Is a single incident of domestic violence a good reason to divorce? (My wife hit me last night and I am moving out today)

Definitely. No 2nd chances.
 
Men should have zero (0) tolerance for domestic violence just like women. Whatever you do, do NOT let her talk you into giving her a second chance.
 
There are plenty of peaceful women out there. Get your divorce and go find yourself one.

Yes. Dump her and don't look back. Be sure to take the kids with you.

Yes it is!!!
She simply wouldn't have done it if she respected & loved you............. lets face it if a woman asked this question everyone would say leave!!!

Oh, no she didn't! Look man, cut her loose. It ain't got nothin to do with whether you love her or not. She don't love you, period.
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It don't make no sense to be living with a woman who's gonna be crackin you upside yo head when she feels like it. Fuhgit dat.
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Get yourself a girlfriend and let her do the divorce.

If she is the type that abuses feminism so she can get away with it, yes. If she sees this pattern of her getting away with it, she could keep pushing your buttons until you even yell or push her one time then she'll call the cops on you and all the times she abused you won't even be checked into because the man is automatically the violent husband.

God damn right it is, no man or women should have to put up with it, and those who called you names for asking this question need to grow the fudge up!!!!!!!!!

I think it's an acceptable reason to divorce. Domestic violence is a terrible answer to conflict. If the person who loves you is willing to resort to physical violence to express themselves, it means they have a problem. Lack of self-control, anger management issues, or just plain disrespect - hitting someone is crossing a line that I believe should not be crossed.

I would not stay with my partner if he hit me, and I think even once would be a deal-breaker for me.

Yes, get out now before it gets worse. Once a beater always a beater. Abusive women (and men) are like pedophiles, you can't reform them.

Yes actions speak louder then words

I can't answer that for you. It may never happen again, it might. You have to decide that for yourself. Only you know the circumstances surrounding it and your history together. You have to do what you see as being right, not what others think you should do.

Yes.

Yes, unless she begged on her hands and knees for forgiveness and accepted complete responsibility. Otherwise, tell her you're going to start shopping for a new wife while the divorce is in progress.

yep...move out and file for divorce! If someone hit you once, they'll hit you again.....

I think it would depend on a number of things. How long have you been married. Was there something particularly stressful happening the day she hit you. Do you see her temper as something she can't control. People make mistakes and do things they are sorry for. Again, depending on the circumstances, you might not want to make that move immediately. Give it a week but let her know you are going to consider it for a week so she understands how much this has affected you. Good luck.

sorry to hear of your issue ---- moving out for the time being is a good idea, but if you love your wife, get marital counseling to seek out why she did this and then determine if a divorce is in order. good luck to you

Damn skippy!! That is why they shoot dogs that bite. If she did it once and got away with it she will do it again.

I don't need to take that, and I wouldn't take it.
I have too much self-respect. Plus, there are too many single women out here looking for a good man.

Oh, I would divorce her in a NY minute. There's too many sweet, fine peaceful women out here to deal with a beater who might kill you in your sleep. I hope you got out the heck out o there and found yourself a peace loving woman.

ONE TIME IS ONE TIME TO MANY............YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, GET OUT OF THE SITUATION AND KEEP GOING!

Different people react differently with domestic violence.

People who love each other eventually get back together and all is forgiven.

Others, it takes only one time, depending on what was said and the seriousness of the assault.

Many times, i have answered domestic violence calls to the same couple.

Some couples tend to have more violence than others. the object for the police is to prevent the assaults before they arrive at a death situation.

Your leaving was a good move. let tempers calm down and give it two or three days before attempting contact by either party.

Remember, the old saying, "sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me".

This does not apply in domestic violence.

Be careful what you say.

I'm on. . . . . .YOUR. . . . .side! Physical abuse, from either partner, is a "deal" breaker!

I don't care if she hits like a sissy girl and a 3 year old could have hit you harder...there is ZERO excuse. Male or female, doesn't matter, no one should live with that!

I hope you moved out and divorced her. There's no such thing as a single incident, only the first incident. If my wife ever did that, I'd pack my things and not look back. There's enough good women out here to have to not have to put up with a crazy.

I'd say so. She might throw a hot plate of grits on you next time. Move out tonight and file for divorced tomorrow.

It's really up to you. I've been through that shit before, (not married) but if someone EVER treats me like that again, I'm ending things immediately.

Yes, it is a valid reason. However, if you have kids, saving a marriage, if at all possible, is always preferable for their sakes. Still, you should not enable abuse by just accepting it because she's a woman and you're a man.

The best option may be to separate until such that she gets counseling and gets cleared by the counselor (yes, she can give the counselor permission to speak to you about her case in or out of her presence).

The worst option is to stay and do nothing about the abuse because it is likely to recur, get worse, and possibly spread to the kids, which would be worse for them than a divorce.

I know I would divorce her in a NY minute. If she hit me once, there's no telling what she'd do the next time she gets PO'd. I wouldn't spend another night in the house with her. I hope you got the heck out of there and found yourself a peace loving woman.

You seem kind of wimpy. I mean, go ahead and cry in your room. Divorce the woman...wah wah wah, serves her right. Right? You seem like a baby.

I think you had your mind made up already - this was the icing on the cake. I don't want anyone to hit anyone - but I got to wonder what did you say? She's a woman and unless she is your size and can wallop up a hit - was this her intention. Before I get hit with all sorts of accusations - I am asking you?

