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When I first got pregnant I decided to keep the baby, but when my parents or my boyfriend found out they weren't supportive. Also I'm only 17 and when I will have the baby I'll be 18. what should I do or any suggestions?

By page4cats Asked Nov 18 2008 2:55PM
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by Blessed has a COAT of many colors on Nov 19, 2008 at 6:36 am Permalink

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You aren't the first person ever in that situation. Get a job, get an apartment and move on. Likely they'll come around when they meet the baby. If not, you'll have the wonderful experience of loving that child and having the child love you. Its going to be tough, but you can do it.
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Avatar fearfulkitty Nov, 19 2008 at 06:55 AM
Great answer. I think this girl is the more grown up in her family.
Avatar Blessed has a COAT of many colors Nov, 19 2008 at 06:56 AM
And she wouldn't be the first to be more grown up than her family.
Avatar fearfulkitty Nov, 19 2008 at 07:09 AM
Sad but true.

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by Dezimae is on cloud 9 on Nov 19, 2008 at 6:32 am Permalink

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if you want to keep it then keep it. this is your child and it doesnt matter what anyone else has to say. if you think you are capable of raising a child then go for it, but if not, if i were in your position, i would give the baby up for adoption because there are THOUSANDS of people out ther that cant have their own children and would love to have yours, and would give it the life you would want it to have. this is your decision, not anyone elses so do what you think is right :)
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by Lori K still ignores stalkers and trolls on Nov 19, 2008 at 6:34 am Permalink

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You need a child support order to determine how much money your child will receive. Don't let the boyfriend or his parents talk you out of it.

To get this process started and get assigned a caseworker, you need to contact your local child support offices.

Caseworkers in these offices will help you collect child support no matter where the other parent lives. They work with attorneys, law enforcement agencies, and family and domestic courts.

They can help you establish paternity and find a missing parent. The court will then help determine how much child support you can collect based on how much the other parent can afford.

If you already receive public benefits (Temporary Assistance for Needy Families), then you are required to apply for child support (unless the other parent is abusive). Your caseworker can help you get the paperwork started.
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Avatar fearfulkitty Nov, 19 2008 at 06:55 AM
That's right baby! SOme sound advice good for you Lori.
Avatar Lori K still ignores stalkers and trolls Nov, 19 2008 at 07:02 AM
Thanks fearfulkitty.
Avatar fearfulkitty Nov, 19 2008 at 07:11 AM
Thank you Lori. From the bottom of my heart.

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by 2cents on Nov 19, 2008 at 6:39 am Permalink

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A child is a wonderful thing ! I would suggest at this time, dependent only on the information that you gave that adoption might be your best option. When you are young (and even when you are not) it is very hard to raise a child with no support and not really fair to raise a child that will be from a broken home from the very start (since you and bf aren't ready to get married, and he probably would never be happy even if he did marry you). You can be certain that your child will get a great set of parents and have a much better life that you can provide. Try an open adoption, so you can participate in his or her life if you prefer. There is no shame in giving your child to another couple through adoption. Raising a child is the hardest thing you will ever do, you owe it to yourself and the child to wait until you are in a better position.
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by Anonymous on Nov 19, 2008 at 6:29 am Permalink

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That's your decision. You can wait and have the baby and give it up for adoption, you can keep it, or there's always option C which half of the country hates, but again it's your choise!
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by Rinky Dinky Do on Nov 19, 2008 at 6:34 am Permalink

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Do what's right for you regardless of what anybody cares but do give a lot of thought and consideration to long-term consequences
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Avatar fearfulkitty Nov, 19 2008 at 06:55 AM
You are such a moron.
Avatar Rinky Dinky Do Nov, 19 2008 at 09:37 AM
Aaaah! Thank you, I know you love me and show it by insulting me! Right back at ya, toots!
Avatar fearfulkitty Nov, 20 2008 at 05:27 AM
Thanks.

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by Violet on Mar 9, 2009 at 11:27 pm Permalink

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get on birth control, and use condoms every time
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by page4cats on Sep 14, 2009 at 7:52 pm Permalink

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In the end they were supportive of me and I had the baby.
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by page4cats on Apr 16, 2009 at 7:09 am Permalink

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No longer applicable.
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by anddeb on Mar 9, 2009 at 7:03 am Permalink

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Yes, keep you baby and love it all you can. They will come around once they set eyes on the little bundle of hell joy that we all go through with kids.
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