What can i do to make my boyfriend want to spend more time with me and be more focused on me?
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I mean this with the most kindness...don't be so needy and self-absorbed. No one wants to be with someone that is demanding that they be with them. It's kinda like when my mom was mad at me and would say "come here, now" and I didn't want to go over because I knew she was gonna smack me.
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Well you need to find a compromise: is he neglecting you or are you asking too much of him? If he really isn't spending enough time with you, ask yourself why. Is it because he is very busy at the moment? Is it temporary or is it always like this? if it's always like this, tell him he needs to make the time for you or else... If you are just asking too much, try to tell yourself that every time you feel left out. In my experience, my bf wasn't spending as much time with me as usual, and i realised that it was because he had ALOT of work so I let it be. Now everything is peachy again. You just have to understand the cause before you can try to find a solution. Hope that helps
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Truthfully? I'll give you a bit of an insight into men. They like to pursue. If you make things too easy for him, he'll be far less focused on you. There is a book out there called "The Rules". It works. Here is a link to the top 10 "rules" for dating. Remember, however, that the MAIN rule is that the man pursues -- you NEVER do. http://www.therulesbook.com/topten.html
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If you are willing, see what his interests are and maybe get involved in some of those. Once he sees you are trying to be interested in him, maybe he'll return the favor. Plus, either way, you get to spend time with him doing stuff he enjoys.
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It would help if you became more interested in his life. It would also help to emphasize the things you both have in common. I do not think just attention will get him more interested, though. I think the easiest way to get what you want out of him is just to sit down and talk to him. Tell him how much you love him. Also, tell him that you want to be as much a part of his life as you can be. Finally, tell him that you do not feel that the two of you spend enough time together. I would then schedule a special time for the two of you to be together. Go out and do something fun. The problem may just be coordinating schedules. Good luck.
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don't push him.. let he do what he want.. don't make he stressed to think about your relationship.. if this happens, he'll boring being with u.. understand him. then, he'll pay more attention on you. because he feel you're his true love..who's understanding him in all situation..
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You have to see why is it that he doesnt spend enough time with you to begin with, because the true problem is not that he doesnt spend enough time with you but why. With that said focus on fixing that, if you cant (ie: work, school, time conflicts) then let time take its course, if you can then you have something to work with.
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you cant, babe. you just have to find someone who likes being with you more often...
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What was that word? Make? oh man, that isn't good. If he isn't making you a priority then sooner or later you'll change yours......... ;(
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People have different requirements for "together time". You just might out of sync in that department.
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