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  • Alot of little questions here. I don't trust people of the other gender particularily at the moment, due to a history of others cheating on me. I have had three girlfriends, and I am 22.
  • Only 5 real guys and I was married to my school love and divorce because he him and his sister and now married to my husband for 26 years. I have been far in between guys. I am now 56.
  • I had 5 guys altogether. Married to 2 and this last one for 26 years. But only a fool will trust a lover married or not and I found that out the hard way.
  • I have had three really serious relationships but I have dated about 6 guys and I am 26. I never had trust issues with any of them until I got with the guy I am with now. He has never actually done anything with anyone else (cheated or whatever) that I know of, but I have read emails where he talked about hooking up with them. He does not understand why I have these issues since he never actually acted on anything. It's so hard to tell when people are lying to you because in this day and age, so many people are masters at lying.
  • I had tons of boyfriends growing up but really only 3 or 4 serious longer term relationships. I am married to one of those relationships now. I trusted all of them because without trust you don't have a basis for a relationship.
  • Given that I am currently single (and likely to stay that way) I cannot answer regarding a current partner. However, I can answer regarding previous partners. Yes, I always trust my partners, even though I have been cheated on a few times. Once you stop trusting them, then the relationship is over, no matter what you try to do to mend it. To be honest, I treat all my partners as friends that I like enough to sleep with (and I never sleep with someone unless I want a relationship with them). I believe that the most important thing in any relationship is that you are friends first and foremost (preferably best-friends), so I dont really treat my partners much differently than I would treat a friend of the opposite sex, apart from the sex part (obviously I don't sleep with just friends, but only with my partner). I am 38 and, to be honest, I can;t remember how many partners I have had. Not because there are lots of them (there certainly aren't that many of them), but because I am on a lot of pain-killers, so can barely remember my name a lot of the time. I don't think that there have been more than 10 though. I know that I started late, because I never had a girlfriend while I was at school (I was always the school joke and girls were never interested in me in that way), but there are huge periods of my life where I cannot remember what I did for a few years at a time. One wonderful story that examplifies my inability to remember things like that is that I met someone (over the internet actually), began dating them, and then eventually moved cities to live with them. I had noticed that many of the people that she knew seemed to know me fairly well (although I could not remember many of them, due to my poor memory, so I disregarded this as being normal for me to have people that know me but I can;t remember them). I made some comment about how strange it was that we seemed to know many of the same people, but had never met before. She replied "what do you mean we'd never met before? We lived together for 3 years previously!" How's THAT for embarrassing? I had begun a relationship with someone I had previously had a relationship with before, but couldn't remember them from before! <blush>

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