by matthew S on November 27th, 2004

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I've been dating a girl for around 2 years and she is always wanting gifts. Does this mean she's using me?

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  • Not necessarily. Kelly's answer was good, so I won't rehash here. This is to add to her answer. Some people relate love and affection to the receipt of gifts. I have seen this a few times. Usually it is because this is how the individual was raised. Mom and dad lavish gifts in lieu of affection or in conjunction with affection and that carries into the individual's adult life and relationships. If that is the case, then she probably isn't using you.

    Peers. I used to work in an office where the women always had to one up each other on what their boyfriends/husbands bought or did for them. It was ridiculous. Such phrases as "I told him he HAD to buy me that bracelet or I would find somebody else!" were frequently heard. Perhaps she has a hard time resisting peer pressure and demands for gifts are part of that. Clearly, manipulating a partner into gift buying is userous.

    There are other things to consider that are unknowns here:

    Does she buy you lots of gifts and simply expecting that you reciprocate?

    What other indications are there that you are being used?

    Why she has a need for lots of gifts and what the receipt of those gifts mean to her.

    The list could go on and on and on. You'll have to discuss this with her to get an accurate answer, but I hope this helps.

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  • by Kelly Masters on February 11th, 2005

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    Sometimes women like to receive gifts if the man isn't very vocal about his feelings and sometimes women can just be selfish. Sorry, not trying to offend anyone here. I guess it would depend on her reasons for wanting the gifts-are they for sentimental value? When you give her a stuffed teddy bear, is it displayed for all to see or does she sleep with it? A woman may just want to have something from you to look at when you're not around and she's thinking about you. Other women (treading lightly here) may just be wanting you to buy them the gifts so that they can brag about you to her friends. My best advice? Ask her why she always wants you to get her gifts and see what her thoughts on the subject are.

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  • by wildfire on July 25th, 2006

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    I'm not saying you should or should not give any gifts, but once in a while a woman appreciates a gift from a man - it makes her feel special especially if it is a spontaneous.

    try this - do not give when she asks
    but surprise her with a gift every now and then. she will appreciate it and will not keep asking. if she still continues to ask then you need to find out what is the problem.

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  • by Anonymous on September 6th, 2005

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    She sounds like a needy controling ,greedy brat. Tell her to get liberated then say goodby.

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