My eleven year old daughter has begun to tell a young boy that she loves him. How should I react? Should I be worried about her having sex?

If you haven't had the "birds and bees" chat yet, now would be a good time to start.

She should know exactly what sex is, how you feel about it, any cultural or religious stipulations you have about sex, and all of the expected consequences of sexual behaviour. She should be told that sexual feelings are normal and natural, but do not necessarily need to be acted upon.

Please, PLEASE do not be afraid of this talk with her. Do not assume the school, her friends, the television, or other family members are going to teach her what she needs to know. She has to hear it from you.

She will respect you more if you're open and honest with her, and talk with her as an equal, as opposed to instructing her as to what is expected of her and listing everything she's "not allowed to do".

You need to keep a CLOSE watch on her.

I am not going to tell you how should react or feel, that is up to you.

Saying I love you to someone does not mean, I want to have sex.


DO YOU PARENTAL RESPONSIBILITIES AND TALK TO YOUR CHILD ABOUT SEX.

well i would give her some time and see what happens if it goes to far tell her and let her break away.

she is so young to think about that!

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obviously, she has developed reaal feelings for each other. if you are worried about her having sex, know that she has a good education about what can happen to her if she does.

i would just try and explain to her what might happen if this boy were to pressure her into doing something. and that "i love you" is very special, and she needs to be absolutly sure how she feels

i think you should talk to her about sex

Yes you should but dont get mad and not let her see him ever again. Keep a very close eye on her but you dont want her to find out.

as many people have told you--TALK. make her feel welcome when you tell her the 'talk' is always a weird subject for kids with their parents so the best way of going about it is keeping your cool and talk to her as if you were her friend. Today's young girls all start saying 'i love you' to any boy a soon as they start 'going out' so it might not be too serious. Just talk about it and make sure she feels comfortable when you talk by reacting to her body language. if she begins to play with her hair or fingers then she doesn't want to talk so end it there and pick up the conversation later.

I think that you should tell your daughter 2 things:
1. If you haven't talked about "yoo hoo" then do it. Be sure to mention that she could get AIDS or STDS because kids can get confused if you are worried about her having sex.
2. You have to tell her that you don't tell a boy/man that you love them until you are making a commitment. That is a huge lesson.

*Be sure to tell her that it is okay if she has a crush or "likes" him, but loving a boy at young age is bad

NO NO NO NO NO SHE IS 11 AND HAS A CRUSH I PERSONALLY DON'T THINK SHE IS THINKING OF SEX NOW DO YOU

There is no falling in love age.I fell in love with a girl when i was 7.But i don't think an 11 year old girl can have sex.I mean,would you let your 11 year old daughter watch a sex scene?Problably no,you wouldn't.Then she is just a child.

well my cousin almost eleven and they already know about sex from tv shows and talking at school. make sure she has a curfew but if all she said was 'i love you' you shouldnt be worried. my cousin had a boyfriend, always said i love you, they NEVER EVEN THOUGHT about sex, but sadly it can happen. think about curfew and give her 'the talk.' tell her how you feel.

if she doesnt know what sex is yet, you should be fine ;)

Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Outside the already suggested "talk" if you have not given it, YOU DO have to be concerned. What messages she will get from TV, music videos and friends will be all faulse. There is hardly a seperation of sex from love. They are seen almost as intertwining. All he has to do is say it back and it can be on like Donkey Kong. They will think based off TV and othermedia that they have to and is expected to get freaky. Don't be fooled, kids today can't tell love from list anymore than they can tell a toadstool from a mushroom. Heck, many adults can't tell either.

I had my first crush when I was nine years old and in the third grade.

You shouldn't give her a sex talk, just yet, not until she reaches puberty. Stop overreacting.

If you haven't already, I'd say you should meet the boy, and if possible his parents. At least if two sets of parents are aware of the situation, it should be easier to handle in case of a problem.

keep a close watch on her and dont let them be totally alone and if youlet them be alone check in on them everyonce in a while.

Probably just "practicing." It's a good age to talk about safe sex, however. You never know when they will want to experiment and they need to do that safely.

if she is a really good kid who never really gets in trouble the dont worry about. i mean like yeah tell her about sex and make it sound kinda scary so she wont do it. but other than that i dont think you need to be concerned.

think about how much you know your daughter and think for a while would she do tht?
and ask if she know's about it?
and when a child her age say's i love you to a boy she just really like's him nothing will happen.
trust me im 11 and i've done tht befor.

A good friend of mine lives about 2 blocks away from the Middle School and noticed some kids go into her storm shelter in her back yard. She went out to see what they were up to and there were 2 boys and 2 girls all going at it. They were all 11 and 12 years old and come from very wealthy family's. Have you had "The Talk" yet?

she probably already had her period right but most 11 year olds dont get horny and boys are to nervous to anyways

She's only 11, think of it this way. She would be afraid. I know, I'm quite young and I love my boyfriend, but we aren't in it for the sexual stuff. Just ask a bit about him. If he's from a rough background, or had a 'history' with girls, start to think about chatting to her about the physical side of the relationship. I'm sure she will understand, and will respect the fact you don't want to risk losing your 11 year old virgin daughter. I'm sure she'll react fine.

hahahahah no! I'm 12 and I told my friends who I like and we all play around and they tell him I love him. Everyone does because they're just saying someone's crazy about them.

