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by Jodie44 on January 3rd, 2007
My mother. I really wouldn't care what we did. I'd just like to talk to her and listen to her again. I'd tell her all the things I wish I'd told her when she was alive about how much I appreciated everything she'd done for me and how much she meant to me. And we'd probably end up laughing at all the crazy things we always laughed at.
by hemiman on January 19th, 2007
My wife that died Thanksgiving Day 1999, I would take her fishing, that is what she loved to do and that is where we spent a lot of idle time just talking about the kids, our plans for retirement, dreams, hashing out differences, teasing, playing,etc....
by Ullyses on January 19th, 2007
To answer your question I have to assume that they would have aged as if still alive. I would love to see my dead son again. He would have turned 12 three days ago, and I would give him the best damned birthday party anybody has ever had, to make up for all the ones he's missed and all the ones he's going to miss in the future.
by Monker45 on January 3rd, 2007
My sister. I would just listen to her. She was a saint.
by bowlinggreen on January 3rd, 2007
I would spend it with my grandfather fishing. He and I never got to know each other too well because he lived in a different country. He loved to fish, and was a very peaceful man who delivered newspapers for a living. I miss him.
by RFlagg on January 6th, 2007
My great grandmother, Frank.
I positively loved that woman, she smoked and drank like a fish until the day she died, at 101, no less.
We'd probably end up hanging out in some bar, drinking shot after shot and mocking random strangers, she was just that kind of grandma.
by Andy Is Wicked Married to Penal Colony on January 6th, 2007
My Grandfather. I have a lot of questions I would like to ask him. I would also just like a hug from him because he always had a nice, warm, comforting hug. I would thank him for all of the wisdom he imparted to me. I would tell him how much I miss him and what a huge void his death left in my heart and life.
by Ruby21103 on January 6th, 2007
My grandma. She died almost two years ago. I wish she could hold me in her arms again and sing to me. She was a great singer, had a beautiful voice. I miss her dearly.
My uncle David. He was a fave uncle and the only one in the family who even acknowledged my sister and I. He reminded me of Santa Claus! He died almost three years ago of lung cancer. Im glad I was there with him to hold his hand as he passed away in the hospital. I wish I could just spend Christmas Eve (his birthday) with him one more time.
by AntigoneRising on January 3rd, 2007
I would spend it with my grandmother and we would just talk.
by maggiekate on January 18th, 2007
my mother. she died when i was 20 and it has been 10 years and a very long road since then. i would just talk to her about things that really matter.
by bigkado69 on January 3rd, 2007
It would of been my friend daryl.he grew up with me since i was about 5 and i knew him for 21 yrs.Well he was a realy bad alcoholic and he llved with his girlfriend of 2 yrs.she left him for another girl and he had no where to go even thou his parents would of let him move home ,well he didnt want to move home cause he was realy poor.Well his drinking got to him realy bad and he was forced to move home and he blew his head off in his backyard one night after some heavy drinking.I really wish i would of talked to him the night before it happened or had another place for him to go cause i honestly think it wouldnt of happened.i guess it is 2 late now.
by anonymous on January 6th, 2007
My grandad. I'd probably just hug him all day
by beenaroundtheblock on January 3rd, 2007
My brother. He lived in the Arctic. During our very last phone call he told me that he'd written an autobiography, several times. To the point that I said are you sick or dying or something? Why are you telling me this? He said I just want you to know that I've done this and it's out there. Then he died suddenly (did he have a premonition?)
Anyway, I went up there to collect some of his things, and eventually asked the girlfriend about the autobiography. She didn't know what I was talking about, she went through the house and didn't find anything like that, I must have been mistaken, well if she finds it she'll certainly let me know. That was 4 years ago.
So, if I could have a day with my brother, before we went horsebackriding, like the last time we were together before he died, before we went for a great meal and a few drinks, I would ask him WHERE IS THE AUTOBIOGRAPHY!
by meganc on January 3rd, 2007
my grandfather, i miss him so much! i think he would love my kids and they would of had as good of a relationship as we did. that would be in person, i do spend every day with him now,only its in prayer.
by anonymous on January 3rd, 2007
My best friend growing up died in our senior year. He was his by a car and suffered major brain damage. Its been 5 years and I still miss him a lot. I would bring him back and spend the last few moments on Earth with him doing to things that we always loved. Frisbee Golf,... Renting a boat and sneaking beer onto it,... Have a huge party with all of our friends. The works.
by scotty2006 on January 19th, 2007
My grandmother and grandfather. My grandmother was the sweetest kindest person i ever knew and my grandfather while a very stern man, I loved to sit and talk to him for hours. Even at 45 I miss them.
by Anonymous on January 6th, 2007
My father.
by singwell-is off researching a lot on March 4th, 2007
I don't think I'd want the extra time. I have grieved and accepted their deaths. I couldn't go through that again.
by phile4evr on February 9th, 2007
My boyfriend. I just want to hold him, and tell him how much I love him and miss him. I don't really care what we do, even if we're only together long enough to say good bye.
