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by Mrs.Harwell on February 24th, 2009

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My husband wants to add another woman to our sex life and have a 3 way im ok with that but i think i would get mad if he entered her, can u set rules before you get things started? and how do i ask another girl to join us?

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  • by rebellious angel on October 23rd, 2011

    rebellious angel

    I say keep your bed free of such intruders. It would be hard for him not to enter because that is male instinct so might as well not go there

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  • by GaiasPet on May 24th, 2010

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    While I strongly disagree with morons who insist that swinging will always ultimately destroy a relationship, I do not think that acting out this fantasy this is for you at this time.

    I was in a married swinging relationship for over 20 years and would still be married to this wonderful woman if she had not met a tragic end. My present (open) marriage is still going strong and our sexual openness is very rarely the issue if and when we do have disagreements.

    My advise: If you have any jealousy issues and you have to worry about your husband wanting to do what comes naturally I would take a pass and leave this as a fantasy. For you it WOULD be playing with fire! However, if he is into watching girl-girl action and the physical contact is limited to only between the ladies and he only watches it could be fun.

    Good luck and good fun!

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  • by Larry on February 24th, 2009

    Larry

    First is he as open to a MFM threesome as you are to a FMF threesome, which will let you know what some his motives are. You and your husband both have to set the rule and boundaries that both of you know understands before contacting a third person. Before the playtime begins the third person need to know and understand the rule and boundaries. Be careful, threesome have worked well for my wife and I but are not for every relationship. It takes a lot of communication and trust.

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  • by anonymous on March 28th, 2009

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  • by Jonathan on March 28th, 2009

    Jonathan

    Always, rules first, and he does not have to enter her for you all to have a great time. As far as finding someone, when you go out and you are searching it will become obvious. All you have to do is invite someone back with you in a nice, non threatening way and you will know.

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  • by cari4her on March 22nd, 2009

    cari4her

    your playing with fire, it will seem erotic and first and you may even do it a few times, but it will ultimatley destroy your relationship, maybe not right way. but it will start a root, in you, maybe him, or even both. You may feel resentful seeing him touch another woman, he may see you as a lesbian, or a slut. And may himself feel resentment seeing you touch another woman. Even though a lot of men fantasize about it, seeing you do it may cause a root of bitterness to take root. You may enjoy it and become bi or even lesbian, one has to ask why you would be willing to do it? I'd say don't do it, you'll be sorry. and I'd hate to say I told you so, but it never ends good. I've seen it thousand times. But really think about what you may be doing, she may turn out to be a psycho and if she's a friend it may end your relationship. Your husband might fall for her, or it may lead to him seeking other women, or even you seeking other men or even women. She may fall for your husband or even you. All the above things have happened to people having threesomes, but the one thing that will happen even if the other things do not it will ultimatley destroy your relationship with your husband guaranteed, most times in just a few years, or sooner.

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  • by funtimegal on October 12th, 2011

    funtimegal

    Adding an extra to the bedroom can be very exciting and fun.... it can really put the spark back into things again. You can set rules before you decide to find someone to add to your sexual adventures. Talk with your partner and let them know your hang ups such as entering another woman, however if he is not to enter another woman then there will most likely need to be oral stimulation from and to all parties involved. i have found that females whom are not activly bi-sexual at times dont perform as well as i had hoped for. so for me the female must have been with several other females before i dont do first timers its just too much headake. my husband and i have rules and the most important is that i get alot of attention when adding anyone to our bedroom. As i love for things to be mostly about me in the beginning, and then i usually turn things to be all about my husband. This helps so that i know i wont feel left out or akward. usually your husband entering another person is not the real issue, the issue is the amount of attention you get during this process of adding someone. Also its is great to insert a sexual toy into the female you add and allow your husband to watch you screw the female, perhaps while he gets you from behind. it is really all about honesty and openness, your rules and limits should also be discussed with the person you are adding after they are set so that no missunderstandings are found once things get heated up.

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  • by DagnyTaggert on May 12th, 2010

    DagnyTaggert

    There are many different ways threesomes can turn out. My wife and I have acomplished it once, and tried another time with less then spectiaclar results. I have to agree with Larry above, and suggest you lay down groundrules with all the involved parties, BEFORE any touching begins. Two suggestions before you try anything though: Be very sure you and your partner understand what is expected of them and what they expect from you, and read Hemmingway's "The Garden of Eden". It is a short story, but atleast you will get an idea of some of the things that can go wrong. And for all the guys out there just dying to try this, its a lot more work then you think it is going to be. If you are the type that cums and wants to go to sleep, better leave this idea alone. (And yes, I know I cant spell)


    Also! I would disagree that if you wanted a FFM you would have to be up for a MMF. While I am willing to be involved in a FFM, I am not the one pushing for it to happen. The wife is curious about women, and therefor it is her who wants to add another into our bedroom life. Because I also enjoy women, I concent, but I am not intrested in Males, and would consider bring another male a betrayal, since she already has me!

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