You should do what is right for you without taking her influence into consideration.

if it's her house and you want to keep the pregnancy, then move out.

Wow...that is tough! Maybe she is just over reacting out of initial shock! If you want to keep your baby then you have to grow up now & move out! Babies are a big deal so make sure you really consider what you are doing...you are about to be in for the struggle of your life but, it can be done!

Thats hardly fair of her. Have you spoken to her about why she feels that way? Maybe you should try in a couple of days when she's had time to get over the shock

How old are you? If your mom wont help you seriously look at your options, then tell the school counsellor, or your doctor, or anyone like that in authority who can help you get some real information from an informed and non-judgemental adult. You need real 'help', about what to do with the baby and about how to survive and where to go if your mom hasn't softened in a month. Whatever your next move is, you need it to be the one that you personally believe is best, the one that you can live with and not the one that will have you fretting over 'if only' for the rest of your life. Time to grow up fast, I'm afraid, and step one is getting all the help and information you can lay your hands on.

Google home for unwed mothers, there are places that will take you in and provide medical care. Also your mother may change her mind in time when she considers that it is her grandchild.

You really need to decide what is best for you. Weigh all the positives and negatives. There are plenty to both sides I bet. Some to consider: For abortion: You don't have to pay for your own housing and the child's housing. You can stay at home. You don't have to worry about the responsibility of becoming a parent. For having the child: You get the joys of being a parent. Perhaps you have a religious reason. I'm sure your Mom will still love her grandchild. If you HAD to, you could always consider adoption if you do not think you'd be able to give the proper life to your new baby. Things to keep in mind. Good luck!

I think you should give her some time to think about what she just told you. Thats pretty harsh! Meanwhile it wouldnt hurt to look for a new place to settle down in and realize that this is just the beginning. Good luck and keep your head up!

In the end it is your decision whether you think you should let your child live or not.

I think that maybe your mother is just angry at this point. Think about where she is coming from. She wants the best for you. I think she thinks that having a child at this point in your life may prevent you from opportunities that she had in mind for you. You are now an adult, whether she chooses to understand this is a different post. As an adult you have some choices to make. If your mother is not there to support you financially or emotionally-you have to think about your options carefully. Are you equipped to be a parent? If so what would be best for the child? Adoption? Abortion? Be a mom (single parent or not)You made a choice that will effect your future. You may have to go through it on your own without the expectation that your parent(s) will be there. Take responsibility for yourself and your unborn child. That is what parenting is all about-Choices and consequences.

I think I'd be packing.

You should do what you want to do. Dont let your mother pressure you into doing anything - both of you will regret it when things have settled. Your Mom is just having her reaction to what you said, which she is entitled to, but it seems like a very Alpha response. Its like she is saying let me handle this for you or I don't want anything to do with you. She seems scared and mad. Let her calm down. Talk with her again, tell her you respect her and love her, but this is what you want to do, and explain to her your decision. Its funny, my Mom was faced with the same dilemma as you when she told her mom she was preg with me. Well my mom moved out, had me obviously, had another child soon after, made it through life fine and eventually was back on good terms with her mom.

What age you are is vital to answering this question. A parent CAN legally throw a child out of the house, if that child is 18, or has reached his/her majority. If I were your mom, I'd tell you the same thing, but I'd also ask you if you wanted to get married. Marriage to the father could be forced, and at least you might have some cover (financially). And maybe you want to be with him? This is his responsibility too. Your mother should not be stuck raising YOUR baby, which she would have to do if you were still in school, had to go to work, or if something should happen to you. Of course your mother has the right to tell you to get out. As far as abortion - you sure better know yourself well before you commit to motherhood OR abortion, both have life long repercussions. If I were you, I'd listen to my mother. If I were you, I'd spend some serious time being introspective about whether you KNOW you can handle being a parent, if you are self-actualized enough to be good at parenting, if you are smart enough to do the right thing for a child. Apparently, if you think your mother has been harsh, you are not mature enough to see things in the proper perspective to be a parent. No wonder there are so many screwed up people in this world when children think they are ready to raise children.

Suzie, Your mom may just be in shock, but whatever she may think, this is your decision and one you will have to live with for the rest of your life, so don't rush into anything. Consider all your options. If you are close to your mom, try talking to her and explain how you feel about it all. As for your b/f - I know you've just found out he lied to you - does he know your situation? He is legally responsible to financially support your child. I would do some research and see exactly what help you are entitled to if you have your child. I wish you the very best and hope it all works out, u must be in complete turmoil.