Yes my father only hit my mother once and he all most killed her honestly he did-She only left him becuse he was threating to thorw me out of a window if she left him and I was only 2 months old at the time so yes


They've been dovorced for a long time now I belive that she did the right thing

No. Unless she put you in the hospital or damaged you permanently somehow, if it's an isolated incident, you're just looking for an easy out. You clearly have some issues to talk through with her in a counseling setting with a mediator present. Through counseling you may be able to rediscover the reasons you first got together - that or you will come to a mutual conclusion that your differences are irreconcilable. Either way, you should be in counseling with her.

Understand, by your posture, that of moving out rather than kicking her out for hitting you, you've demonstrated an admission of culpability as well as your predisposed eagerness to leave her. It begs the question as to whether or not you did something drastic enough to deserve getting hit. Also, your choice of category is rather telling.

I don't even know where to start with advice. I am against violence and divorce.....but know that.....Recent statistics indicate that during the six months after a single episode of domestic violence, 32 percent of victims are victimized again......you move out today and return under better conditions......she may realize her wrong doing and never do it again but, it really depends on her self-control.

No and stupid if you have children. If there's a concern, file a restraining order against her for her to move. Right now your ass is grass and you gave her the lawn mower. She can now file against you.

Get into counseling with her.

If there are children, write me.

Keep walking. Don't look back. A single will turn into a double,triple and so on.
I am female just FYI and NO ONE...NO ONE has the right to raise thier hand to anybody.
I've been divorced now for 7 years. For that reason...It DOESNT STOP. The I"M SORRYS' go on forever too. I have been with a man now for 5 years. never raised a hand to me. He asked me to marry him,I said. Yes,BUT not right now.
IT'S CHEAPER TO CALL A TAXI THAN A LAWYER.
Good Luck to you. I don't care what was said it the moment of anger or what ever"brought that on" doesn't give the right to hit. When it get heated.Someone needs to walk BEFORE it gets to the point of no return.

Hitting someone once is one time to many.......good for you. I would have been out the door had my husband ever attempted to even raise his hand in anger

I have read some of the other comments on here, and your negative reaction. You seem to already have your mind made up so why bother to ask your question ? You seem like a weirdo, and need to get a life and move past your wife hitting you because let's be honest unless she hit's like a man you are probably okay. Divorce her and get over it your annoying.

First off (Inigo Montoya . . . prepare to die) I love the movie Princess Bride good name ! Now to answer you question did she throw something or just hit you in the face ? Did you do something to provoke her ? Not to say she still had any right to actually hit you. Dependes was this a one time thing your entire marriage was like a love story and then one night she flipped out ? Ha ha Or you were already having problems and this was the last straw ? It's your call!

Only you know what you are willing to accept. But, to say she hit you could mean whacked you on the arm jokingly, likes guys do. So, you must decide this one.

No. It may or may not happen again, but I have been through it with my ex and we went to counciling and everything worked out. He never touched me again.

Yes, because there is never a single incident, only a first incident. If she did it once, she'll do it again.

I don't see what choice you have. You can't call the cops. They will just arrest you. But, once she's out of the house, get a restraining order.

I would never hit a woman, and I expect the same from the opposite sex. There were many factors that made my dicision to file for divorce, but the day my wife attacked me was the final straw.

id say YES. no one deserves to endure violence, especially not from the one who is supposed to love them

There is never an excuse for violence and I think you have to do what is right for you, no-one else knows your situation like you do. Someone hitting another is not acceptable and that person made a consious decision to do it. I wish you all the best.

No. Talk about it. Try and work it out. Go to counseling. Don't throw away a marriage because of one mistake.

I always give a person a second chance. What it something you said? Was it unprovoked? What caused her to hit you? Have you hit her in the past? Were you hurt physically or emotionally? There are many reasons for divorce, however did you get married for the right reason in the first place. My parents got divorced and so did I. The children suffer the most.

Although I am totally against violence from anyone I think this answer would depend on a couple of things. How long have you been married? Was there something that precipitated the violence? By that I mean did the person doing the hitting have a particularly difficult day. I guess what I am getting at is that everyone has a breaking point and even though it shouldn't come out in a violent way, it might happen just once. All factors have to be taken into consideration. If it is a case where someone has anger issues that is an entirely different story and you are right to move out as it is unlikely to change without a lot of help.

When ever the subject of domestic violence comes up it pisses me off because of the double standerd. It's funny because when I read a question from a woman saying what should I do if I'm in an abusive relationship, she will get about 500 responses from women saying something like you should pour honey on his nuts and let a bear rip them off, or blow his brains out. But if a man asks the same question he'll get answers saying, violence is bad or some lame answer like that. Or sometimes you'll get some feminist bitch who will tell you to man up and you probably deserved it.

I'm sorry about the situation you were in, but leaving the bitch was a great idea. Now days us men are walking on egg shells because of the mistakes that grandpa made back in the day. Every man needs to watch his ass, because you could get arrested if your wife wanted it with just a phone call, now that is equality.

If my husband hit me, yes, I would leave. I am glad that you understand that it is the same for you. Never let anyone hit you.

I think one thing to keep in mind is that while men are always taught never to hit a woman, the same is not said to women. It was wrong of her to do that of course, and I think some time apart would be a good idea. But you might consider explaining to her that her hitting you is just as bad as you hitting her would be. She may just not have seen the connection. Of course you should also factor in how she normally acts, is she normally prone to violence, throwing things, hitting walls, etc.