I watched my mom growing up, and I find that doing what she did makes me a better wife than my hubby could hope for! My mom dotes on my dad, just smothers him in love and home cooked meals! I love to cook and take care of my hubby! He takes care of me in return, but I won't let him near the kitchen!!

A lot. Parents are a child's first models for a romantic relationship. As an adult, I have found myself unintentionally adopting my mother's attitude and behaviors towards relationships, but having watched her, I'm glad I can be self-aware and change these behavioral patterns.

this is vital! a mother teaches her daughters how to allow a man to treat them. just as a boy learns how to treat a woman from his father.

Very much so. My mom was always insecure about my dad cheating (he never did, she just always feared it) and that has made me insecure not only in relationships but as a person.

My daughter acts exactly like I did when I was first married to her step-dad. She was 2 when I married him. She is now almost 31. I hate that I am looking at myself when I look at her. I am not that same person now.....I've matured and grown-up and learned alot of lessons from trials of life, but it is too late. She is acting just like I used to. I wish I knew then what I know now!!!!

tons....the daughter will always look up to her mother.

Very much. My mother-in-law is a (certifiably) mentally ill hellbeast. My wife was smart enough to know that what her mother was doing was wrong, but she never really knew what a good marriage was supposed to be like because she had never seen one. Happy relationships were something she only read about in stories. When we started out, my wife was unaccustomed to being respected; her mother never respected either her nor my father-in-law. She wasn't used to affection at first because her parents had slept in separate bedrooms her entire life. I could go on but I think I made my point already. The good news is that most women who grew up in such unhappy circumstances will do what they can to AVOID becoming like their mother, though it may take a while for them to adjust to living their own lives. My wife is a attentive and loving, unlike her mother, but she doesn't go overboard on it to try and compensate for her mother's misdeeds. Nor is she a raging thundercunt like her mother. She is a well-balanced woman capable of a long-lasting, meaningful relationship. Part of it all depends on the daughter though. My wife is a strong-willed, independent woman who managed to overcome her past. I'm not sure if every person can adjust as well as she has.

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