I want to have a threesome with my friend and girlfriend but dont know how i can ask my girlfriend this please help.

Can I just say this. . . And I hate to be rude.

Buddy you can't just have anything you want in this world, sexually or any other way. If we could then I'd have Scarlette Johanson naked in this room right now and I wouldn't be typing this to you. But I can't have that cause God told me I have to be celibate and Scarlette Johanson just wouldn't do me anyways.

So unless your girlfriend is a very very open minded person sexually and seems like she might be intersted, I sincerly suggest you just let that one remain a fantasy.

And if you did this then wouldn't she be entitled to fantasy involving you and another guy?

Well even though this is an old question...

If you want to have a threesome with your "friend" and your girlfriend...the first thing you need to do is tell this "Friend" of your that no feelings will evolve from it...and that you just want a threesome. Then you need to ALL sit down with your girlfriend (if she doesnt know this person you could just forget it...because its not gonna happen) And tell her that you just want sex with this "Friend" and that you love HER and only her...then MAYBE just MAYBE it may work out for you

Ask her what she fantacises about first. Your odds are like one and three that she thinks about mulitple partners.

Hiya!!!

Just be open and up front with her about your sexual fantasy... Communication is key!!!

Hope This Helps!

Dawn
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Dude,

I'm not about raining on people's dreams because I nobody likes that guy. Even when someone comes up with something really off the wall, I will usually keep my mouth shut. In this case i have to speak up to warn you about what you are walking into. Asking a girlfriend for a threesome is an almost guaranteed kiss of death. If you don't believe me I encourage you to find three people who decided to go forward with it. The sad stories and the dental records show that it never turns out well...but lets play devils advocate for a minute.

Lets say that you convince her to consider the idea of letting another woman into your bed. You have indirectly told her (intended or not) that she is not enough to satisfy you in the bedroom. Then to add to her already unraveling insecurities you introduce another woman to which she will undoubtedly compare herself on every level possible and determine that the reason you brought the other woman is because you (insert your word here)the other woman more than you do her.

After the act, she might even seem cool and unaffected by the whole thing (if you'e lucky). The truth of it is that you have planted seeds of jealousy, doubt, anxeity, resentment, and about a dozen other things that Dr. Phil would jump all over. Skip to the bottom line....

If your girlfriend makes it through the threesome physically, she won't make it through emotionally.

All of you need to sit down and have a nice long talk about this. (Maybe more than one) More women are not into this, than women who are, so hope you've got an open minded girl, there.

Good Luck!

Just ask, if you are into things like that and she isn't it is better to ask now before your question is "how do I ask my wife"

Hello Horror:

It's been over a month since you asked this question. Did you dismiss this whole idea or did you ask your friend and girlfriend and one or both freaked out on you?

Forget all the the people that think this is a selfish act or immoral. In some way/shape/form EVERYTHING is either illegal, immoral, or does you no good. We live in a time where this is actually something that has become somewhat more accepted in our culture. The people that think this is "wrong" are in denial of the changing times.

Check it Brother,
If this is something you are looking to do first you need to sit her down alone and just have a CIVIL conversation with her. Find out what she fantasizes about first. If you want to delay it you can do a thing or a few that she likes then maybe throw the idea out there. Just be sure to remind her that the reason you are asking is only because you love her and this is something that you want to do. Then it is important to take time to get her to understand that you are only asking because you want experience something new like this. If she freaks out, STAY CIVIL, keep her in front of you and then its up to you to be with her still and live the the denial or move on to someone that will support and accept you and what you are mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually no matter what. But let her know also that the reason you've brought this up is because you want to be with her and don't want to have to be dishonest and go out and find it elsewhere. Just be civil, calm, and finish the conversation until you can laugh about it with NO tension at all.

This worked for me and it was probably one of the best experiences of my life and actually it was something that turned out to be suppressed in her mind. She thought she was weird but she loved me and was scared to ever tell anyone EVER. My girlfriend and I have been together for 5 years and that was 2 & 1/2 years ago. Everything is still going strong and we are happy and healthy.

I am 25 and about a half a year away from my Ph.D in Psychology with a minor in sociology. It's typical to get some of the responses you've gotten already. Enough about me though this is about you and your girlfriend. Try not to let people get to you. We barely have any of the same values with anyone else so there will be a lot of conflicting views on this.

GOOD LUCK,
Bam

You are asking for disater. If you ask either one of them you're running the risk of not only losing one, but both. Why? Because you just changed the dynamics of all the realtionships for the worst.
With your girlfriend you will ruin the trust she has in you to be faithfull to her. So now, every time that frind's around or you even look at another girl she's going to be on you like white on rice. After all you just told her she's nothing, but a play thing to you. Now that's Love.
When you ask your friend she will then be constantly worring that you will be hitting on her every time you see her. And since there is already a relationship it wouldn't just be sex. There would be sever emmotional consequences. What a nice way to show a friend you care. "I want to have sex with you and my girl, but it's meaningless." Now that's friendship.
If you three do go through this things will be even worse. Someone always feels left out in the mix. The level of jealousy between your girlfriend and this other girl will be off the charts. Be prepared for your girlfriend to force you to cut off all contact afterwards. But then again you'll probelly lose the friend anyways.
My advice is to keep your mouth shut. Nothing good ever comes out of this. Someone always gets damaged. In fact most realtionships where couples do this do it only once and last less then six month after that.

Welcome to the problem every man faces lol

Man I'm telling you from personal experience, do not ask, do not attempt to ask, do not bring up the issue, leave it as a nice little fantasy inside you're head that you will *NEVER* reveal to you're girlfreind.

i've had 4 threesomes with 6 different girls. The key is to do it early on in the relationship, before heavy feelings are involved. then you either of you can exit the relationship without all the emotional baggage. or just meet a stripper. it helps to be a nice guy with a moderatley big penis. they love good sex, enough to bring friends. good luck everyone and NO it's not impossible, although in a long term relationship the oddsa are against you.

"Would you ever be interested in having another person join us for sex?"

That is one way to open the discussion.

But I don't recommend it to you. You'd be taking many risks, which include losing the friend, losing the girlfriend, and introducing the girlfriend to sex with someone she may prefer to you.

Think it over carefully. Good luck to you.

wow. you are undoubtedly the most selfish person ever. if my boyfriend ever asked that, i'd be repulsed. your best bet is to get in the porn industry. if you actually like your gal, you will keep your mouth shut, or forevermore have asshole stamped across your forehead. Good luck! Not.

I personally don't believe one needs to feel guilty about their own sexuality or another's sexual frigidity if they over-react.

I tell my girlfriend of over 2 years (which we have a daughter together) of all my sexual desires, some happen and some don't.