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  • Well it's good to see you care. You need to prove to her that you are not like the others. Be patient, it will take a while. I know it's been said before but listen to her, don't critisize the way she feels, let her know you will be there for her anytime she needs it. Treat her like gold, compliment her. It seems like she didn't have good guys before, you need to show her what shes been missing, take her out and have fun with her. Introduce her to your family and friends, show her that she is important to you. But don't be pushy, don't get upset if she won't trust you for a while, she's been hurt and that takes time to get over.
  • The best approach is to give your girlfriend her space. By space, I mean don't pressure her about her past relationships. This can only exacerbate (i.e., worsen) her feelings. The best method to make her feel more comfortable is to let her know that you're there for her; whenever, she needs you and that you're not going to judge her for her past relationsihps. No one needs to nor wants to be reminded of bad past experiences; especially, in matters of the heart. Just letting her know that you're there for her on an emotional level and are willing to listen to her, is a great start! I hope his helps to answer your question!
  • You can't blame her for being on the defensive. the ups and downs, of a relationship, especially thought-to-be relationships, is both physically and mentally draining. communication is the magic word. most couples do not actually sit and talk to each other. words can be stronger than drugs. communication can be the best comforter in the world. ever heard the song "Talk to Me"? listening to the words will strenghten your relationship. let your girlfriend, also listen. be yourself and tell exactly how you feel. but, if you are not 100% sincere, in your feelings, it will show. your girlfriend will know. i still say the best communication is a written letter. if you cannot verbally assure your girlfriend, then write a love letter. it may be old-fashioned, but guess what? it still works......and always will!
  • when she needs her space give it to her if she has had bad relations with some people but try to comfort her when you know she needs it the most.

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