Female, during sex, do you prefer a spank or get your hair pulled?
Guys, which one do you prefer to do?

I confess that a stinging, red bottom makes me start to go crazy. When certain men hold me down and give me a thrashing--well there's nothing like it.

When Milord approaches in his riding boats, riding crop in hand,well, I really can't go on...but I can tell you that I would never leave him...

How about if I pull your hair and smack you upside your little head?

Neither.
If a woman/girl wants me to, I will for her, but, I dont prefer to do either.
Just old school I guess
( i have only been with 1 woman who liked real rough love sessions... IT was a turn off for me!)

neither, I want to love her not hurt her.

Definitely hair pulled... but gently. I'm liable to sucker punch anyone who YANKS my hair... and we don't even want to get me started on how I'd react if someone slapped my booty. Just ask my boyfriend about the last time he tried the "slap-grab-jiggle" move on me. LOL

neither...sex is supposed to be pleasurable. I know that some people don't mind but, though I have a high tolerance to it, I find NO pleasure in pain.

i rather get spanked because my man pulls my hair to rough..lol. but spanking is the best.

Spanking is more for foreplay for me because of how my mom used it as a punishment when I was younger. I guess she thought embarrassing me with spanking would make me behave. She insisted spankings happened on my bare butt and at the time and place of my being bad. Again I guess for maximum embarrassment.

The thing was I got sort of a rush out of having my pants pulled down in public places. I was young so it wasn't exactly sexual but it was like this whole naughty fun feeling. So I sort of egged her on for spankings when we were in public. At some point my dad tried to make her stop, but she still did it when it was just her and I for quite a while.

I remember my last one was when I was ten in K-mart and I threw a toy I wanted that she wouldn't buy down on the floor knowing full well I would get spanked. Sure enough shorts and panties went down and she swatted me five times the usual number. Some how during the scuffle of the spanking my flip flops shorts and panties ended up off me and she was screaming for me to get dressed. I wasn't cooperating. There were a lot of people looking, security got involved etc. The spanking stopped.

Now of course spanking brings all those naughty girl thoughts back. I also love birthday spankings for the same reason plus I get to struggle and try to get away which always causes nice gropings. lol

In sex though hair pulling is cool along with biting and pinching. A little pain seems to go good with sex. But for me use the spanking to get things going and bring the naughty girl out. Then bite scratch and pull hair. Just remember that I bite too. LOL

Neither
but I would not tell anyone but who i was with anyway, so whatever i say could be a lie .

I like hair pulling and when it's done gently (more like tugging) and I luuuuv spankings. And it doesn't mean you're hurting her or that it isn't pleasureable, it's up to the person, for me it is extreeemely pleasureable and I find it very loving because well main reason I love having it done to me and He's doing it for me. But I'm also in the aly lifestyle and am a sub to my Dom so spanking is a staple, we've never had a session without it, it's like kissing or caressing to other people during sex, a common part of it. I love everything about it, the submissiveness of it, loss of control, the playful punishment of it, the hot tingly sting, the sound, and depending on my mood sometimes a hard spanking that brings tears to my eyes. You'd be very surprised at what some kinds of rough sex/slight-to-moderate pain (or extreme for some people, I'm not really into the reeeeal hardcore stuff where it's 100% pain but then again it's subjective) are very cathartic and a deep solid way of releasing stress or emotions that you wouldn't know how to or aren't allowed to in reality. It's all in the psychology of bdsm/alt life. For example one particular time He did it to me, I had a rough day before that and was upset/angry and didn't know how to deal with it. I was in a deeper more extreme mood the next day when He was with me and I asked Him if He could spank me harder than usual. He did, it hurt good, I cried and omg what a release! Don't mean to sound cliched but the floodgates opened and all those pent up difficult emotions I didn't know how to cope with came rushing out through my tears and physical reactions from the physical pain. Afterwards I felt so exhausted but in a good way, like when you've bottled up a months worth of anger and finally bet the crap out of a punching bag or told off someone who pissed you off. It was amazing. Sorry for the looong post but it can definitely be a good coping mechanism as well as other aspects of bdsm play.

I would take the spanking. My hair is layered now and it's difficult to grab and pull.

I do not care for either one, thanks.

I like all of it. I like to be used. I do not understand why people are angry about a question like this in the fetish section of a site!

I thought this was so we could explore our crzy and unusual desires.

I want to be treated roughly and I want to be taken. That is how I feel. Pull my hair and spank me. Cuff me and slap me around a little even. It turns me on.

