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  • maybe you dont need to convince them, they already know this ..isnt that what love is all about :O)
  • If we are talking me personally, folk are pretty certain of what they are getting when it comes to me, I present myself as is, no sugar coating, no obtuseness. This presents itself with the good things like honesty and truthfulness, it also presents itself with the 'bad' things like brutal honesty and painful truthfulness. If U means 'You in general': When it comes to relationships we pair off and join with a partner/mate for selfish reasons - usually mostly selfish reasons. "I love you" is a selfish excuse feelings of love usually include large helpings of 'I can't live without you' and 'I want to be with you' and 'I want you'. Love is a product of evolution, it is a driving force that makes it possible for our species to continue to survive from generation to generation. Love is one of the most confusing and profound emotions we humans have, it leads to 'blindness' meaning we fail to see what we are getting, leads to people short selling themselves and leads to many good and terrible acts all out of vain hope of having that selfish emotion fulfilled. Of course our selfish wants are (usually) balanced with a desire to please the person of our love, to that end we include their wants, needs, desires blah in our actions and intentions. But in a 'sick' and deeper dark way that is more personal selfishness since we seek personal gain and are willing to 'sell out' to the feelings of another to get what we want. People respond to 'love' or the intentions of another for 'selfish' reasons, be it mere ego stroking or be it that they two are infected with the 'I love' or 'I WANT' bug as well. If a person does not feel that their personal desires are getting filled then no amount of reason and logic will convince them otherwise. How each person FEELS about a situation varies and is dependent upon the person and the situation. Those who are in doubt or a potential mate are usually being struck on one level or another by the confusing and the 'hidden' contradictions of selfishness and selflessness of the condition we call love. Most people fall madly, deeply and without any reservations into love the first time around. The second time around (or third, fourth, fifth, etc) they have the experience to question, to doubt, and in many cases have had bad experiences that scream at them to put on the brakes and take control. In any case, convincing a person that a relationship is beneficial to them is something a person can not do for them, they must figure that one out on their own, and they will, based upon how they perceive you, the world and relationships in general.

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