ANSWERS: 36
  • 1. No, you're not being a bad person or Christian. 2. I don't really see any reason to tell them at this point. My parents don't know that I am bisexual, and they don't really have any need to know.
  • There seem to be a few choice words in the bible about buggery, sodomy, as well as infidelity and sex before marriage, pride and various other sins (mentioned because I just KNOW some people will let their own judgement systems decide one sin is worse than another and get all huffity about this). However as far as I know there is nothing in the bible whatsoever that is specifically anti the state of being gay or bi, just about what you do with a penis. That brings me to my real point - I believe there isn't a single word about lesbianism, for or against, in the bible. It simply doesn't get mentioned. On that basis the only 'bad Christian' issue you have to deal with is whether you feel you are being dishonest or lying, by keeping your secret. I imagine they may not see it that way, but that's my take on it.
  • No, you're not a bad person. Anyone who tells you otherwise is intolerant. If you decide to tell them, you could jeopardize your relationship with them. While I personally would not want to be associated with bigots, it could be very difficult for you to thrive without parental support.
  • Only you can say whether you're a "bad person" or not. What do you think? Have you murdered any babies yet? Have you robbed any liquor stores? Led any small countries to commit genocide against minorities? Is this the extent of your "crimes"? You're bisexual? I guess I wouldn't lose too much sleep about that. Leave your parents out of it, their ancient prejudices aren't going to be relevant to your life for much longer.
  • My opinion in short form: 1.: You are bi, so what? THAT'S OKAY. 2.: You are bi, and that's the general aspect of you sexuality, but not of your personality. 3.: Who cares whether you are bi or not? Nobody needs to know! Or have you ever met someone telling you "LinLin, I want to tell you I am gay."?
  • I think its great that you can admit such a personal thing. Whether your bi, gay or straight (whatever that should mean) what you do in the bedroom is private and if they have a problem with you for being anything other than their child, no religion can forgive that. Don't let anyone change who you are;)Life is an occasion-so rise to it!
  • Why would anyone feel guilty for getting laid only twice a year?
  • you should be yourself...Although you cannot be a good christian by being bisexual, you have the right to choose religion or sexuality...You are well aware that sex with a person of the same sex is a sin so go ahead and choose who/what you wanna be...as for your parents, they cannot change what you decide and you shouldnt pretend to be someone that you arent just to please someone else including your parents.
  • You don't need to tell them, at least not yet. It sounds like you're young and living in their house, giving them something to freak out about won't make your life easier. If they are prone to overreaction, don't tell them. Not until you're on your own and they have had some time to see you as a person in your own right, not just as their child that must be protected. But you probably will want to tell them eventually. Dealing with their reactions will probably be easier than constant little white lies. As for being a bad person, no. No, no, no. And if the church you are going to tells you that bisexuals are bad people just for being bi, find another church. If Christianity appeals to you, then do your own research to draw your own conclusions, talk to others with differing views of your faith, and make up your own mind. All Christians don't hold completely identical beliefs, so it's up to you to find out what you feel is the truth. By my standards, the fact that you would ask means you are probably a good person, one who worries if they are good enough, and a loving daughter to care so much about what your parents think of you.
  • 1st off if they dont hold a gun to your head they arent FORCING YOU. and if your going then read 1st coranthians 6:9 then decide if you want to perish in hell
  • You don't say how old you are, and you're still probably forming your own belief system. Your parents will train you in their beliefs, and rightly so, but that doesn't mean you'll follow their path line for line when you are grown. Ultimately your relationship with God is your own affair, and only you can determine what you believe and what you're comfortable with. As you seek and explore you'll find there are many, many people who do not believe sexual orientation has anything to do with Christian (or spiritual) living. For how, be patient and don't sweat the small stuff. Consider what you're taught, retain that which you find useful, and don't worry about details. People spend their whole lives coming to terms with God, you aren't expected to do so yourself in a matter of hours.
  • Just be yourself. There should be no one saying you are a bad christian. People cannot shun you because you are being who you are. This is the problem with the world. Everyone wants everyone to be like themselves and that just doesn't happen. We all are meant to be the person we are meant to be. Live life at its fullest using your own terms.
