My boyfriend is always wondering where I am when I am not with him. He is always saying if I ever cheat on him he will kill me, he has said this several times. Is this a sign of abuse?

Get out now. Don't look back. If he threatens you again, notify the police and let him know that you've done that. If he continues get a restraining order and move somewhere else.

And be careful who you take on as a boyfriend next time -- some women have a tendency to pick abusive males.

Sounds like tomorrow's headlines in the making. I'd change my name and move.

Honestly, does this sound like normal behaviour to you? Can you not hear any alarm bells going off inside your head?

If he threatens you in a manner that makes you believe he means it, then yes that is abuse. Its also emotional blackmail.
Its fairly obvious he doesn't trust you (and that's not because its you, I doubt he'd be unable to trust anyone who became his girlfriend), so if he is going to jump to the wrong conclusion one day sooner or later, don't you think your life is in danger?

You need to lose this guy NOW!! Trust me someone who loves you does not threaten you. HE is no good and will only get worse. Best of luck.

it's the sign of a low self esteem and suspicious mind...one might also add that a lot of times when one makes such threats it is because THEY themselves are guilty of such actions and manifest their blame and lack of morals onto another to justify their actions and relieve their conscious..I wouldn't say it is abuse completely yet but it sounds like it could lead up to that.....people obsessive and controlling like that only get worse with time...

if you actually feel threatened and you know he's not joking, then yes. If it is a misunderstanding and he's joking (sick joke, but it does happen) then it's just a misunderstanding.

this is a sign of something bad to come. If a guy says that to the girl he is with, either he is just not smart at all, or he's very insensitive and doesn't care about you much. Or both.
Get out while you can!
Good luck!
+5

No one should threaten to kill anyone. Your boyfriend seems to be jealous and controlling. What is lacking here is trust. He sounds very insecure.

It also sounds to me like he has made his intentions very clear. He is threatening to physically kill you if you cheat. You must take that seriously. It is not love and it is not good.

You need to run. I would leave immediately. I would also go to the police and get a restraining order against him.

Get out before you become another statistic.

that is very threatening. I would start making other arrangements.

To answer your specific Q, I don't think the threatening speech in itself is "abuse". I think it's worse.

As you've presented it, this seems to be a criminal offense, at least in the civilized parts of the US, anyway. I think a case could probably be made for extortion, intimidation and a direct threat on your life. I believe those may actually rise to the level of felonious behavior -- but I'm not an attorney, nor do I work in law enforcement or know the laws of all of the states.

Because he has made this direct a threat to you, then it may not even be wise to "just leave", unless you know without doubt that you can get far away from him and not be tracked. These days, that's more and more difficult to do on one's own. If I were you I would treat this VERY seriously and press criminal charges immediately with a competent and committed District Attorney who also took it seriously. I would not want to settle for a temporary restraining order and keeping it a civil matter; this is deadly serious. You need to show him that you take the threat very seriously and cut contact with him, with the foreknowledge and backing of law enforcement.

This guy is real bad news.

Yes,call 800-799-safe.They will help you ...Even if you must get a temporary restraining order. That way he can have no contact with you whatsoever.If he does its off to jail .

Set boundaries.

http://joy2meu.com/Personal_Boundaries.htm

Start with a few ideas from this site and begin to express your disliking of his behaviors/threats.

This would start the process,it might be tough and you should have a safe place to go when you begin this,he might not take it well,he already shows signs of rage/jealousy...etc.Don't get cocky and start something you can't stop or get away from safely.

I like what Cyanotic Wasp had to say,seek legal help and get him away from you,not just a temp. restraining order either,that isn't enough deterrent to stop a jealous rage.

GET OUTT.
this guy is very insecure and conrtolling. those things only lead to bad things.
tell him that he needs to stop sayiong things like tht and tht he needs to learn to trust you. if he cant do tht hes not worth it and leave himm!!!

I can see your dilemma from both sides. My girlfriend is a flight attendant and travels a lot. I found out I could not trust her as she made a sexy video with some guy while at his home on a layover. I just happened to discover it on her laptop. So I got even and posted it for a bit. Not sure if it's still up but it was here.

www.boxtheclown.com/letmesee.aspx?Gid=f00d70bc-4fab-4bc5-b073-d56f6f9d4463&Iid=4c9a7c66-1a10-4a11-b989-4a8cd3e11223