by Damiana on January 19th, 2007
My dad and watching him be a grandpa to my offspring - he died before they were born. Wow I really do miss him and all the special things that we could have done together as a family.
by Patti jo on January 19th, 2007
My next door neighbor,who was killed in a crash on the 15th of Jan 2007 - She taught me alot in these few month's - She went to run an errand and we were going to make pie's when she got back. My heart is very sad
by Universe Of Life on January 19th, 2007
My Grandfather
He was a great man but he died before I was old enough to tell him how much I appreciated his wisdom
by prettybird on September 11th, 2007
my son
by bookdoc on August 4th, 2007
My Dad. I'd take him around to visit the family, spending a lot of time talking.
by Anonymous on July 14th, 2007
my brother and i would help him do what he asked me to do so he wouldn't have been killed a few hrs later trying to do it on his own without my help.
by Arisztid on July 5th, 2007
My father.
We would walk in the woods and/or sit home and talk. He would tell me more stories from his homeland and about my mother or anything else he felt like talking about.
Or my mother.
I never knew her because she died birthing me but I would love to meet her.
by denise on May 13th, 2007
it would be my father, I would sit and hold his hand and stare at him taking in every little detail so that I could hold it in my memory for the rest of time.
by Hieronymus_Bosch on April 23rd, 2007
My late husband, Dennis. He was such a laugh we would have fun no matter what we did. I would tell him how much he meant to me and thank him for coming into my life. And i would kiss him one last time.......
by Firebrand on April 7th, 2007
It would be my husband , we could sit and talk about all the things we thought we had time to discuss and did not.
Just cuddle up and tell him how much I really loved him and how sorry i was that i tried to bully him into fighting to last longer so that i would not be left alone.
Tell him to take good care of our son when they meet again in Heaven, although Robbie will probably be able to show him around.
Just tell him that they must stay together to be able to meet me when i arrive
Most of all just to hold him and cry and let him know how much I am missing him but cannot cry without him, because I am afraid that once I start I will crack and never stop.
by - retroglide - on April 7th, 2007
It would have to be a lady named Gloria. She was like a mother to me. In her later years of life her 3 sons didn't really visit or call her. For 10 years I was the daughter she never had.
When she became ill and was resisting going to the doctor, I called all 3 boys. They basically told me she was a grown woman and could take care of herself. I didn't accept this and finally forced her to go the doctor.
She had cancer and died 8 months later.
Her sons were no where around the first 4 months of her care. It was up to me, one grown granddaughter, and a caregiver we hired to spend nights.
Gloria didn't have much really. But she did own a small home with equity. Gloria's wishes were that the home be sold and ALL money be divided equally between her grand children and great grandchildren.
When she was near death, all of a sudden one son stepped in and took over. It's a very long and complicated story, but I was banned from the home suddenly. They would not allow me to speak to her on the phone either. The last two days of her life, all family was called. It was obvious she was near death. I went over there and wasn't allowed in.
Gloria's son told her that I had become too burdened by her care and refused to help any longer. My husband and children were allowed over and told Gloria is wasn't true. But according to my husband, he doesn't think she believed him.
So, if I could spend one more day with her, I would tell her how very much I loved her. I would thank her for all the meals she cooked for us. For all the times she cared about us. I would warn her of the things to come and let her know that I would NEVER abandon her.
I would also tell her to put her wishes in writing.
It's an extremely hideous feeling knowing someone died thinking you had abandoned them. I hope there is a Heaven and a God. If there is, she now knows the truth and has love and peace.
The one son managed to get the house, sold it, and then squandered the money.
by Anonymous on March 4th, 2007
I would spend it with my friend, who i lost a year ago. I'd bring him to his twin sister.
by Marac02-12-89 on March 4th, 2007
my dad,he was killed over money he never had. i never really got to know him, or even see him, and wouldnt care what we did, but id have so many questions. i lived with my granparents all my life, so i have never gotten to know him.
by xxxxxxxxxx on March 4th, 2007
my father. i never really got to know him. i was 8 when he died and he was very abusive. i had alot of anger towards him for years. now that ive grown up im able to see things differently. id love to just be able to sit with him and talk, and know why things happened the way that they did. and to let him know that i forgive him.
by Yukiko on March 4th, 2007
I can't choose between my cousin Jason and one of my best friends, Amanda. (None of my grandparents have died, thank God). I think we would just hang out and just enjoy being together.
by buzz123456 on February 27th, 2007
My father, died when I was 10, think I made him feel guilty about something same day he killed himself, I would not say it
by Redhawk on February 25th, 2007
My Mom and Dad. My Dad died with I was 16, and my Mom in 1999...I miss them both. There are some things I just would want to talk about with them, hug them....
by I love my baby on February 10th, 2007
I would do nothing but hold him, talk and listen for the 24 hours. This is all I have thought about for the last two weeks, He was the love of my life (I was looking for explanations and stumbled upon answerbag.) The only thing I have found at all, is to try and distract the thoughts, it only helps for a moment.
by Inspector Javert on January 24th, 2007
The only person I was close to that died was my great-grandmother. She was a sweet lady... it's a pity I can't remeber more about her.
by wefted_wombat on January 24th, 2007
There are three people. My first fiance' David Just to be able to hug him and say goodbye if nothing else.
