If my fiance is away for 6 weeks and he tells me he won't do anything bad behind my back while he is gone, should I trust him, even if he has done things in the past? He asks me to trust him, but how?
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The only thing you can do is trust him until you find out he is cheating or with someone else. you can't really do anything without evidence cuz he'll just keep denying it.
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I don't know how true the saying is "once a cheater always a cheater". But I'd say chances are 50/50. If he had such tendency in the past I'd not fully trust him.
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trust him give him another chance
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While it's true that trust has to be earned, it also has to be given. At some point, you have to decide that you want to stay with him and trust him or that he's not trustworthy in which case, you'd just drive yourself and him crazy.
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So, you are alone for 6 weeks huh? Need some company? lol
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Trust. Or do not trust. It's that simple. But in either case, quit worrying about something you have no control over. (I'm assuming you are talking about cheating here) The simple fact of the matter is this: He's going away for six weeks and you can do nothing about that; nor can you change his behavior, whatever he chooses to do while he's gone. So, as the old serenity prayer goes: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference." Since you can do nothing about it, quit worrying about it. It will do you no good and may, in fact, be detrimental to your relationship even if he is faithful to you. Trust is earned: That's the hard part HE has to do, with his history. But to trust another person requires that YOU take that first step along the path yourself, no matter what he is doing. THAT'S the hard part YOU have to do. Now, if you should find out later that he did cheat on you, THEN you can take action.
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If it's a constant thing, why are you still with him? If you like him that much why not just open your relationship so you both can date other people? It seems like you forgive him for doing stuff, why not just get it out in the open and okay it. Be polyamory.
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He's done it in the past and says trust him, right HA HA
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