Welcome to management! Which is what the majority of salaried positions are about. After 22 years of that insanity of mostly 70/90+ hours a week I had a ruptured brain aneurysm at the very young age of 52. And the owners never even visited me in the hospital. Wasn't that a kick in the pants? I felt like I raised my son on the fly while trying to keep their business going for them and I damned neared died for it. Though on the bright side, it was the first real vacation or sick time I had had in all those years. My best advise to you is first look at your home situation. Simplify your life style. Do you really need all the electronics, the closets brimming with clothes, the newest cars, the services, the eating out and so forth. Have a family pow-wow; see where you can trim/eliminate expenses. You really need to involve the entire family in this. They need to understand that your health and happiness is just as important and vital to the family as each of theirs. They don't want to give up their cell phones? Fine, they agree to stay with in the alloted minutes and you do away with the land line. Do you watch 1500 cable channels? Par down to basic cable and introduce family game night. The idea is to streamline your budget and your life. Then, find a job that will give you the freedom to enjoy your life. And most importantly, a job that you enjoy doing. One that you feel you are making a difference to somebody's world. A feel good job at a pay that will comfortably take care of you and your family at your new established budget and standards. Otherwise you may find yourself in my situation or even worse. After 22 years of work, I didn't leave with a gold watch, rather after 2 brain surgeries, I left with an erector set in my brain. I finally have my brain unscrambled after 2 years, though I still need the aid of a cane, have cranial palsy in my left eye which has effected my eyesight and simplying my life to living within disablity pay. My greatest adjustment has been not working out in the public. I've never been a lazy person, so this has been a huge shock to my system. But I have to tell ya, as much as I miss not working right now, and hope to get to the point when I can again, I've never been happier than I am right now. I sleep all night. I'm more relaxed. I didn't realize how much I had been missing not being with family and friends and doing things around the house. So in answer to your question, yes, it is very legal to make salaried workers work ridiculous hours for less pay. It's not right. It's not moral. However it is legal. Actually, I think salary is clingon for stupid or slave or something. Never-the-less, you need to find a sense of joy in your life. The next thing you need to do is to write and Action Plan for your Happiness. I wish you all the best in this venture. ~ang
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Good advice, if only he was making enough money (unfortunately he isn't a real manager yet) for us to downsize from it. We have to share one car that is now never in town, no land line, I wish we had that many cable channels. Fortunately it is just the two of us because otherwise we'd be underwater right now (can't afford kids anytime soon). But I do hope that he can find another job. I'll pass your advice along, since that's the scenario I fear is playing out.
by Anon on January 31st, 2007