I love my husband dearly, but Im not sure I am attracted to him anymore, what do I do?
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Becca75
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Wow, this is a difficult question, especially seeing that I've never been married, but I will do my best. I have heard of some people who would start dating him again and remember why they fell in love with him in the first place and get to know each other again. Also try new things that ya'll haven't done and experience new things together (& no, I'm not just talking about 'in bed'). I hope this helps & I wish ya'll the best of luck! I would hate to see ya'll divorce (especially if kids are involved); my parents are currently going through a seperation (not legally, but still).
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Ok, quick disclaimer: I'm a divorce attorney (or you could look at me as a student of relationships if it sounds better): Think hard about what made him attractive to you in the first place, and be honest with yourself. This might take a while. Once you've more or less nailed those things down, consider what might have changed. Bear in mind that it's probable that what's changed is on your part, not his (for example, something that used to be attractive might not be anymore). If you can drill it down to something tangible, look at what it was and what's different now, think about what you'd like to be different, and then just talk. When you do that, you probably ought to lead with how you totally love him and just want to make things better. Because we men like to jump into situations like that and try to suggest fixes, you might also want to encourage him to just shut up and listen for a while because you might just talk yourself into a solution. Good luck.
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