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by StupidGirl on November 12th, 2009
I believe most babies are born happy. As soon as they are born though "society" starts filling up their little heads with limiting beliefs and some people never learn't how to undo those.
by juleeus on March 5th, 2009
happy=satisfaction
satisfaction=decrease in competency,resulting decrease in growth
that's why i don't choose
by Anonymous on March 7th, 2009
I've never heard of it being a choice, but I have heard it called a state of mind, etc.
by Cowboy-Matter of Fact on March 5th, 2009
I honestly think some people enjoy wallowing in their own self pity and would have it no other way. I do not understand the psychology that makes a person want to insist that they are a victim, but it certainly exists.
by Tom 47 is back in his bear COAT on March 5th, 2009
Not always a choice, Rosie. Many people have tremendous tragedy and sadness. I find it foolish and "elitist" when people suggest that everyone can be "happy" all the time if they only "choose" to be. Who would not be happy if they had a choice? The millionaire "gurus" of ESN and "take responsibility for your feelings" can certainly afford to say these childish things. Experiencing real tragedy and grief beyond your control yourself is another matter.
by Colt COAT of Justice on March 5th, 2009
Many don' tknow how !
by LETS-TALK-ABOUT-IT on March 5th, 2009
What makes one happy doesn't make another happy and so in the end noone is happy
by shrinkess on March 9th, 2009
Choosing to be happy can be very hard. If hubby dies, I'd find it difficult to choose to be happy. On the other hand, I do think that happiness is a state of mind and to the extent that I can control my state of mind, I can be happy.
by Phillis - Zacks little sister on March 7th, 2009
I don't think most people realize it IS a choice, Rosie. Their parents couldn't teach what they themselves didn't know. I know mine didn't. I grew up thinking that happiness just naturally occured for some people and I wasn't one of the lucky few. How sad that I didn't realize it sooner! But I know it now and the cycle is broken for my daughter's as well.
by Moongrim on March 5th, 2009
What makes me happy is often made illegal.
by Raj on March 5th, 2009
Since we are not happy to choose
by Teresa on November 12th, 2009
I don't think it's so simple as a straightforward choice. I don't choose between happy or sad the way I choose between cereal or an egg for breakfast.
But I do think we have some level of influence over our mood. We can make a conscious effort to avoid negative stimuli and to stay positive in our mentality. It takes high levels of self-consciousness, confidence, and will power.
There are other influences that we can't control, though: external circumstances, like if my pet rabbit dies I will be sad for at least a little while and I will not have control over that; and internal circumstances, like sometimes mood can have to do with a hormone imbalance or something else that can be helped with drugs.
But, to give a simplified answer, someone might choose to be sad because they get attention for it or because they get certain things they wouldn't get if they weren't sad. Like, when I'm sad my wife is extra kind to me. And when I'm sad I treat myself to McDonald's. Sounds great: maybe I want McDonald's and an extra-kind wife every day! Of course, this kind of logic is short-sighted, but then people are short-sighted all the time.
"The sky is the only roof I have over my head". Lyrics. If that were true what would you do? Find a cave or be brave and enjoy the stars?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 19 hours ago
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There is something about self-inflicted tragedy that's sadder than uncontrolled tragedy. Drug overdose/earthquake. Preventable/Un. Agree?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 21 hours ago
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We should teach young children how to respect themselves. Maybe there would be no abused wives or death from drug overdose. Could it work?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 20 hours ago
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Some seem to see little of value/worth in things or other people. Does that mean they find little to value in themselves? Why?
by RosieGHM Jetpacker 19 hours ago
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If you 'die a little' every time you have sex, won't dying be very pleasant (unless you're doing it wrong, lol)?
by PrivateGomerSpooner 21 hours ago
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haha, ur probably right
by minor child on November 12th, 2009