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  • This seems like the classic case of the boy who overlooks the friend that is always around him. Having said that, his attention is focused on this other person and the best thing you can do is just to make yourself available to him. Be there for him when he is questioning himself, needs a friend, wants to have a talk...even if it is about the other girl. Try to open up to him and see what his reaction is. Eventually he will get the picture and see your feelings for him. As in any relationship the key to success is communication and that starts by talking to him. Good Luck.
  • This is going to happen all of your life, so listen up. I'm speaking from the experience gained over a half-century of experiencing this myself -- and I'm being serious, for a change, because this is a good Q. And it also might be happening to me right this moment, so what I'm saying is the best advice that I can possibly give you here -- at least on this topic. Let's say that you love him, and it's not just puppy love -- you know this guy is perfect for you. Okay? I'm giving you the benefit of the doubt that this isn't just a momentary crush. (But you have to allow that at your age it very well may be. Still, I'm going to give you the advice for what to do if you KNOW this guy is "the one".) Just be the best friend you can be to him. Don't make any secret at all that you like him. That you like him a lot, if you feel brave enough to say it. And then let him make up his own mind. Don't pressure him. Don't chase after him. Let him know that all you want is for him to be happy. Because after all, you want the love of your life to be happy, right? And if he chooses another, then BE HAPPY FOR HIM. Even if you're unhappy for yourself. Don't try to sabotage his relationship. (Again, at a young age it's incredibly unusual to make the one right choice first time up to bat. You're going to strike out more often than you can imagine, and so will he.) If he makes the choice of someone else, then take some time to decompress and unwind -- to grieve and get over him. And then get out there and find someone else. There is ALWAYS going to be someone else, if you just allow for the possibility. If he chooses you, then don't think that your problems are over! They're really just starting. But we're not getting into that right now.

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