Any advice on making a divorce as smooth and as painless possible. No children, two houses, five pets, approx total of $500,000 in assets. Don't see any real problems. One lawyer or two, mediation, ect ? All advice appreciated.
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If your spouse agrees to one lawyer, make sure you're dealing with someone unknown to both of you to avoid conflicts of interest. I recommend you give up the notion of a smooth and painless divorce. There is no such thing, and wanting for one will likely cause you pain and money. Take the time to deal with it fully and thoroughly, so that it's all-the-way behind you. Good luck.
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Try to be generous if it kills you. Say something like "I'd like you to have 'fluffy the cat' if you want, she always seemed to like you best anyway." The minute you switch to "I'm going to keep Barney the dog because he's mine and he loves me," you both will lose and the majority of assets will go to the lawyers.
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'Two houses, approx total of $500,000 in assets, one lawyer or two' and you don't see any 'real' problems? Ha ha...come back in a year or so and lemme know how smoothly that has worked out for you!
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My advice is get your own attorney. My first divorce went pretty smooth, but I needed someone that I could put my trust in and she felt the same way. If it's an easy divorce, it won't be that expensive.
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Avoid lawyers and go with mediation, you will both save a fortune in legal bills. If it's fairly amicable you should be able to get everything sorted out in 2-3 sessions. Always, always take the high road. It's so easy for "things" to represent pain and anguish. It's just stuff so always remember that. No name calling, keep your tone of voice civil and your language neutral. Good luck.
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