I'm guessing that her unhappiness has little to do with the men she chooses, and much to do with the choices she's made for what to do with her life and how she sees herself. Chasing these younger men isn't the cause of her unhappiness, but it may be a symptom of trying to distract herself from her frustration. You don't cure the disease by treating the symptoms, and in any case you're not her doctor.

I have a friend like that too - i wonder if they are having a hard time with getting older and not being in the jet set age anymore. it's hard watching them suffer, but just being there for them is all you can do.

MAYBE she likes being the "motherly" type. MAYBE she simply prefers an "Adonis" Before you can help her, she has to want to help herself. If she has one or more hobbies or outside interests such as fishing, hunting, tennis, golf, trading, real estate, knitting, cooking, baking, computers, etc., with your help, perhaps she could find a club or group in her area with people who have the same hobbies or interests. She doesn't have to go to bars, clubs or other "meat market"-type environments. There are probably some great places to meet nice people right in her own environment and perhaps if she gets out of her "comfort zone" just a bit, a whole new world might open for her. If she goes to church, temple or mosque, perhaps there are events for singles. If not, you could go on-line and find-out when and where those social events will occur. At her work, she could ask about professional organizations, which she can get involved with and participate in. Whatever her interest, IT'S UP TO HER TO PARTICIPATE AND BE ACTIVE! She has to get on committees. She has to let people know she's alive! She has to get out of her comfort zone just a little: She should find a worthy charity and on a regular, dependable basis - just as though it was a second job - do volunteer work for that charity. "The powers that be" and many caring, loving people - the folks she may be hoping to meet and "rub elbows with" and get to know, are those ladies and gentlemen doing volunteer work at hospitals, nursing homes, worthy charities and causes. When she does volunteer work on a consistent, dependable basis, her ability increases, her horizons expand and meeting that "special someone" AND possibly "climb, up the social ladder" could be greatly shortened and she could be recognized A WHOLE LOT SOONER. Is she bashful or an introvert? Perhaps she could enroll and participate in public speaking courses to help her "turn her flower bud into a live, vibrant, beautiful blossom" or plant! There are wonderful courses! If you want something more specific, look for "PUBLIC SPEAKING" in my "Summary". It's just above this series of ***********. BELIEVE ME: NO ONE is going to come and knock on her door asking if she can come out and play. SHE HAS TO get out there and let herself be noticed. SHE HAS TO get out there and meet new people! Thanks for asking the Q for your friend! I enjoyed answering it! VTY, Ron Berue Yes, that is my real last name! Sources: My wonderful family, friends, acquaintances and business associates! The trading groups I belong to. The volunteer work I do. Some personal observations and opinions. "THE University of Hard Knocks" Also known as ("a/k/a") "life's valuable lessons".