sadly it happens all the time.... i'm not married yet, but i hope that ot doens't happen to me

yep. My wife fell in love with another man.... or maybe she just fell in lust..... hmmm, not sure.

Yes and that usually happens to people who rush in marriages or young couples. Usually, but not only!

its a sad fact of life these days! no marriage is guaranteed and a lot of ppl dont think about the commitment enough!

this happens every day,my uncle's wife fell in love with him while she was married to her ex husbend and though this latter found out that she was cheating on him he forgived her just because he was loving her so much,but she asked for divorce and she married my uncle.though my uncle has nothing much more special than her first husbend.its so weird!

Well ive never cheated but of course it can happen and has happened sadly to many people all over the world ,its one of those things if someones going to cheat theyll cheat no matter what anyone else thinks ,i know a few people who have cheated some partners have had them back some have kicked them out.

Happens all the time. Marriage should but does not mean "I will love you forever". People grow and people change.

Yes, it can happen .. No one can control the sudden feelings of love !!

Well, all these answers are all correct, and I ask myself how can this happen : ( I have been married for just over 21 years to my first real love. he has a little age on me of about 15 years, I never ever thought I would find out he fell for another woman. I just founf this out about a month ago, so still really brand new. How many times I cried myself to sleep you would not believe. All the questions all these thought in my head, oh I found out when I was looking up a cell phone number from my online statements, and Lo and behold I just couldnt stop scrolling. He worked with this girl, yes I say girl because it started when she was 25, it has been about a year and half. How could have I not known somehow? He says nothing happened, then days later after I keep pushing the issue, they just held hands a few times when he took her home a few times from work and having lunch together , yea lolol. But he say no kissing ect. I want to believe this but can I when I feel there is something more that just keeps poking at me. Now rest assure now I face another problem, lusting, now I understand that a man is going to glance at a woman, check her out alittle, but my gosh In the walmart for instance he cant stand to shop with me, he wants to go to the other side of the store, and I know why. I have caught him lusting, starring at other women badly and I wont mention gestures, and flirting with woman as well. I have talked with him to no end, he promises but breaks them. I catch him at times just sitting like in a daze and his eyes are puddling up, he says he dont think of her, and its over but I say how can a person just turn if off like a light switch? I am up in the air and like a little advice, my emotions are on a roller coaster, and am at a stand still, waiting I guess, for something. I even follw him where he goes, I have no more trust, I even caught him before when he didnt know I was seeing/hearing, him seeing a nice looking woman and started saying vulgar things, not to her of course, but to himself, he has even said to me when he lusts like that and see a good looking woman struttin her stuff it makes him think in his mind how good she might be, you know, and lately he trys to share stories about his women before he met me, in details I may add. Oh my I really dont mean to ramble on, just feels better to get some of it off my chest. Thanks for any advice. : )

it happens all the time. there is many levels of love. but if you mean intimately, absolutely. marriage seems to mean nothing these days to both men and women. i think there is so much sadness and complications in relationships that everyone bed hops!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes, it can & Does. I know this because I am a man that has fallen in love with a married woman, she also has fallen in love with me. Before any of you say, why did you do that, you're wrong for doing it, blah, blah, blah.... I know this, WE know this! We know & understand what we have done, but now it's too late. It's way too hard for either one of us to walk away now. She won't leave her husband either, unfortunately, she also loves him. And until your in our shoes, and understand our feelings for each other, you can't just tell us to do it! We started off as PURE friends, thinking to ourselves that we are indeed just friends, and people are friends with the opposite sex all them time... NO HARM! The problem is that we spent WAAAAY too much time together, and without being in the company of other "friends". No I am stuck home alone every night of my life, crying my eyes out because the woman I am so deeply in love with, spends every night at home in the arms of another man, and it KILLS me! It is so emotionally damaging sometimes I wonder just how much more I can take. No way can I walk away form her, she is everything I have ever wanted, the most beautiful woman on the planet... to me. But the pain of knowing they are sometimes "together" or do activities together is so great and unbearable, it just crushes my heart every time. I love this woman so much in fact, that if the situation arose, I would give my life to save her husband's life, just so that she would not feel & experience the pain of losing him. - I have never loved anyone more!!! I have literally created my own prison of hell, and there is no way out. As a warning, I BEG all of you, to STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED PEOPLE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX. You can NOT control who you love, when two people click, it just happens. You are NOT that strong, I promise you! For now, I will go on living in my pain, almost as if it were my punishment. But please, if you're beginning, or considering being involved with a married person, DON'T. - Kevin Y. Indiana.

yes. I am married and was attracted to my husband's friend which we will call him j. J. was attracted to me too, and lives with his girlfriend. J and his girlfriend begin giving me hints, etc. But now I have feelings for J., alot.