What we used to call "puppy love" is still alive and well today, the difference is young people are in a much different world than the one we lived in 30 and 40 years ago.

I think rather than being "worried" about her having sex is to talk with her (not to or at her)about the responsibilities of engaging in sex. You must realize when she makes up her mind to have sex she is going to do it regardless of what you or anyone else says, just like you yourself were when you decided to and for what reasons. Your responsibliiy should be to insure she knows how to have safer sex and removing the possibilty of becoming pregnant as much a possible.

Be sure she understands sex is not dirty but is beautiful and a beautiful gift but one to be done with responsibility. Don't threaten her this can open defiance of you love her regardless of what happens and give her space to learn whom she is.

I hope you understand what I am saying here. It is probably a little different than most will say. If you have questions please ask I will try to explain.

Time to tell her the difference between love and hormones. Love is a decision to choose what is best for the other. It has nothing to do with lust.

only if she is mexican if not ur all good

I have a little story, I fell in love wiht my wife Ellie the same way your daughter is in love (as you claim)boy your talking about, we were both young and best friends for a long long time, I was quite shy so i coudnt tell Ellie How i felt for about 2yrs because i would goof up somehow ad say it wrong accidently and end up offending her, i found out in the end that she had the exact same feelings of affection towards me and that she loved my goofy Shinanigans, we were together until adulthood wene i finally popped the question one night, she sad yes (if she had sed no i woudnt be using this story XD) and we were enaged, the wedding was georgeous and were stil ltogether today wiht 3 beutifull kids

The moral Is, True love is possible for anyone if you look i the right place's, u just gotta make sure that boy is the right one for your daughter, but just incase DO give her the birds and the bees chat

(PS : sorry if this post came in after you sorted out ur little problem was fixed, i hope it come sin handy for any other parent wiht this trouble)

So what if shes told a boy she loves him. She doesnt, just because shes said she does, doesnt mean she is and doesnt mean she will want to and will have sex with him!

I'm also 11 year old girl.

Of course you shouldn't. I know tons of 11 year olds who are already dating. They don't have sex.

Shes young, and she loves a boy!
Talk to your daughter, and tell her how she feels about him also tell her about limits between her and him, just don't talk to her about sex or anything like that.
Make sure she understands you and make her feel that she can always come back to you if anything happens to her.

Good luck

well no but i think she is tooooo young to be dating its fine for her to think someone is cute but i dont think she really knows what love is maybe you should ask he what she thinks love means :)

I think you may be worrying needlessly. Unless she's shown some signs of being sexually active, it's probably just a typical elementary school romance. It's possible to express affection at that age without being sexually active. However, I do agree with the other posters who say that you should have "The Talk" with her if you haven't already.

yes you should talk to her about sex and how bad it really is and what could happen to her!

if you havent had that "talk" its time to have it. tell her a story of how not waiting ended sad

You are the parent, remember? Keep them separated. No 11 year old should be in love with another 11 year old. This is ridiculous. They are babies for gods'sake.

So she has a crush, it's cute, don't worry about it. The best you can do is to give her a good education about reproduction, STDs, and prophylaxis. This way she will not face problems out of ignorance or lack of knowing how to prevent them.

The sex talk should have happened a long time ago.
Do you remember your first love? Wasn't it wonderful? Did you think about sex at that young age? Maybe. Mostly with myself.

Yep time to talk to her. Her body is beginning to crave.

Don't worry so much, but keep your eye on them both.
it might be a good idea to get to know the boy and his parents better, i think.

I would suggest giving her a book about "the birds and the bee's." Frankly, having "the talk" with your parent is uncomfortable, and embarrasing. It's much better to let a book do the talking for you, especially in girls. You don't need one that goes WAAY into the details, just one for preteens that covers the basics: hormones, boobs, periods, emotions, boys, bodies, and illnesses. (Anorexia, Bulimia, etc.) You can buy her another that goes into more details a little more into the future, like at 13 or 14. I wouldn't wait too long, you don't want her to be one of those kids who feels left out because they know nothing, and too afraid to ask their parents, but she doesn't need to know about sex and all that yet. Answer her questions, and don't make her feel bad or wierd about what's happening to her, and what's going on in her head, but also explain to her what you and her father feel would be appropriate at this age. A simple kiss on the lips isn't a big deal, honestly, but that's as far as I would go at this age. If she wants boys over, let them over, but don't let her go over to their houses, and make sure you know who the boy's parents are. You don't want her feeling like she has to sneak around to see them, you want her to be open about her interests to you, right? You want her to be able to talk to you about it? It's nothing to be worried about at 11, I would keep an eye on what she does in her teen years, but I'm sure there's no sex on her mind right now. Give it 2 weeks and she'll "love" another boy.