A good friend of mine just lost her four year old daughter to cancer. What are some ways I can help her and her husband though this tragic loss?
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Tell them to remeber the good times they had with there daughter, the cute things she had said or had done. Maybe a time you remeber we should got into trouble or did something so absoulutley adorable. That is if they bring the topic up, if they dont wish to talk about there daughter then they just need some time to mourn. But remeber the good times
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Be present. Be open. Offer to handle little things for them, but don't impose yourself. Give them space. Let them talk when they want to and be silent when they prefer that. Demonstrate that you are comfortable with their emotions and ocassional outbursts. Don't try to talk them out of their grief. Love them. Pray for them. Cry with them. Learn from them.
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Just be there for them even if it's at three a clock in the morning and they're sobbing so hard you can't understand them . I feel sorry for my friends because they're getting these very calls. That's all you can do. Belive me, they will never forget your kindness.
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Begin by sending or giving them a card telling them that although nothing you can say will make them feel better, that you are thinking of them. After a short while, follow up with a call or planned visit. If they have other children, offer to take them on an outing or extended visit. I have friends who lost a baby at birth and years later they commented that people avoided talking about the baby, and that hurt worst of all. Let them talk or let them be quiet...make yourself available, but follow their lead.
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tell them you are there no matter when or where. let them grieve how they need. don't talk about your losses like saying you know how it feels to loose someone you love. It unvalidates their feelings and puts focus on you, even though that is not the intention.
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