Overreacting? His ass would be out the door so fast it would make his head spin.

He's out huntin' and just because he hasn't shot a beaver yet only means he ain't seen one he'd like to eat. You know what I mean?

Um yes you should dump him. Are you serious? You deserve better!!

I would probably do as you are: find it impossible to trust him and write into AB looking for solutions. In the end you have three courses of action a. perform another confrontation b. leave him c. ignore the 'evidence' and stay with him Obviously, doing a. will entail b. or c. eventually. If I had the courage I would like to do b. even if it is only for a while. In that past, when I've put up with 'unacceptable' behaviour, it has only got worse. Leaving someone leaves us feeling very sad and lonely so making sure you have good friends around, and that you go out and be social as well as spending quality time alone, is a good step for that. I wish you a lot of courage - identify those who love you genuinely, and who you also adore, and then give THEM your time. It pays off.

I'd say goodbye.

You have answers to this question at http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/1147479 . If you wish to trust him, you have to actually trust him. If you don't, there will be no relationship for you to have, as trust is one of the most important aspects of relationships. You can forgive cheating, if it's once, or with only one person (See the following: Forgiving cheaters - Here's my answer to someone asking about forgiving a cheater - http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2691789 and http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2676754 (Yes... You can, if you want to, but there are things you BOTH must do... If you CAN'T, see http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/2704787 ) ) Stay or go is up to you. If you feel you can't handle the situation without help, then get some - a marriage counselor (singly or together), a minister, a trusted mutual friend... . If you need some time alone to think about it, then do so. (However, if you do this, you MUST be aware that many people will consider you both free and clear. Things can happen while you are apart that probably wouldn't while you're together.) And, if you have kids, you HAVE to make sure that they know any arguments you have between you are NOT their fault. You don't need to explain everything, just say you're trying to work things out. Here's also an answer I gave to a "When is it time to leave" question. (The link in it was to another that said pretty much the same thing. The questions were merged, and the link in the answer was lost. I have asked them to check on it.) http://www.answerbag.com/a_view/3315680 . Good luck. ;-)

What a dog!!!!!!!!!!! get out while you can

I would consider him a cheater. I cannot and will not tolerate cheating. If he is already cheating on you, there is no point in saying "Okay, stop cheating and we can be together". He has already cheated, he will cheat again and just make it harder to find out about. I say leave him. I would.

He obviously has no respect for the relationship if he has "friends" that want to see him in the middle of the night like that. If you are currently being mistreated, then it is only going to get worse. Can you see yourself dealing with this long term? I see so many women who put up with inappropriate behavior, trying to salvage the relationship because they "love him". You should do what's best for you: move on, stop talking to this guy, and find a real man that is trustworthy and appreciates you. Those are my thoughts.

Sounds like a booty call to me...

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i would say your underreacting, dump his ass and find a man who appreciates you, believe me there are plenty of good man out there who are more worth your time

I would dump the guy as his interests seems to be elsewhere!

Hello!!!! Yes it's cheating!