  • if you are bi sexual then theres nothing to be asamed off, if your parents try to change who you are, let them that does not mean you have to change your ways. tell them the truth but the fact remains, weather your gay, straight or bi sexual there is nothing (including you) can do to change that1 an dif any1 says your a bad person or a bad christian then always remember they are wrong and narrow minded! unfortunatly yes you will incur prejiduce, i used to be bi (or some will say experimenting) and i was still at school and i was constantly taking the mick out of but you just have to rise above it and hold your head up high!! take care xx
  • You're no worse than the rest of them. So, you have lesbian sex and go to church, they drink, do drugs, screw the neighbor's wife, lie, cheat, steal and still go to church. At the end of the day, it's the same shit, different name
  • I mean you are who you are. You chose the life you want to live so no matter how much they try to change you because you're so accustomed to what you have been doing you're going to do what you feel you want to do. But you know they always say your plan will not go through all the time
  • No. Being gay or bi isnt a sin. But sex before marriage is bad naughtyness. Therefore most straight people are sinners, lol.
  • i am gay, and in my experience of trial and error, it is best to speak to an outsider, a person who you could feel was not trying to judge or change you but help you understand, give you perspective. knowledge is power in understanding and accepting ourselves. i would not talk to anyone close to you until you feel confident in yourself and assured that you are A ok
  • you aren't a bad person. there is nothing wrong with the fact that you are attracted to both men and women. don't let anyone tell you otherwise. as long as you aren't hurting anyone, you are not a bad person.
  • I'm bi as well and I go to all of the services(I'm a musician for the church) I'm Baptist. If you pay attention at all to the bible you'll know that Jesus accepts you as you are. You don't necessarily come out to your family but lead the life you feel compelled to lead
  • If they are religious then it's probably not a good idea to tell them. Religious people are close minded. I don't think that much good can come from it, although if enough people came out, it would become more socially acceptable. Even the religious freaks would have to be more open minded, otherwise they would not last.
  • no your not a bad person or christian, no dont tell them sometimes things are better left unsaid for the meantime
  • hey there, I also want to commend you for your open honesty to your friends and to all of us here. I'm apparently quite a bit older than you. Although, I have just recently admitted to myself about my bi-sexual tendencies and havent been able to talk about it to hardly anyone that I know yet. It has been a long hard struggle with my religious beliefs and what I was taught all of my life. I may be older than you, but in some ways I am envious that you are mature enough to step out and voice yourself; that you are seeking advice at an early age. Keep being honest with yourself, keep all options open and listen to your heart. Let us know how things go. We will try to be there for you when you need us.
  • to me, you are not weird at all. you dont need any help. thats just you. your family even your parents should still love you not matter ifyour bi, gay or anything else. i think you should tell your parents but explain it to them very carefully so they understand what your feeling
  • Be yourself but If you're a devoted Christian I don't need to say more you know what's in your heart. You know what's right and wrong but also God test the heart so don't lie to yourself. You are who you are.
  • The fact that your parents make you... IS you being a good religious person. As that is usually the case in religion. It is traditionally not a choice, it is usually dogmatic and either forced or just a generational mindset that goes un questioned. To love God... One need never have been or never become Religious. So if you want to be like them... Keep going along with the program. After all, they are too.
  • You don't need to let your parents know who you bed down with...since my God loves all people...there is nothing wrong with who you are...it is only societies view that thinks they can judge...which goes against their teachings...go figure....if you fall in love with another person of your own sex...then it should be brought up....
  • Be your [authentic] self. God loves you. Plain and Simple.
  • You are the way God made you and it's OK. I see no need to tell your parents until you don't depend on them anymore. That's especially true if they wouldn't like it. Spare yourself that rejection.
  • You need to tell them.
  • god is great and so are you. Don't let anyone tell you differently.
  • You not telling your parents would be doing the wrong thing('bad christian'). Are you okay with being bisexual? If your parents are religious and stuff then they can't do anything horrible to you and they have to accept you for who you are. It'll be hard at first and I know it's probably the last thing your parents want to hear, but it'll all blow over sooner or later. The younger you tell them, the faster they'll accept it. I'm sure you just don't want your parents thinking down or diffrently of you, but if your 100% sure your bisexual and it's not just a stage, then you should def. tell them.
  • Your sex and love life is your own business. You don't need to tell them. making you go to church is ridiculous. If you're old enough to screw you're old enough to sleep in on Sunday's. And no, you are not a bad person because of your sex life. Your parents might be for forcing their nyth on you though. +5
  • you're allowed to be your own person and aslong as you don't let yourself down then why be worried?
  • I believe that God loves you just the way you are. Your parents should do the same.
  • for one still go to chuch if you want too and yes tell them they only find out one day so sooner the better they wont change what you are are no one can do that so carry and be yourself.
  • You're not a bad person for being bi, it is not your parents biz what's going on with your sexual orientation (as long as you're not going underage).

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