How can I tell my teachers the real reason I'm having difficulty in school right now without destroying other people's reputations in the process?

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• Good idea. Thanks. As long as it doesn't hurt me or anyone else, they have to keep it confidential. Well, that's my understanding of it anyway.

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  by A on January 9th, 2009

• Normally, the only time a confident issue has to be shared is where the student involved would be "at risk" , in other words, if the issue you have to tell the teacher is one which could harm you in some way. But even then, it will be disclosed only to a very limited number of people, who will take appropriate action. It is a difficult thing to explain, but basically, the child must be protected from harm at all costs.

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  by dea_ex_machina on January 9th, 2009

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• Good idea. Thanks.

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  by A on January 9th, 2009

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• Leaving out names is a good idea. Thanks.

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  by A on January 9th, 2009

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• Well, they might know at least one of them and I don't want her to get dirty looks from teachers because of me saying something about her. I already know she's in at least one of my teachers other classes. Would just leaving her name out help? What do you think?

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  by A on January 9th, 2009

• There is no need to give a name at all - unless knowing the name has a direct bearing on the case. Teachers don't just go to the staff room and tell other teachers what is going on - teachers can be very discrete, you know - we were all kids once. You would not believe some of the things I have been told about my students or what the students themselves have told me- but if I held everything I heard against them, we would not get any learning done! Your job is to learn, mine is to give you the opportunity to learn - gossiping in the staff room does not help that happen!

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  by dea_ex_machina on January 9th, 2009

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• Well, in order for them to fully understand why, they kind of need to know. Should I just leave out the names?

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  by A on January 9th, 2009

• Of course you can try, also explain to them your goal is to improve your own ability to get a quality education and not to get someone in trouble in the process.
  
  Much will depend on how serious the nature of your confidential concerns are. However, you come first and there is no good reason for charting poor grades when you could have done something about it.

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  by Cruiser on January 9th, 2009