ANSWERS: 32
  • how old was the daughter? It's weird and possibly cruel.
  • It all depends how fat mom is.
  • I think that's quite cruel. It's also not a very effective parenting strategy. Studies show that being a dick is not a good way to improve your child's life.
  • It seems uncivilized. Is she a sociopath????????
  • I think she a rotten, cruel, bitch!
  • Well, I have a teenage daughter and she can be downright evil. One time, when her attitude was so that I couldn't tolerate it anymore, (rude, ungrateful, attacking), I kept my lunch plans with a friend and told her she could have a sandwich when we got home. She chose to sit in the car while we ate, although I told her she could come in and have something to drink.
  • I think that's rather... childish. She's not a very good parent.
  • Very mean. Using food is never a good parenting strategy. Unless its like no desert if you don't finish your dinner. But not a whole meal, and to sit and watch that is very cruel. I wonder how old the child is.
  • That is horrible. The mother is obviously not mature enough to know how to deal with situations appropriately. She's modeling wrong techniques for her daughter as well.
  • That's horrible!
  • That is psychotic.
  • Depending on her age, this could be classified as abusive.
  • That is a ridiculous punishment. Makes you wonder why some women have kids!
  • I don't think food should be used as a punshiment or as a reward, either. To punish a child by saying "no dessert tonight" is one thing, but to tell the child they can't eat at all is different. Maybe the mother should have chose the child's meal instead of letting her order anything she wanted from the menu, but not keep her from eating at all while she had to watch her mother eat. Food used as a reward or punishment either one can lead to severe psychological and weight issues later in life.
  • That's terrible. Food in a necessity not a luxury or reward.
  • I'm sure mom will be perplexed one day as to why her kids hate her and want to be as far away from her as possible. I think the key to discipline is the kids have to feel it is just. They don't have to like it or agree with it, but if they feel it is just, they won't hate you for it.
  • poor parenting skills! Shes a nasty heartless bitch!
  • There are too many unknowns in your question, eg., the child's age and the reason(s) for her mother's anger. Looking at the circumstances from a devil's advocate perspective, let's say the child is quite young and, say, last evening they also went out to eat and the child, unhappy about something, pushed all of her food off the table and onto the floor...for the waitstaff to clean up. Let's also say that the child was not in the least bit remorseful for her actions. Mom may have decided that, instead of popping her one, it would be better to set an example the next evening by refusing to allow the child to dine as well-mannered children do. It might not be MY style of "discipline" but, as I said, your question lacks necessary details to understand the circumstances and events that provoked the mother's actions. I hope mom saw to it that the daughter was properly nourished at home, before or after the dinner.
  • I think that it is messed up.
  • that is cruel. and nasty.
  • that cruel ,nasty,childdish,
  • Given the information in the question, and in some comments, the mother comes off as a real nut job. But I do want to mention a couple of things to people talking about using food as a reward or punishment. I can't imagine ever depriving a child of food as being a sensible punishment. But giving treats (reasonably) to reward good behavior isn't that bad an idea. By and large, a person never goes too far wrong treating their children like pets, and vice versa.
  • I think that this is an example of the "unspoken" abuse that goes under-reported and un-punisehd. That lady needs to get some mental health therapy before her abuse get's out of hand, if it has not already done so.
  • jeez, what a cow
  • you shouldn't punish kids with food or lack there of.
  • excuse my french but the woman sounds like a fucking idiot!
  • That was definitly not the correct way to handle that situation...that mom continuing to deal with situations in that way could lead to the child having psychological issues later on, and can cause issues with her childs kids later on and that child learning from her mom incorrect parenting techniques
  • You both have some very good points. My personal experiences of course have affected my opinions. I was considered a "troubled" child who acted out, but if anyone had bothered to find out that I was getting the crap beat out of me at home, I might have received assistance instead of just being labeled a "bad child". So of course I admit my projections here. But I also worked as a nanny for many years, being the most kind and gentle nanny one could ask for because I absolutely hated violence, I never even raised my voice to the kids. I found that even kids who weren't being physically abused acted like brats if their parents didn't pay attention to them, as a way to get attention. I suppose that there could be various reasons why children are bad, but it is difficult for me to think of a reason that does not involve their upbringing. Aside from them having mental disorders, of course.
  • depends what she did,i personally wouldnt do it but eating out is a treat and if you've been bad then have to be punished. lets hope she fed her when she got home tho!
  • Ok,if it was a young child it's clearly child abuse.You have to feed a growing body.Bribing ,punishing,rewarding with food is totally wrong.It gives the food a power and importance which can lead to serious issues.
  • What a freak.
  • I've had my mother totally ignore my needs for two days when I was 9yrs old - I think it was her childish stubborness that made her that way. The cause of this was I chucked a fit at her coming home at 11pm instead of 8pm. It's bad parenting true, but everyone has personality flaws sometimes more than others- try talking to your friend or if it occurs more often just report it. Imagine being starved by your mother- horrid isn't it?

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