I'm sorry you've been hurt. I hope things get better for you.

you just havent found the person who appreciates you. I hope you do not give up because not all people are like the ones you mentioned above. Take Care...

Join the club , my friend .... Many of us have been there .... Have you ever heard the saying , "Good guys Finish Last " ? There is no reason except that these women have seen abuse in their home as young kids and expect THAT is what a real relationship is all about ... so they hunt out the Bad Boys who are like their fathers .... Many times it ends in DEATH for them ... BUT; it was their CHOICE ..as bad as it was .... Don't get too discouraged ... One of these days YOU will find the person of your dreams ; who will love you and treat you like the prince of a man that you are ... Patience is a virtue ... Just don't jump into the 1st relationship that is made available to you ... YOU pick and decide ... OK ?

what a great question. a friend of mine asked me that the other day. Some women are drawn to drama. Maybe something has happened in their childhood. A women who's been raped is more likely to be raped again, then a girl who has never been raped. If a girl has been abused growing up (parent etc), then that is all she knows. That is what she's drawn to. Maybe YOU are going after the wrong kind of girls. Where are you looking? Clubs and bars??

I thought so too, until I much more closely examined my *own* behaviour. Ignoring smart, attractive, dynamic women after a coupla' years of cohabitation is also a form of "abuse". ;-)

Maybe when you meet women look for the someone independant, not the wounded bird types? Find someone that is your equal, not someone that needs you. You can't save someone who is "happy" being miserable.

Because you havent found the right good girl. You have to place yourself according to what you want. As far as the horrible guys- dont think for a minute they dont eventually get what they deserve!! And the girls that are with these guys, arent the type to be worried about any way! You attract what you are. Maybe you are sending the wrong vibes out there. Be who you are with self-assurance...

Ha, although it really isn't a laughing matter... I have noticed the same effect. One female friend of mine asked me why she is always drawn to jerks for boyfriends. I told her 'she picked them because her discriminator is broken', she should try dating someone she is not attracted too.' I'm a nice guy, still she would not date me.

I'm a single female and scared of men for the same reason. I think it's cause the "bad" ones put on a really good act, or something.

I totally agree with those who said that guys who cheat, beat, abuse, rape, and hurt women, the women still go for those guys. The reason is that the women are so used to it that they expect it. I know a Korean adoptee who has been raped two times, beaten several times, and been verbally abused so much that she goes for those guys. She even told me that she wanted to marry one guy who had beaten her and she did not care if she died. She, in turn, manipulate, uses, cheats, and plays guys all the time. She claims that she loves someone and when that person does not want her, she goes to another guy for sex. When the person wants her back, she goes back to him because she claimed that she loved him. I have realized that she does not truly love him, only lusts after him. She would have sex with any guy who would give it to her, except Asian guys because she does not like Asian guys sexually at all. She now has two STDs, one of them came from the guy she claimed she loved. I had realized that she did not love him when she moved on to another guy when the guy she "loved" did not want anything to do with her. I realized that she was only using guys for sex.

because some women never grow out of the bad boy stage im sorry you've been hurt

I would like to know the answer aswell, this world is so full of these anti-feminist groups! If you are an equal partner in a relationship then where are the equal rights and considerations?? If a man complains - oh he must be a man about it and grow up! but woman can seek sympathy every minute, on the news, on the radio etc... woman must stop using their bodies as fucking leverage!

LOL. Good question. Remember the days when you had to bash a female over the head and drag her off to your cave, I think they like it that way. Maybe we are becoming too nice, they may like a little fire. Next time you get a gf try giving her a whack now and then, see if it works, if it does let me know, I'm not game to try it myself.