I wish I could sit down and talk to your mother. I put a girl in a similar spot about 37 years ago, but I talked her into getting married. The marriage did not last but today I have a beautiful daughter and two wonderful grandkids thanks to my standing up for my unborn child. I would not have done anything differently.

that's harsh though understandable in your culture. things here make it easier i guess because there's no abortion where i'm from. adoption perhaps but it's very rare. in my culture both usually end up getting married or the parents sucking it up and after some time they'd mellow out. who can resist their cute grandkids. some of the odd things are that the baby end up being adopted by one of the family. the parents, the aunts and uncles or siblings or cousins. in your case you have to weigh the pros and cons. the best question to answer is are you prepared to take care of the baby? will you be able to afford supporting it?

I would probably leave. To where? I don't know, but I'm pretty sure there is someone nice enough to let me stay with them. A family member perhaps???

Find a relative or close friend who cares enough about you and your baby to help you get on your feet and strike out on your own, preferably the baby's father will have some financial responsibility. There are plenty of government programs there to help you. As a conservative, I feel that those progams are there for you, and I support the money going to you and your baby, as opposed to some wretched loser who won't work. I wish you the best in the world. If you don't want to keep the child, there is always adoption, a very loving alternative. There are so many people out there that can't have their own baby who would love to raise yours if you cannot or don't wish to.

I don't think your mom is being reasonable. However, that was very possibly just an emotional reaction...so wait a while. Don't let anyone strong-arm you into an abortion--it can be dangerous to your physical and emotional health, ESPECIALLY if it wasn't your choice! I am so sorry you are in such an awful situation. I know this is really tough on you. Don't lose courage! ;-) Hey, maybe this link would help you a bit: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Find an adoptive couple and maybe stay w them until the baby is born!!!!!!!!!!!

How old are you?

Move out! Abotion is MURDER!

Baby On Board xx This is so tough, I have young daughters also. I think if you can't talk with your mum reasonably about this [someone else said maybe she was reacting out of shock which is possible??] then you have to consider if you can find a way to move out if you want to keep your baby. There is help in the UK for young women in your situation but I'm aware that this is not just a UK site. Are there any family members that can offer you help and support?? What about the father of the baby and his family?? Try and take a couple of days to just think about this so you don't force yourself into making any hasty decison out of fear or because you feel pressured. Think about the future ~ how you'll feel when the baby arrives and needs you 24/7, how you might feel if you decided to terminate when the anniversary and due date come around. All things that might help you to make an informed decision. I found myself very unexpectedly pregnant at 42 ~ see it happens to all ages lol ;o) ~ and these are questions I asked myself although I appreciate I was a bit more experienced but the emotions and responsibilities are just the same. I hope you find a way to be at peace with whatever you decide to do and that someone steps up to the plate and gives you the love and support that you're so in need of right now. Have a (((((hug))))) from me to get you started. Every blessing Catholic Convert xx

Those are your choices. If you don't believe in abortion, contact your church for shelter while you are pregnant and your baby will go to a loving religious home with two parents who desperately want and are ready for a child.

This question was asked a few months ago - I am curious - what was the outcome?

It is not her decision if you have an abortion, yes she does have the right to kick you out ... But tell me, what do you want?

Join the millions of single moms who also put themselves in the same predicament.

Geez... Whether you have the abortion or not, I'd STILL move out. Who wants to be around THAT kind of negativity and lack of support?

Do what you think is right. Many women feel really guilty after having an abortion. Having an abortion can severely damage your emotional health. Maybe if you wait on it your parents will become more understanding.

Her house, her rules. She can't force you to have an abortion even if you're underage. All she can do is to kick you out. Now the ball is in your court and you have to decide if you're capable of caring for this baby. If not then you still have options. You have some tough decisions to make. She's breaking no laws and she's done nothing so bad that she should be hung out to dry. After all, she isn't the one with a baby in her belly. You are.

She's not giving you any help, so move out. +4

whatever you do, don't get an abortion.

Listen, if I were you I would surely not get an abortion. If you get an abortion the probability is that you would regret that the rest of your life. Try to persuade your mom that you love your baby because when you see your baby you would surely love it. Maybe by time your mom would understand. She must have told you about the abortion because she was mad at that moment. It happened to me. My mom was furious when I told her I was pregnant out of wedlock. They do that because they feel out of control of the situation. If you have the abortion and still live at home don't believe that things would get any better because you would feel the regret of killing a baby the rest of your life. By the way, if 3 weeks pass and your mom still insists on getting an abortion move out. Try to find support elsewhere. Good luck for your future.