ANSWERS: 4
  • You answered your own question, you don't think he likes you. Are you thinking that asking him will make him like you? Or would it just make you both feel akward. I'd try to get to know him better and get some clearly positive signals first, maybe make it a goal for the next dance.
  • Well, I would say go for it, but with caution... First, make him familiar with you: I'd find a place where you can talk to him. If this is in class, talk and flirt with him a little more than usual. Make eye contact with him. Keep this eye contact while he talks to you, but not obsessively. Second, show interest: As you talk to him, find out more about him. Something I've learned from my girlfriend is this: when she shows genuine interest in what I have to say, it is one of the most attractive things ever. If you can talk to him casually about his activities and remember little details he tells you, it will last long. Third, make your move: After you are on more familiar terms with him and you are each comfortable around each other, make your move. To do this, I'd first find a location or a time when only you two are in the immediate vicinity. This means that if you and him are in a hall together or see each other out of school, that is the time. Start a casual conversation but hold eye contact a little longer than you normally would (don't make it creepy :p) Do not be abrupt or he will get intimidated. Say something like: "So ya, the dance is coming up. Do you have a date?" or "Hey are you going to the dance?" Then: "Would you like to go to the dance with me?" "Well, could we go to the dance together?" Even if he says "sure, but just as friends," you've got the date with him and given time, I'm sure that you could achieve a relationship if you were to wish it. If worse comes to worst and he says no, do not feel bad or give up. Keep talking to him and showing him that his friendship is the most important thing to you will go a long way. If he tells you no, casually ask him again in a day or two. He probably told you no out of lack of self confidence or intimidation the first time. Tell me how it works out!
  • Pretend, even to yourelf, that you don't REALLY like him (Not despise, just doesn't matter) when/if you ask him. Then you won't look desperate & you've got a better chance of getting to him. Note: this is harder than it sounds if you REALLY like him.
  • Just be yourself and ask him out.

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