Do you have problems with your 8-10 year old girl wanting overpriced, named brand clothes to the point of crying and fussing?
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We live in an affluent area in the Greater Toronto Area; not ridiculously rich, mostly everyone is credit card to the max (except for us), but alot of my daughter's friend's clothing staples are Abercrombie and Fitch, Hollister and tna (does that mean what I think it means?) Anyway, I won't let her wear 'tna' due to sexual conotation, but I have bought her a couple of items from the other lines, for bday, Christmas, that kind of thing. She is fussing and playing 'hard done by' because 'all her friends' are allowed to wear these clothes. Hey, even if I had the money, I won't let a 9 year old wear something that says, tna. Anyone in the same boat?
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Yes, I do. I suppose it has a lot to do with peer presure; their friends have these clothes, so they want them too. I think this an opportunity to teach your children about vanity, how too much is inappropriate, peer pressure, and the value of money.
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Sad state of affairs when an 8-10 year old wants overpriced clothings just to keep up with the Joneses at school. This society is acquiring it's great values earlier and earlier on in life
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my lil (half)sisters. Total brats. I had to tell their mom they were spoiled roten at one point. They also treated theis maid like a slave, it was disgusting! I was so ashamed and expressed that to their mom and she actually worked with them on it. She had no idea because she just got them what they wanted no questions asked. Doing that ruins your chance of having children who grown up to be self suficient, well-adjusted members of the world and ever having a meaningful, satisfying life.
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You are the parent, she is the child, say no!
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Go to Marshall or TJ Max or any stores selling discounted brands without her, she won't know how much you spent and will maybe leave you alone.
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I have an 11 year old girl. She also likes the nice spendy things. But she doesnt get it very often. Unless we find it second hand or at a discount. I have taught her that she can get the same thing or simular for alot less. I also show her the same look for alot less, if I can. Also when we go shopping along with a shopping list I let her help with sticking to our budget. She keeps track of how much things are costing and how much we have left. Sometimes I will show her that I want something but it is not in our budget.
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Nope, fortunately, my daughter has always had her own style and didn't care less for brand names, etc. So far, she's been frugal and understanding...and she's 15!
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I have a problem with ANY 8-10 yr old wanting such things. It means the more common aspects of society have invaded her perception of the way things aught to be.
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name brand like what??? and how expensive? anyhow you buy what you can afford, either she has never had any and her friends do... or you have spoiled her rotten with expensive clothing and thats all she wants now.. huh. u are the parent say no.. or make her work hard for it.
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No. Tell her that you can not afford them and she must accept that. do not let her rule you.
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Just tell her "No" and if you hear another word about it you will take away her cell phone.
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I was like that growing up minues the crying & fussing. I would just yell at my mom after we got home & then she would take me back & buy what I wanted. People always told her to remember that she was the parent. I guess that doean't work so much though. Tell that (well if you really cant) if you cant afford it then you just cant. & if she wants it thats fine, she can get "over priced, name brand clothes" when she works & gets her own money for them.
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Kala is just like that
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No but what i recommend is that if she wants brand mae clothes that badly, go to TJ Maxx.
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Try and find some alternatives that look alike. In teen magazines, it always shows you the designer product and then a way cheaper alternative for not much AT ALL! I really wanted a pair of trousers at the time my mom couldn't afford them, so she bought me a pair of knock-offs that looked really similar and they were better than the original brand!
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i think you should teach your daughter how there are people in this world that have nothing and starve to death and have to walk bare-footed on the rugged land and she should be greatful for the stuff she has
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I don't have that problem (yet) but I do think I may have been that problem. I think my father's solution to it was a pretty good one. He sat down once and figured out how much was fair to spend on clothes, and how often, then he figured out what that was equal to on a bi-weekly (every two weeks) basis, and that Dollar amount was my new clothing allowance. If I wanted something expensive, I had to save, and I always had to plan out what clothes I would need nect (for whatever season). When I did mess up and get it incorrectly, he did NOT bail me out, but gave me some resources for fixing the problem (ie. Selling clothes, buying used for a while etc.) I think it really helped me appreciate what clothes cost and learn to pick and chose when I got the expensive stuff, and when I could settle for second hand.
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Nope. Our kids know that there is no way we can afford those things. Fortunately, I live in a farming community where kids are more likely to be laughed at for persuing such things. There are a few however, and boy, do they look out of place. Functionality is paramount around here.
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I would like my daughter to look cute and have nice clothes, but she would have to understand that they have to be affordable too ... PLUS she'll be growing out of them soon and it makes no sense to spend a fortune on them. She can cry and fuss all she likes, but that's the way it is!
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Nope, I have the opposite problem. My aunt will occasionally buy really cute clothes for my daughter and she won't wear them because I didn't make them.
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no.you need to tell them tht it's to much and times are bad right now unless they wanna live like a hobo?did you raise them to getting w/e they want when they go to a store? no child should do tht.also tell them tht they could get the same shirt it's all made out of the same stuff they only want it bcuz the brand.ppl pay 2 dollars to make the shirt and they sell it for 20 dollars.
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Yep... But take her to Goodwill or a local Thrift Store. You might be surprised what kind of originally "overpriced, name-brand clothes" you can find there for cheap. ;-)
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I would talk to her and teach her that the brand clothes are expensive and she is a child - she doesn't need that kind of clothes.
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Say no and if she doesn't stop the crying, smack her on the face.
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