It is not very often that you climax at the same time...when it happens it is fantastic...but usually one or the other needs extra time....young men climax faster then and older man by far.....

I was married to my first husband for 20 years. I actually trained myself to orgasm when he did, so for 20 years I had 7 minute sex. However, in order to do this, I tended to think about the last romance novel I had read or would fantasize about something that turned me on that my husband was NOT doing. It was ok, but I never felt I had real communication with him. When I married the second time, everything changed. My new husband and I got involved in several alternative lifestyles and tried all sorts of things out. It was all about communication and really trying to please each other. I really had much more fun not trying to have a simultaneous orgasm. It made me too much in my own head. My goal became how happy could I make him and then I would get my turn. We would sometimes have sex for hours. We also enjoyed having other people join us in the fun. I never fantasized. I was always totally present in my body and with my partner/partners. I found it much more satisfying. Sex is such an individual thing. Don't let anyone or any book tell you HOW it is to be done. Do your own exploration and find out what is best for you. Cherie http://www.swingtowns.com http://www.sexuality.org/swinging.html http://www.ncsfreedom.org/