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  • No. I am constantly available for interruption. Whatever he's doing is far more important than what I'm doing. I have to drop everything to pay attention if he shouts me. Needless to say, this doesn't work both ways. It's like living with a small child sometimes. And we're not even married... It's a small price to pay for happiness though, I guess (though I could sometimes scream ;))
  • I don't give my husband my full attention until he gives me his,it works both ways:)
  • He does like attention, but doesn't require or demand it. I can still watch tv, talk on the phone & get on the computer.... but I do limit it.
  • My husband works out of town for 40 days, and is home for 10. So when he is home he expects ALL of my attention, when he is in the house that is. He likes to be outside working on his 'projects' all day, and when he comes in, he expects me all to himself, even though we have a 2 year old. Sometimes its like he's fighting our son for my attention! I don't mind spending time with him because he is away so much, but it has to be on his terms, and not when I want to spend time with him. By the end of the day I'm so worn out from our toddler I just want to relax, and that is when he wants my attention the most. Its very frustating
  • Nope he doesn't need my attention 24/7, he's awesome he understands that I need some space sometimes.
  • After all of this time, my husband knows that in the long run, he wouldn't be happy if he demanded my full attention all of the time. He let's me do my thing and I let him do his. But, if someone is spending all of their free time doing other things, that's not a good thing either.
  • I wish I could be one of the commenters who say what cool husbands they have - who allow them to do their own thing, etc. When my husband is furious with me (it's usually for no good reason or something trivial like a drop of oil smeared on the kitchen counter by accident and this happens once or twice a week or so...), he starts yelling at me - even when I am on the phone. It's not like I'm on the phone all the time neglecting the house cleanliness or not cooking or not taking care of our child. Oh, how he yells if something (whether it has to do with me or not) bothers him. He really needs to deal with his anger in a more constructive way. Over two consecutive days he blew up at me for trivia, in front of our child, too. His anger will dissipate after 2 to 3 hours of screaming at me - he won't leave me alone. He will follow me all over the house to yell. It's very distracting and throws me off & makes me forget what I was supposed to do. I am diabetic, asthmatic, have adrenal insufficiency, have stomach acid problems and I take various prescription medicines to help me deal with those illnesses. Sometimes I forget to take the medicines (like insulin) when he's yelling at me. After his anger has stopped and the yelling subsides and my spirit is totally crushed,I always remember what needed to be done - especially when I need to take care of my basic needs. I get into survival mode, often. Of course, my child usually gets ignored while he's yelling at the top of his lungs at me. I guess that's one way to build lung strength and get his anger out for him, but it's at the expense of me and the little one. Sorry to rant. I think the short answer to your question is, yes, my husband needs lots of attention when he's home. Going on the computer, being on the phone, reading a book, aren't options for me when he's home. Now I wouldn't mind that if he had a better disposition. (I'm typing this at midnight, when husband and child are both asleep.)
  • it is obivious that every married men or women always want a full attention of their spouse.it is totally rediculous if you watch tv ,talk on phone or read magzines while your husband is at home or when he comes back,regarding my personal experience i do not want to irritate my husband by doing such activities,whenever my husband is at home i drive my attention only towards him to let him feel that his presence really matters a lot to me,i talk to him make jockes and pranks with him,care him listen him ,and when we laugh together it gives us the feeling of the best and the happiest couple in the world.

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