And that's why I call him my ex. :(

Yeah, it can happen. It's irresponsible and all his/her fault for ALLOWING it to happen, but it can happen.

M not married n dont think i will after reading so many answers here:( its sad...i wish i could help them.

Yes, it most definitely does happen to people, but the married man/woman should stay true to their spouse, and ignore their love for the other person (although ideally they would never allow it to get to love either)

Yes they can and yes it has.

I am married and I am in-love now with a man with far better qualifications than my husband. And the tragedy is… this handsome, younger man claims to be madly in-love to me also. I knew from the start that it is wrong and I vow not to commit adultery and lose my soul in exchange of fleeting pleasures of love as I know in my heart, I could never leave my husband as long as I have faith in God. To betray the trust of my husband, is to hurt my kids as well. I beg not to start anything that we all know would not end happily or may even cause a disaster. But, love is something natural that it happens unexpectedly. Nonetheless, what matters is what you do when it’s already there. Better yet, once you’re married, always be on guard on what you feel and wish for. Never go beyond the bounds of marriage. Focus your energy, attention and affection to your husband and kids. There will always be better men out there, and if you are off-guard feeling lonely, searching, and vulnerable, one of these other better men could notice you--- and there it goes!.... “Torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool--- loving you both is breaking all the rules.” . . . indeed, it’s quite miserable.... knowing what is right and feeling the other way round! I just hope my faith could sustain me to stay safe and sane. Would it be heaven or hell?!!!!

Being married doesn't mean you stop loving other people. It means you're committed and faithful to the person that you're with. People in successful marriages acknowledge whatever they feel and learn to redirect and nurture those feeling toward the person they've chosen to share their life with.

YES. I am a married woman who is in love with my husband, but I find myself also in love with another man. I have not physically cheated, though in my mind I have. There are times I can't breathe, I'm so overwhelmed with stress, guilt, happy feelings/thoughts, ...I'm torn in 2 directions. This is killing me!

It is very common now a days that married man/woman will fall in love as it is said that 'love is blind'

After many years of knowing this woman who has become a good friend, and the last two years of my own marriage's demise I came to realize the attraction I had developed (over the last two years) had developed into true love. At our workplace it is agonizing to look at someone every day that you admire, respect, and now love, and feel so right about something that is so wrong. It is truly heaven and hell when that person is by your side - too close for comfort yet you wouldn't want to be anywhere else for anything in the world because the wisp of her hair, the small line in her face at the corner of her smile, and the faint scent of her perfume are what you live for. Now knowing feelings are somewhat mutual serve only as fuel for the fire and only intensifies my pain when she is gone - some things are better left unknown. I am sincerely torn between moving to Alaska and saying life is short - have an affair. After all my life experiences I truly believe this woman is someone I can be happy with and cherish for the rest of my life – I have never felt this right about a woman. This is not some fleeting infatuation. This is a relationship that has developed over time and is now at the brink of becoming a mutual dilemma. And then to add to the confusion, I wonder, if after time I would have the same love and respect for this woman if we did have an affair; for after all, she failed a prior commitment. Does love conquer all? Is all fair in love and war? Damn you Cupid! - I'd like to show you where to stick your next arrow.

Are you from earth?

Yeah its true im a woman who fell inlove with a married man. I know its wrong but i just cant help but love him..My head says stay away from him but my heart protests, how many times i've tried to broke up with him but i ended up nothing....I have a boyfriend but he is not here is working abroad they are opposite in terms of their characterisitcs. The man whom i fall with is 20 yrs older than me.... Being with him at least once a week is paradise with me.. I cant help it.. yeah its true when your'e there its hard to get out... Im praying that soon i can overcome to stay away with him eventhoough we are in the same company... I need help coz i know breaking up with him will cause so much pain.

Yes it can happen.