ANSWERS: 21
  • This is your decision, don't let your husband's family make the decision for you. And make sure you have legal advice.
  • Have the baby. It is not the fault of the unborn child that you and your husband are having issues. Divorce hardly seems an appropriate reason to end a life.
  • Nobody can tell you how to feel. Only you know that
  • It's your decision to make, don't let them influence you into making a hasty decision. The child is an innocent. Of course they'd want you to abort so he wouldn't have to pay as much in child support.
  • I was there once with two kids, decided to have the child. It is your child and not his family's.
  • Where's your family or a close friend to help you with a decision? His family sounds pretty nasty and biased. A good church would love to help you and point you in the right direction for resources.
  • I can see why you are divorcing. Did that child do anything to deserve a death sentence?
  • The tone of your question makes it sound like you are struggling with this decision. What troubles me is that people make these kinds of decisions on convenience and that there are other avenues to explore other than abortion. Plenty of people out there who can't have kids and want to adopt ETC. Good luck with your decision.......
  • No abortion please.Get legal advice for the settlement especially on the child support and maintenance.Another alternative is to defer the divorce proceedings for the sake of the children.Look for a way to solve your problems that you have with him.Move as far away from his family and object to anymore interference and provocation from them.Fight for your rights and dont ever give in on their demands.
  • Tell them to kiss it where the sun don't shine and hit his ass up for child support and alimony and keep the kids and the house and the car and his recliner, oh and the remote. Good luck to you and your children.
  • String out the divorce until after the baby is born, if you decide against the abortion. Consider how you may feel down the line if you end this baby's life. Don't let those monsters tell you what to do or how to feel. Get yourself a good lawyer if you can.
  • By the way, welcome to Answer Bag. Please do not have an abortion, put the baby up for adoption if you do not want to keep the baby. Why murder an innocent human being just to make his cruel family happy? Look at your two year old and think about if they had told you to have an abortion. Don't abort the baby, either keep the baby or put the baby up for adoption, so they can have a nice loving family.
  • I'm really sorry that you are going through this, however, life will go on. Continuing the pregnancy is definitely the best choice. You will be able to raise your children without having him present. You will also be able to find a loving man who will accept your children! I have 2 children and I had a struggle as well. I was engaged to my ex and we were expecting our second child. When I was about 6 months pregnant he cheated :-( With the help of family and friends I was able to move out and move forward. It wasn't easy but today I am with a wonderful man who accepts my children and my ex pays child support!!!!! Good luck and make sure you look to your friends and family for support.
  • Screw him and his family... What they want has nothing to do with you or your body. Of course they want you to get an abortion because they dont want to pay for their sons mistakes. What a group! Its better you got out while you could. If an abortion is what would suit you and your needs as far as raising a child by yourself goes that is a different story of course because it sounds like you are going to have to...
  • You're getting a divorce and not sure how much you should value the advice of the one you are to be separted from and his family? In my mind their guidance would be worth about squat. Regardless of what you decide you are the one that will either carry to term or not, raise the child or not; but most certianly the one that will live with what you decide for the rest of your life - not him or your ex inlaws. The only thought I would give them is that they most likely won't be there for any support afterwards and that you should remember.
  • Screw what they want, its your body and your child dammit! Can your family not help you out?
  • NEVER let anyone else pressure you into an abortion. This is a hollow and shameful way for your soon-to-be ex to try to weasel out of child support. No need to get into a big abortion debate here, but do you really need to be emotionally scarred, not to mention lose a baby all because he and his family want to run your life? Your life in which they will soon be out of? Why are you (not to mention the unborn baby!) paying the price because he doesn't want to "man up"?
  • do you not understand abortion is murder its not just a bunch of cells as doctors tell you its life!!abortion doctors have to answer to jesus christ for all the innocent lives theyve taken and besidethat theres us who cant have kids like me who would love to have one a child is a gift from god dont destroy it
  • His family shouldn't have anything to do with the decission. It's up to you.
  • Do not get an abortion and how dare he leave a pregnant woman.
  • I think he wants to squib out on paying child support. Would you really want a monster like that around your child/ren? I would advise getting legal advice and never being alone with any of them.

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