Are you constructive or destructive in your relationships and friendships - What good advice do you have
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Patti jo
ANSWERS: 13
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Constructive I think. Work at it. and discuss any problems before they become too big to overcome
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I'm probably more constructive than anything. My only big problem is that I always lock myself into a self-destructive cycle with my relationships, I give, and I give, and just end up getting hurt, and feeling guilty that I don't have more to give. I throw my self-interest out the window, and just end up helping others, but ruining myself. It's really not a good thing.
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I think there is a bit of both in everybody. I try to be honest with myself and with others. "To thine own self be true" is a good rule; don't take shit from anybody, but try to practice forgiveness and tolerance, including with yourself. It is a fine line sometimes...
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I think that I am very constructive. I rarely lose friends, though the one that I did was my fault. I keep friends for lifetimes. I like friends and they mean a lot to me. More than most relatives, though the relationship is different. I would guess that I have four real friends, and dozens of other friends, and still more hundreds of acquaintances. I dont give up on friends, and never get offended for minor things like "you didn't call me," or "you forgot my birthday" or "it's your turn to pay."
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I used to think I was terribly constructive. I'm only now realising how DEstructive I could be. So I'm both (like anyone else really). Advice? Don't ever assume you're the sane, normal, constructive, helpful one and the other has 'all the problems'. Don't assume that just because you have some destructive bahviours that you therefore cannot have a healthy relationship. Remember that allowing people to help you is a form of giving too. That feeling you get when you are able to help someone out of trouble? You're allowing them to feel that too. Don't be too proud.
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I try to be the constuctive force in my relationships. And that's easy in friendships. However, I have found that I can be very destructive in romantic relationships. Mostly because I have this insane fear of losing control or of not being heard. And Jay was the only man who could not only understand that, but put me at ease.
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I think that I'm more destructive because I always end up kind of pushing him away by ignoring him, not calling, flirting with other guys and such. Or just pretending I'm not into him until I am completely NOT into him. I think I'm just to scared to let someone that close to me...to trust someone that much that they know how much they mean to you scares the crap outta me. I think some good relationship advice is to pay attention and really see in between the lines so that you know whats truly going on.
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I am definitely destructive...I make friends and then sooner or later something will just "happen" and i will end up not talking to them or something. I guess my advice would be to be honest from the beginning and dont hold anything back. Cause if it all comes out during a fight...well...goodbye haha
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I'm a live and let live kinda guy.
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I think I'm pretty constructive....I try and be honest...not too selfish...mostly! lol
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im a bit of both i suppose advice... do not take any thing 4 granted and assume you will have it all your just asking 4 dissapointment thinks take slowly so think of today and never tomorrow!
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I should think I’m destructive, I constantly test the parameters of my friendships and I’ve always found it difficult to form a friendship... the only thing I can say is, don't, just don't. The fact is, if you keep testing then eventually there going to leave. Then the fun stops.
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i would say both destructive and constructive. in general i try to be constructive but i still have issues with being self destructive that makes me hold back or shut down... my advice would be to be empathetic and listen.
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