know it's normal to have a girlfriend who isn't a virgin, and the older you get, the less likely you are to find one that is, but my girlfriend has only had 2 boyfriends, counting me. She lost her virginity to her ex boyfriend about 3 months into their relationship, and this was in 7th grade! She's 15 now, and I'm 15 too. She said they did it multiple times, but I'm not going to hold it against her. I've forgiven her for it, and she knows that she made a mistake, but it still hurts to think about it. I know I shouldn't feel bad at ALL about it, because it was her decision. She said she thought they were in love and that they would really last forever, but that didn't happen. Her and her ex still hang out and talk all the time, because they're really good friends, and I respect that. I'm not going to make her stop. I was just wondering: How am I supposed to cope with the pain I feel every time I think about her not being a virgin? Please don't make any comments unless you've had experience in this area, or if you know anyone who has. Please, be mature about it Sorry, I don't know how to add more details to the question.

Dear ehh... Yeah, were in the EXACT same boat. My boyfriend isn't a virgin anymore. He's a year older than me and lost it last year so he was my age. It was with this girl that he was on and off for like two years with so it wasnt one of those one night things so ya. Now he's 15 and im 14 and im still a virgin. We've been dating for 2 and a half months but im not going to loose my v card yet, but when it does come time i dont no what im going to do.. Like i realy love him and everything and i want to be together with him. But like every time we do something or i think about loosing it, it always pops in my head.. like he's going to be the one i always remember like forever... and for him.. well im not, its goina be that other girl, and like I totally overract on this whole virginity thing but it is a big deal for me. and i dont want to do it and then have him dump me or something, like ug. I want to get it out of my head and realize that its no big deal and he didnt even no me then so i couldnt have had any part in his dicision to do it. But it just really bothers me and i cat stop thinking about it. I no it sounds crazy and all.. but i want to no how to cope with it too, because im having a really hard time getting over it, and i dont no how to tell him because i dont want him to think im some over protective freak that wont let go of this one little thing.. I no this isnt an answer to yours at all, but we seem to be on the same boat, maybe we could help eachother out?

Are you ok with the fact that she's not a virgin. Probably not or else you wouldn't be asking. ask yourself, is that something you hold dear ? If so, you may never get passed that in this relationship. If not, don't worry about it and keep it in your pants.....you are to young anyway.

Dear mr, ehh....., I'm in nearly the exact same boat as you, except our ages are a bit different and my girlfriend hates the guy she did it with. Apparently he pretended to adore her so he could 'take a virgin'. I've never met this guy and i don't even know his name or what school he goes to, and i'm not sure if that makes it hurt more or not. They went out for about 2 months this past summer, and it was secret. Her parents wanted her to have nothing to do with this dude. That hurts a lot too. I'm not sure anyone could understand how easily it hurts while being so hard to figure out why unless you're experiencing this. Idk what to feel. The night she told me, i felt the same way i the weeks after my best friend was murdered about a year and a half ago. It was bad. We've been going out 3 months and we love each other, and we're going to talk more about it. I know it's not really an answer, but reading your situation helped a bit, so i thought mine might do the same for you.