. You HAVE TO satisfy her first.

Your brain is the most important sex organ. Your brain controls what happens downstairs. When you aren't sure about what to do or how to do it, ask her what she wants you to do. She'll tell you or she'll show you. When you're making love, you think of other things - not what's going on at that particular moment with that particular lady. When you think about what you're actually doing, I guarantee you'll never satisfy the lady in your life.

He went on to explain about holding hands, hugging, kissing, caressing and taking things one step at a time. He described a lot of things I heard of but wasn't sure about.

During that ride, one of the last things he said was:
When you are absolutely sure she is satisfied, then you can do what you know is best for you - but not one minute before.

That's what I was told.

Thank you, Gran'pop. I love you. I miss you!

Some afterthoughts: You could also buy a book, on-line, called "Kama Sutra."

You could also go on-line and make the investment in some "adult sex toys" to stimulate and arouse. There are LOTS of sites.

Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!

VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!

Sources: My wonderful family!

"THE University of Hard Knocks"
also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons"

First - you don't need help. Many women are unable to orgasm through stimulation of their clitoris. One reason may be that there aren't enough nerve endings going to your clitoris to make it sensitive enough to be stimulated to orgasm. An alternative is that you have too many nerve endings and the stimulation too quickly becomes pain.

This shouldn't stop you enjoying a full sexual life, though, and the fact that you can orgasm through stimulation of your G spot makes you quite lucky. There are women who are unable to reach orgasm at all.

I don't know how sexually active and how broad-minded you are. There are many different positions and sexual activities you can try that will give you a fulfilling sex life. Worrying about something that you can't change will only detract from your pleasure and eat away at your partner, who will feel that it is his fault you can't be satisfied. It may be that the only way to convince him is to allow him to watch while you masturbate and show him that you can't achieve orgasm even yourself by clitoal stimulation alone (unless you can in which case he obviously isn't doing it for you and needs to learn how to satisfy you).

Can you orgasm via your clit if you masterbate your self?, if you said yes, then good, that means that there is nothing wrong with the nerve ends to your clit, has your partner tried cunnilingus on you, this seldom fails with me, simply because I can manipulate his head to where I want it to be, and I can talk to him about what I want him to do with his tongue, and he doesen't get up for air if he doesen't do it properly. Hope I was of some help.

His finger inside on your G spot and his tongue on your clit may work. Some people say the clit and G are one in the same, part inside and part outside. Where you stimulate it is a matter of personal preference, so long as you are satisfied. If he is bringing you to orgasm during intercourse, that's the best.