Option 1: Say it was consensual. I don't think a judge would convict your boyfriend of rape. Option 2: Refuse to say who the father is. You can not be forced to divulge this information. ----- Seek legal advice.

Be accountable for your actions. Sit down and discuss this with your parents. This is a complex situation and I hope that your boyfriend stands with you in your choices and decides to be accountable as well. You may want to discuss with him how his parents will feel and if you feel as though they can handle the news better.. possibly having them sit down and discuss the future of this child together with your parents. Your boyfriend has broken the law and I am not sure how your parents will feel but hopefully everyone will look out for the best interest of this new creation. Good luck

Do you think your boyfriend will hang around when he finds out you are pregnant? Have you told him? I think he is gonna leave the country because, yes, he has committed a crime in many states by having sex with you. He is 21 years old, he should have been a lot smarter than to get involved with someone under the age of consent. You need to tell your parents that you are pregnant so you can get the necessary care to make sure that your baby has the best possible start. Aside from that, what happens will happen. Age of Consent in North Carolina is 16. § 14‑27.7A. Statutory rape or sexual offense of person who is 13, 14, or 15 years old. (a) A defendant is guilty of a Class B1 felony if the defendant engages in vaginal intercourse or a sexual act with another person who is 13, 14, or 15 years old and the defendant is at least six years older than the person, except when the defendant is lawfully married to the person. (b) A defendant is guilty of a Class C felony if the defendant engages in vaginal intercourse or a sexual act with another person who is 13, 14, or 15 years old and the defendant is more than four but less than six years older than the person, except when the defendant is lawfully married to the person. (1995, c. 281, s. 1.)

You both made a mistake. Stand up and deal with it. As a 21 Y/O he should have known WAY better than to get involved with you... at the very least, he should have used a condom. What about STD's?? Trust me, he's hitting everything he can. Protect yourself and stop worrying about him. I bet that soon he won't even give you the time of day... IF you can even find him. Go to your folks and tell them what happened. They're going to find out eventually anyway. You've got to face the music. For the rest of you, let this be a lesson. If you can't do the time, don't do the crime. He should thank God that you're not my Sister. Jail would be the least of his worries.

learn to read and write, this is not a text service. why where you going out with a 21 year old? if you know about statautory rape and about abortion (to have an opinion you must know about it hey), you are old enough to know what makes you pregnant and that he was too old. grow up, if you think you are old enough to have sex, then you must be honest and seek help.

learn to read and write, this is not a text service. why where you going out with a 21 year old? if you know about statautory rape and about abortion (to have an opinion you must know about it hey), you are old enough to know what makes you pregnant and that he was too old. grow up, if you think you are old enough to have sex, then you must be honest and seek help.

His mom died when he was 17 and his dad is a crack head who could care less about him. My parents already told me that i would have to find some other place to live if i came up pregnant. And i know he will hang aroung cuz we've talked about it. He knows. And before we ever ahd sex in the first place...we were both tested. Hes never had a girlfriend before so this is all new to him.

Points to you for looking for help. Here's the deal: As much as you 'luv' him, you have someone tiny & helpless that needs you more- YOU (OK- the baby). You need to think ONLY of YOU and the baby. Obviously the boyfriend has no problem taking care of what he wants. Him being sent to Jail is not your problem. If he were AT ALL mature, he would have been able to resist a little 15 yr old girl in the first place. If it seems we have little sympathy for him here, it's because WE HAVE NONE. We are here for you. So LISTEN UP! For the next 18 yrs, you cannot go pee, take a shower, run to the store, talk on the phone, or get something you left out in the car without thinking about where that baby is first. Your life, as you know it, is OVER. This does not necessarily mean ruined. BUT it is forever changed. HIS LIFE will go on, unless you act now. Reasonably, he should help you out. Go to mom, dad, whoever; confess, cry, allow the yelling, sit through more tears, and make a plan. Find your allies NOW. You will need support, and as you can see, we haven't much faith in daddy there, so do not waste time dreaming of white picket fences and happily ever after... Get a child support payment agreement on paper. If you were divorcing, the law goes for 1/3 of his income. getting an idea now of how much it will cost? And your standard of living will still not be good. Diapers and formula are EXPENSIVE. Tell him his best bet for staying out of jail is to work full time, keep up the child support payments, and visit occasionally. Your parents will see the practical and financial side of keeping you happy, and hopefully you two will grow up before the baby catches on to the whole situation {sooner than you think- 5 yrs?) Take care, kid, and please! don't marry him !

Well now that you have all this info I would just like to put this into perception(sp). You have about maybe 3 out of the 9 months to get a plan going. You both need to make sacrafices in order to be redy for the child, and start saving money big-time. That is, if you decide to go through w/this and have a child.

First, where are your parents in this situation? you are a minor and they have the last word in anything associated with you and your pregnancy. Statutory rape is definetely the charge for your boyfriend, consensual sex or not. You do not have a choice. the bottom line is your boyfriend will be arrested and your parents will make the future decisions for you. Like the saying goes "you make your bed and now its time to lay in it".

