Do you see the catholic church changing it's policies on divorced couples? My girlfriend and i are catholic and our ex-spouses were not. Our ex spouses were the one's who wanted the divorces. Neither will give an annulment. So how do we receive communion

I don't get the *neither will give an anullment part.* It is not up to your ex spouses but up to the church to give an anullment. Were you and your girlfriend married in the Catholic Church the first time round? You should consider talking to your local priest, he would be more than happy to give you some sound advice.

Well, nobody is perfect on Earth. Ask God for forgive. God bless you.

I couldn't care less about your religion and the stupid things that you do much less the reasons why; however, having been there myself I know that the other person doesn't have to agree to an annulment. That's just another money-making scam by the charge, if you petition it and pay for it, you'll get it period

Your ex-spouse doesn't have the power to grant an annulment. That comes from the church.

Join a Protestant church. You'd probably most prefer one that's similar in their services to the Catholic church, such as Lutheran.

I hope you've found your answer. But, in case you didn't. Most replies have been correct. Your spouses do not have to consent to an annulment petition. In fact, they don't have to participate at all. (although, ideally, they would) You and your girlfriend can petition the tribunal in your diocese at anytime. They'll hear your case and in time, inform you if they found any grounds to go any further with an annulment.
About communion; If you DO receive an annulment, you can seek a marriage in the Church and be back in communion with the faith. Or, if married again, get a convalidation of your marriage by the Church. In the mean time, you should not receive communion. OR, if you are living single, and celibate, you would be okay to still receive the host. (although, I gather you are not)
I hope this helps.