ANSWERS: 18
  • Maybe he is in love, but honestly, it is time for you to move on. Why stay with someone who is not going the same direction as you? You deserve better.
  • he does have strong feelings for you, thats for sure but its better just to give him time because divorces are hard for some people
  • you bet your ass a man would say those things without meaning it!!! he is recently divorced, not looking for a commitment, but is enjoying the heck outta having someone waiting for him on the hook. this is sooooooooooo typical! BTW, i have been told those exact same words in that same situation. i think there must be a class that teaches them the lines to use that keep women on the line.
  • Hmmm... Sounds like his divorce made it harder for the wounded to love another, his desire to be loved. Perhaps he might be over his ex wife in his mind...but not in his heart. Please do not be offended by this. It is just how I see it.
  • Yes, if he's afraid of being alone, he'll say anything to keep you around. If he doesn't have a heart to give why is he trying to steal yours?
  • He's scared of hurting you because he knows he can't give himself yet - sadly, maybe never - to you. You might be surprised when he does give his heart - but it may not be to you. I've been there, got the tee-shirt and sadly, it still hurt like hell, whether he wanted it to or not! Get outta there while you can, if he loves you he'll come running. We can all be so hurt by relationships and it's sad when someone loves us and we're not ready but let's face it, not ready is simply not ready...
  • If his feelings are that strong I would suggest giving him space to get over his past. He clearly needs to work on it before he can give himself to you. I assure you it won't be worth the work if he's not over his divorce. If he truly loves you he will take the time to be whole for your relationship.
  • He loves you if he said that ..Hes scared of getting hurt by you though..You cant rush things like that because hes wounded he doestn trust you yet ..if you really love him you will stick around with him show him your here for the long run and he will begin to show and give u his heart.. but only if your there for the long run ,love can only mend his broken heart .
  • He is still bleeding right now with a lot of confusing emotions that he feels he needs to sort out. I can understand him feeling that way. The real question that you should be asking yourself is, "do you love him" I didn't see you comment on your feelings.
  • "Would a man say those things without being in love?" Yes. Those are EXACTLY the things a man who isn;t in love would say. I'm sure he's a lovely man. But he's telling you he can't give you what you need. It's time to move on. Dating Coach Lisa Daily Author of HOW TO DATE LIKE A GROWN-UP and STOP GETTING DUMPED! More advice on my blog at http://lisadaily.com/datingexperttv
  • Yes, AND WHO WOULDN'T. Thats Real Game Why not/ who wouldn't want cake and Ice Cream if they could have the best of both worlds.People often say the words I love you and have no real meanings to them at all.
  • He's scared of hurting you? Isn't he hurting you by giving excuses like that? He likes you and being with you but is not willing to make the ultimate show of love! I read on this other website about someone in a similar situation. They had counselors answering the persons question. They really stressed that you need to feel good about yourself and make decisions from that perspective. I would try them. They really know what they're doing and can help you make a strong and decisive decision that you can feel good about. The website is The Feel Better Network (www.feelbetternetwork,com) and they are pretty speedy with their responses (I know from experience). It costs nothing to join and they have a lot of useful information on the site.
  • I was in the same type of relationship and it lasted for 5 months. I know how hard it is to hear someone say all of these great things and then follow it up with "emotionally I'm not available". Please read this carefully. He is not in love with you, when he says that he is scared of hurting you, it's because he already know that he will. If he did love you then you would already have his heart. Pick up your pride and move on, tell him he needs more time to heal and that you are not comfortable being on the back burner and ask yourself why you think he really loves you when he is clearly sending "have my cake and eat it too" signals. If he were truly in love with you there would be no talk of "divorce damage", he is being inconsiderate of others even dating while feeling so "damaged". You have to first love yourself before you can love someone else!
  • Every day of the week.
  • If he himself is scared of hurting you, I would let him have his space right now or you really are going to end up getting hurt. It's clear that he's still in love with his ex otherwise he wouldn't still say that he's scared of getting involved with someone else because he is "damaged" by his divorce. I wouldn't go for this right now... +3
  • What he is saying is setting off alarm bells, because it really sounds like he is keeping his options open. . If he huts you later, he can say... 'I've always been honest with you' . Why are men so full of shit.
  • So what happened in his last marriage? A man (or woman) can say they love you and I am sure sometimes they mean it,but saying is easy,showing is not. IF he really is IN love with you and wants to be with you then he needs to close that chapter and and start another with new memories with you. If he can't do that, You need to decide what is best for you. Maybe you said it yourself...I am his his BEST FRIEND. Maybe that is the love he has for you. For me,Unless he can SHOW me (and I mean by moving on to a new life with you and letting go of the hurt)then I would would look for REAL LOVE somewhere else. Some People these days.they say I lOVE YOU as if it was no big deal.
  • I don't know. My gut feeling tells me he's taking you for a ride. I don't know how you feel about him.

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