If your boyfriend or girlfriend said its me or the dog and you have had your dog for 3yrs and had only been dating that person for 1yr who would you choose?
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Melissa2598
ANSWERS: 14
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It depends: Does one of them pee on the floor? Does one of them eat my shoes/shorts/furniture? Does one of them really love me? Is the sex THAT good? Etc.....
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I would pick my dog(s). They are reliable. How are you to know that your relationship is going to last anyway?
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In general, I would always choose my boyfriend over my pet without hesitation. Relationships with people are much more important than relationships with animals. However, the fact that he had given me an ultimatum would be a significant problem. That kind of controlling and manipulative behavior would certainly cause major problems at some future point in the relationship. If he had a problem with my pet and asked me to get rid of it, I would consider doing so based on his reasons. However, an ultimatum would not go over well. I would attempt to figure out what was going on with him, and I would seek to solve the problem. I would not allow myself to be bullied into giving up my pet.
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First question... Why would the ultimatum be issued? What has the dog done to cause it? Second question... If the ultimatum is because he does not like dogs, why was he dating you to the point of feeling he COULD issue the ultimatum, knowing you had one? If the dog has done/does do something that is bad enough he feels it needs to be one or the other in your life, then I'd evaluate based on that. If he simply does not like dogs, I'd call him controlling, tell him he knew you had one, and to accept the dog or leave.
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Well with out even thinking about it i would choose my boyfriend. i have had my dog for about 3 years and me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. I love him way more tham i love my dog.
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The Dog!
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BF sounds bossy and pushy which is usually how "abuse" starts: controlling and manipulative behavior. That in itself would cause me to send him on his way. Plus NOBODY gives me an ultimative to get rid of the dog. My dog is like my child and part of my family. you want me, you accept him. If you don't accept him, good bye. I won't give up a friendship for a man and my dog is my best friend so though I may be strange, my dog would stay and he would go.
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The dog. I've told my partners often that my cat was there before them, and will be here if they leave me, and therefore will sometimes come first. If you don't get along with the cat, it's not going to work out. People who say the relationship with a person is more important than a pet hasn't truly had a pet they love. If your boyfriend/girlfriend loves you, that includes your pet and how you feel about it. Pets are your family and are there for you when no one else is, and they depend on you. If your partner is going to ask you to give up something you care about, what else are they going to demand you give up?
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My husband and I have been through this. We still have our dog and we are still married. You have to think about how that person (the one who wants the dog) would feel. If I made my husband get rid of his dog, he would resent me for it. You just have to come to a happy middle. For us, it was the dog hair, and cleaning up after our dog. We just needed to make a schedule on who would be responsible for what task that needed to be done. I'm not sure what the reason is, but I hope this helps. If it can't be worked out, more than likely, its not the dogs fault, but something else deeper that has always been there.
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The dog. The BF sounds like a controlling jerk.
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hi, im facing this issue at the moment. i have had my wonderful dog for 3 years and been dating this guy seven months. we are supposed to be getting married. he knew from the start i had a dog, and had said i could keep him, but now says i can not becuase he is muslim. my dog has just had a big operation on one of his hind legs, and my boyfriend is even complaining about this care im giving my dog. i really dont want to give up my dog, it makes me heartbroken to think of it even :(
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I'm in the position and don't want to give an ultimatem. My fiancee just got a dog without any talking about it with me, knowing that I was against the idea. We live together, and have been together for 3 years. She's much more loving with the dog, and now neglects me. I'm not just an attention hog, you would have to be there to see what I'm talking about. She's obsessed with it. She all but told me that no matter what, she's not giving up the dog. I don't want to give an ultimatem, and i'm not a controlling person, but don't know what else to do. The stress is making me very sick all of the time and that's unhealthy. What can I do? I love her very much and don't want to lose her, but living the way that I am just isn't right. If the shoe were on the other foot, I would give up my pet, hands down.
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I can't imagine staying with someone who would ask me to make a decision like that. Doesn't sound like love to me.
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The dog. Of course. If you are a dog lover, then you must have a partner who is too. It is not reasonable to be put in that position. Get rid of the steady date, keep the dog, and wait until you find a dog lover.
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