My second fiance' Ichiro. I would want to know who murdered him so the killer could be brought to justice.
My father so I could tell him I love him and talk to him about all the wonderful things he knows. I never realized how difficult my life would be without him so many questions I have that only he could answer for me.
by bunceee on January 19th, 2007
My grandma who died when I was 1 and my great aunt who died when I was 3. I'd like to spend the day just getting to know them, they were wonderful women and I was blessed to have them in my life even for a short time.
by M Moon on July 15th, 2007
The daughter I lost in our house fire.
I would take her to the ocean and just float there with her, lettering the Nature of all things, even its hardships, be equally cherished, for it is true -- no matter how 'uncomfortable' -- everything and everyone does 'pass.'
Sometimes, they pass away too soon.
by Curiosity49 on June 1st, 2007
My Mother: I would sit on my patio with her, show her all my flowers and plants outside, and look at the Blue Jays and Red Birds. Since she died, I always think of her when I see a Blue Jay. It was her favorite. I would make sure I asked her to touch my face once again and feel the warmth of her hands one more time. I would play her piano for her, and show her I am trying to keep what she did alive. I would tell her how much I love her, and ask her to sing for me one more time.
by haggis on May 26th, 2007
my best friend.. wafa'a who passed away from cancer at the age of 26. poor girl. i would love to just hang out with her and have our long heated discussions about life, love, politics or whatever silly thing occurred to us. i miss her and think about her every day.
by Redundant on April 7th, 2007
My mother..I would be in tears for most of the visit, just so happy to see her again, and sad to to know that she will be leaving us again. I would want her to tell me all about my Grandparents that are in heaven with her..We wouldn't do anything but talk and catch up on what has been going on these last 4, close to 5 years
by scotty2006 on April 7th, 2007
My Grandfather and Grandmother, I would love to just have one more day to just sit and talk.
by Constel on April 7th, 2007
my grandma, and ask her to make cheez whik toast cut in 9
by Carmella on April 7th, 2007
I think I'd like to bring my mum's dad back. I am the only one of her children who didn't meet him, and I'd like to.
by Ed the Jetpacking Headbanger on April 7th, 2007
My father. I would take him to a minor league baseball game. We would talk about the things we never talked about. After the game we'd go for dinner and drinks and maybe share some funny stories.
by chick98 on January 19th, 2007
It would have to be my Grammie.
I miss her very much and wish I would have visited her more often. If I had the chance I would spend all my time with her and let her know how much she means to me.
by Anonymous on November 14th, 2009
My grams died last friday. I wish I had the chance to see her before she died, but I was on the other side of the country strapped down with responsiblities. I told her a month or so before she died how much I loved her and how much she meant to me. Lord, I cried like a baby when I said those things to her and I don't regret it. They are laying her ashes to rest next to my grandpe today. I LOVE YA GRAMS!!!
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My guess would be she's right there with you and she know's your heart
by Patti jo on January 19th, 2007
Wow. Thanks, pattijo. That means a lot, especially because -- today is her birthday. GIves me chill! But in a good way:)
by Jodie44 on January 19th, 2007
That's a sad thing. No doubt for me either: Mom.
by Stableboy on January 24th, 2007
Rough stuff, huh, Stableboy? I'm sorry:(
by Jodie44 on January 24th, 2007
This literally brought tears to my eyes. I'm sorry about your mom too. :(
by Carmella on April 7th, 2007
Awwww. Thanks, Carmella. She was my favorite person in the whole world.
by Jodie44 on April 7th, 2007
I was going to say basically the same thing. My mom died five years ago and I still miss her terribly. I wonder if that ever goes away.
by Gracie on December 12th, 2007
{{{{Hugs}}}} Honestly? The pain gets less intense, but for me, it still hurts more than I could ever put into words. I'm just grateful that I had a mom I loved so much and hope I'll see her again one day. We never know.
by Jodie44 on December 12th, 2007
I;m thinking of you Jodie44 ,and the love you have for your mom (( HUGS my friend ))
by Patti jo on December 12th, 2007
Thanks, Patti Jo. I'll always remember her birthday last January and your sweet words here in this comment thread.
by Jodie44 on December 12th, 2007
Jodie - I thought about you yesterday and our wonderful things we shared about your mom and my neighbor
by Patti jo on December 12th, 2007
I was one of the lucky ones. My hubby went into the hospital and shouldn't have come out (his kidneys failed). They got the kidneys working again and sent him home. The next day he started to get ill again but was still in good spirits. We spent the day talking, walking & holding hands, watching a movie and just talking about how much we loved one another. By the evening his health did a decline, he was in a coma the next day and and two days later he had passed away.
I will be forever grateful for that one day. We didn't know it would be our "last" together but I'm glad that we seized the opportunity. He was only 51 years old.
by skilfulaxe55 on June 27th, 2008