Rethink your stupid ass abortion belief.

Well how do you think your boyfriend will take it? Will he stay with you and raise the kid? And second question how will your parents take it. I never suggest lying so I would talk what ifs to your boyfriend, like what if i were to get pregnant what would you do. If he were to say he would leave you well you have to learn to except that because you can't reverse being pregnant. If he says he would stay with you and help you raise it, than break the news to him slowly. Try and talk things out on how you are going to have the child. Than after talking to your boyfriend I would tell your parents you are pregnant. They may be upset but lying to your parents will only make things worse! Depending on how your paretns take it you may be able to have the child and raise it with no issues. Think of it this way if you decide to have the child you dont have to tell the doctors who the father is, that is none of their buisness. Like i said i dont like to advise lying but when it comes to doctors, they dont need to know all details.

Condoms FTW

2 things: Have you been tested in a medical setting to confirm your pregnancy? It may sound silly of me to ask but sometimes people go only by home pregnancy tests and those should be followed up with a more formal test to confirm the results. The other thing -- in another question, you said you were 17.5 years old. I'm confused about that.

You do not say how close to 16 you are. If you are very close or will be sixteen before the birth of the baby ,and of course depending which country you are in . The statutory rape could be dispensed with >that would take one worry off your mind. Since you say DSS that sounds English and you are living in a foster home? You must have a Social worker, do you not have a worker that you can trust. if your boyfriend intends to stand by you and his child I am sure that they will be able to talk through the situation and sort out a lot of the problems that the two of you 3 of you will face . I am not condoning the fact that your boyfriend has been commiting a crime by having sexual relations with an underage girl . If he is going to behave like a man and accept this responsibility the child is already on the way and that is the most important thing, the best answer to an unpleasant situation must be found

You should know better to date someone that old,and he should know better to have unprotected sex with a minor.i would let my parents know the truth and go from there.

Hun the bottom line here is, you are a child he is a grown man. That is clearly statutory rape. He broke the law. With the unhappy home you have I assume he was all you could count on. However he should have never had sex with a girl your age. You can't rely on the fact he is going to stand by you, and maybe is just saying that because he did break a very BAD law. I respect your abortion beliefs however how can you raise a child at 14? What are you going to do when he bails, and he might? Where will you live, who will take care of the baby? I guess you may want to discuss this with planned parenthood, and get all options & make a decision from there. DONT protect him, protect yourself, because I can guarantee 5 years down the line, you are really going to regret this entire nightmare..

good luck to you... i hope you figure out what to do. i was pregnant at 17 and knew in my heart my only option was to keep the baby. im now 19 engaged to my bf, living in a nice condo with both of them. everything always works out someway or another. but you must learn from this no matter what your choice is. my boyfriend and i were VERY careful, we were one in .1% and got pregnant. i hope you have good taste in men, because even if he is supportive now, stats show, at your age and his age, most men split once they see how big of change in their life this is. like i said, good luck...

look sweetie...stat rape is the least of your worries...tell your parents first but i rather give u more detailed advice so EMAIL ME @ sweetpakashy@aol.com i have a sis who was in the same position i dont want to put ya biz out there so get at me sweetie k

look sweetie...stat rape is the least of your worries...tell your parents first but i rather give u more detailed advice so EMAIL ME @ sweetpakashy@aol.com i have a sis who was in the same position i dont want to put ya biz out there so get at me sweetie k

Have the pregnancy terminated. Your beliefs will ruin your life in this instance. And then dump the boyfriend.

dont tell them any thing they dont need to know. im bout to be 18 on the 9 of febuary and the only reason my 29 year old baby father isnt locked up is because of that. ok. so dont do it i've been in foster care all my life. literally. ok, so dont put that baby though that and dont do that to a father that wants to be there let him hepl set a trend.of being a good father. ok, you just play it smooth and dont tell them even if they ask you about him. tell them that you dont know who the father is. ok, if you ever need some support email me or send me a message on my myspace checkit_betch@hotmail.com or www.myspace.com/babydollkandy ok good luck !!! dont for get about me lol

Methinks your boyfriend who you 'luv' should have luvved you enough to put on a rubber or at least told you about contraception, then maybe you wouldn't have to think about things like this...?

He's fully willing to face jail time or else he wouldn't have slept with you. He knew that that would be a likely eventuality and accepted it obviously. You need to do right by your child. You're a mom now and that overrides all other relationships. You need to make sure that your child is cared for and if you're going to keep him that means you need child support. That baby deserves a bright future and it takes more then love to make that happen.

You stand up and except the result of your action.You boufriend knew it was wrong for him to even be with you and having unprotected sex was really taking a risk. Therefore both you all have take responsiblity. He might go to jail and he might not. But take responsiblity for your actions.