Loaded question, but I have to say, I am definately a lover of having my hair pulled. I Like it rough, I guess you would say, thank God, my husband knows just how to be for me tee hee! OK, that is all the info you will get about me in bed ha ha!

I would have to say spank! It's a good sexual motivation for me, and I love the stroke of his hand. It's just a step up before we get in intense lovemaking.

I could enjoy both. I think having him hold tightly to my hair while he's doing it from behind is very erotic... It's like he's got the reins or something...

I like both but I prefer a good spanking to the hair pulling!!

I prefer both! I don't mind, I'm a veteran of rough, hard sex. I find both to be sexy turn-ons.

Pulled hair is awesome as long as its not to rough

If my hair is in a pony tail, then hair pulls, maybe with a bit of light choking. If not my hubby tends to pull my hair unevenly, which hurts in a not-good way, so I'd take the spanks over that.

i like a little of both they can both turn me on or off if its too rough, but licking and sucking and kissing works too

You can smack me around as long as I give my consent.
It always depends on the person though.

I like both, but being spanked is especially hot.

As a guy, I can be any woman's slave. So if she wants spankin and hair pullin I have no choice but to obey.

=)

As a guy, I can be any woman's slave. So if she wants spankin and hair pullin I have no choice but to obey.

=)

i prefer my hair defiantley pulled !!!! its not painfull and it really excites me..

my lady loves otk spanking she c*ms so many times it really get her off and I will do anything to pleasure her in anyway she likes

My boyfriend pulls my hair a bit when we do it doggy style,but it doesnt hurt its a gentle pull and is quite sensuous its nice so id say my hair :)

Mmm, both. I very much enjoy a little pain with my pleasure. I love when my husband pulls on my hair when we're having sex, sort of to say "I'm in control" and that turns me on. Of course, it's also fun being the dominant one ;).

I've never had my hair pulled by I was smacked once and surprisingly liked it alot. I would like to experiment with both more but I'm way too scared to ask my boyfriend.

Hit me hard on shoulder blades, I get a rush. But thats for special occasions I like slow soft sex actually

Partial to a bit of both when the mood suits, usually after a bottle of wine! instead of being spanked i prefer a squeeze!

I prefer to have my hair pulled

It just depends how the woman wants to be treated, my wife is a Tomboy through and through. she changes the oil on the car and helps me fix stuff all the time.

my favorite part is the clean-up, but all day long I have been rubbing, pinching and nuzzling her so when all is done and the clean-up begins she usually says the night is Loooong.

Then the fun begins in the shower where the soap does its job and my hands grip her firmer, then later the Endorphines have kicked-in and firm grab of her butt just does'nt matter to her.

But the thrusting and thrashing she does while on top can only be limited by gripping her sides and her nipples/boobs as she goes into overdrive, sore for severaldays after only to ask for even more!

I prefer tp spank my partner. It turns me on when I am beind my partner and as I am in my rythm, I gove her a little spank. I also like role play and have my partner lower her panties and bend over my lap so I can genly spank her. It is a really erotic way of foreplay.

I like getting my hair tugged on, I have long hair so i like it tugged on at the ends of my hair. It doesn't hurt at all, it's a turn on!

Hair pulled (not yanking it out)

Ive had both done. Do not pull my hair it doesnt turn me on it pisses me off. A little spank on the ass never hurt..that doesnt turn me on either but if he wants to do it go right ahead.

I don't like either one. I am not turned on by aggressive sex.

Hair then the spanking

As a guy, I can be any woman's slave. So if she wants spankin and hair pullin I have no choice but to obey.

=)

As a guy, I can be any woman's slave. So if she wants spankin and hair pullin I have no choice but to obey.

=)

spanking makes me think of being a bad kid when i was little and that all goes to mom and dad so its def a turn off but if you tug the hair enough to pull my closer to you for a gentle kiss I don't have a problem coming from a girl who loves to be bit on the ribs scratched across the stomache and a few other things...

I had a girlfriend that likes both. There is an ideal sexual position for this and she wouldn't do it any other way.

I like a little of both. I remember once doggy style getting my hair grabbed and gently pulled (like reins) and for some reason it was so hot... I'll never forget that feeling so I like some of that.

Hair pulled :-)

Oh... I like both... Oh wait, doing it? Oh no, not my cup of tea. But if she wants to spank, or pull my hair... Big turn on.

When doing it doggie style, I like to put my left thumb in her ass, and spank her with my right hand, while yelling yee hah.

I prefer to pull hair, but lightly, as I'm running my fingers through it. Spanking is not a bad second choice however.